My crush lost interest in me and it hurts?

[Brendlolita2]

There was this guy whom I was interested with and he liked me too.

Recently a new girl came to our class and she is very smart and hard working. But she is also very competitive and I see that she doesn't like me because of her devaluating looks that she gives me or her competitive behavior towards me. Well, my crush started getting interested in her and fell for her. I see it by the way he looks at her (like he did at me before) or because he pays more attention to her now. I feel like it is because she is so smart and well-loved by our whole class.

I feel so devastated, everytime she looks at me, she gives me that "See? I won." look what makes me feel small, dumb, worthless and is nagging on my self esteem... I miss the old times, where it was just me and my crush... I'm also disappointed by him because I thought he really liked me. I feel like nothing that I do would make a difference because she is better than me at everything (my grades got worse) ...

[talloak]

One of the most important differences between you and her is not that she better at everything or better looking. The real difference is that she responded to his attention in a way that you did not. I don’t believe that she is better or prettier than you. If she were, she would not be so threatened by you. And it may not be shallowness on his part to pick her over you. It may be that he was less certain of your interest.

Don’t let the likes of her damage your self esteem. She is more insecure than you are since she feels so compelled to work that hard to get attention, not to mention her childish need to rub it in. Her looks deserve an eye roll or subtle shake of the head to remind her that you are above her juvenile level.

[maryyy_V]

Focus on yourself. Focus on your grades. You don’t need the attention or approval of others to grow. Move on because in the end it will benefit you the most.

[Anonymous]

Leave him