Sometimes he is really affectionate and makes me feel really loved, but other times he is cold.
For instance, sometimes he will hardly text me for a few days and other times when we are together in person he will be reluctant to hold hands and be stand off-ish with me, like he has his guard up.
I have spoken to him about this and he sincerely apologised and seemed very sad that he had upset me. He seemed to really take on board what I said and improved for a while. He said that when he is distant towards me its not because of anything to do with me , its just that he has a lot on his mind at the moment (which to be fair, he does).
It is difficult because I do recognise that he is going through a very difficult time but at the same time for my own emotional well being its difficult dating someone who doesn’t meet my emotional needs.
I fear that if i bring it up again I’ll look needy or like im not being understanding to his personal circumstances.