Should I just move on from my crush who hasn't made a move in a year?

[Anonymous]

I got to know from mutual friends that he's interested in me and he left a confession for me on social media as well which one of my friends shared with me but he never asked me out directly. It's been a year since all this happened and he graduated (he was my senior) and left college so should I just forget about him and move on now? I haven't see him since then.

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I didn't think this was imp enough to mention in the details but I did see him 6 months ago only for like 10 sec maybe. I was in my department to pay my fee with my friends and I was in a hurry so I saw him coming in our department he was with a friend and I don't know what he was doing there (the college was closed due to Corona and he had already graduated long ago). We did have eye contact and he quickly looked away after a few seconds that's what he usually did before too.

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He was just hanging outside the department entrance then for no reason. But I had left. Anyways I know that would have been a great opportunity to talk to him but I guess I was just pissed off that he didn't make any direct move during those months. Also, I was naturally unsure if he felt the same way for me as before.

Anyways one of my friends knows him so she was like what is he doing here.

[Tyrael]

I just don't get it. He's your crush, so you like him. You then find out he likes you with almost 100% certainty, and you still didn't bother to ask him out or make it clear to him that you're interested? Instead you sit doing nothing for a year, and now he's moved on and you're wondering what happened. If you don't take risks you won't get rewards.

[Asker]

So should I do something now or not then?

[guyanswers321]

Your choice. I mean after all it is 2021 and it's okay now for the woman to make the first move. I can tell you from experience that guys are dumb and unless you stamp "I wanna smash" on your forehead we aren't gonna get the hint.

[Asker]

but isn't it too late now? like I'm kind of afraid to make a move

[shadyresidence]

If its been a year then yes. But it seems that you could've made a move when he first confessed.. so maybe your missed your time

[Espresso-Grande]

How did you respond at the time, when he left the message on social media?

[Asker]

I didn't do anything. I wasn't even the one who found it my friends did and they shared it with me.

[Espresso-Grande]

Shame you never let him know you saw it, and them let him know you like him too. Maybe he was hoping you'd send him a signal that you like him as well. He may have moved on since neither of you had the courage to let the other know you like each other.

You could always reach out to him; say hi and ask how he is. Just to see how the land lies

[Asker]

Should I ask my best friend to talk to him? They used to greet each other every day. I'm too nervous to initiate myself. I don't have his number and I guess my best friend would have to get it too from our mutual friend.

[Espresso-Grande]

Yes, if you would feel better asking your friend to talk to him, and get his number that way, then do whatever makes you more at ease.

If he has moved on, then at least you'll know and that will help you move on fully too. If you don't, you may regret not pursuing it.

[Asker]

I was thinking that maybe our mutual friend can tell me stuff about him. I mean I can ask her what he's been upto and if he's seeing someone or not? Then only I guess I should try talking to him?

[Asker]

Actually I didn't think this was important enough to mention in the details but I did see him 6 months ago only for like 10 seconds maybe. I was in my department to pay my fee with my friends and I was in a hurry so I saw him coming in our department he was with a friend and I don't know what he was doing there (the college was closed due to Corona and he had already graduated long ago). We did have eye contact and he quickly looked away after a few seconds that's what he usually did before too. Anyways I know that would have been a great opportunity to talk to him but I guess I was just frustrated and annoyed with him that he didn't make any direct move during these months.

[Espresso-Grande]

I'd do what you said. Ask your friend about him and try to teach out to him via your friend. He may be a little shy or not comfortable initiating contact. He may have looked away because he felt awkward and didn't know what to say

[Espresso-Grande]

Reach **out

Thanks for the MHO. Good luck 🌹

[Asker]

So you think he hasn't moved on?

[Asker]

He was always very shy around me and he couldn't even speak around me. My friends had even noticed several times that he wanted to approach me and talk to me but he just couldn't do it.

[askmeanything8383]

If you're really that into him don't be afraid to make the first move

[Asker]

after a year?

[askmeanything8383]

Yes you only live once. Go for it

[DavidFox]

Better question Is how many opportunities are you missing by having feelings for him?

[Anonymous]

You never responded to his confession so he moved on

[Anonymous]

Why can't the woman make a move for once? Sick and tired of it always been up to the guy

[Asker]

After a year?

[Danny_dan92]

In a year huh? Damn. You mad patient

[Asker]

Yeah and just too loyal with my feelings I guess.

[Rickinct7]

of course