My really good guy friend hurt me?

[Anonymous]

Question for Guys!

He's young and we met when I was19 and he was 18. We were always just friends and never anything more, but we did do things. Part of the reason we never were together was because it was my frist crush. I was overly scared on telling him how I felt and also it was a bit complicted. I didn't want to lose him by telling him I was starting to have feelings. He showed he was interested in me a little in the beggening (least I thought he did). He'd leave me messages, always say hi first, ect. He even almost asked me out, but I gave him the wrong impression that we were only friends. I was scared. So naturally he found other girls, but him and I still seemed to say pretty close and we still talked with each other. But then with his last girlfriend he just disappeared. I accpected that but I just wanted a goodbye, because I thought he & I were a little more than that. It hurt me. We were finally able to talk again and I told him the truth about how I felt and that I was hurt. Not because I had hope on being with him, but because I needed to get it off my chest. After he stopped talking with me completely and ignored me. Did I make a mistake ? Is he upset with me ? Or did he just never really care at all ?

[kholland65]

You didn't make a mistake in talking to him to get it off your chest. Your mistake was thinking you could be best friends like this with a guy for a long period of time. Opposite gender, best friend like, relationships, rarely work or last, either because someone develops feelings which causes drama, or because eventually one of the persons gets a BF/GF and it just doesn't really work having essentially two best friends who are of the opposite gender. The other persons GF/BF will not be very happy if they are hanging out with you all the time and giving you a lot of attention.