Is dating someone with no social media a red flag?

[Novacane]

NO, if anything that will be a plus, I love when I hear people say that they don't get on social that much, and I applaud them. I agree the future is moving into digital but some people rely so much on social media that it can change their thoughts. Social Media has really been damaging our minds if you think about it.

[Dragonpurple]

Some people just like their privacy, saying its a red flag because they like their privacy isn't an issue.

[AmandaYVR]

This question is sort of comical because young girls think it's weird if a guy doesn't use a bunch of social media, and post stuff of himself.
Guys worry when a girl does the inverse of this, posting way too much content of herself.

[prettyfacegoodtaste]

I can see that you’re 19 and social media has been around all your life. Before the internet was a thing, people used to connect differently. This is why there’s so many people on your comments seeming appalled you would even ask such a thing.


As a millennial, I seen the best of both worlds. Social media will give you insight into their lives before you. Quite convenient, if you really think about it. But the internet is not really a necessary thing, as in- the population makes it important, but in reality, it isn't. There’s more tools than their social media profiles to get to know them, although at your age, it may not seem like it.


So if someone doesn’t have a social media account, they’re probably more woke than they are a serial killer. They’re probably more tired of the hype than they are trying to hide something... or they know the true worth of their data and refuses to give it up for free.


Communicate. Talk. Ask. Develop an understanding of who they are without the need to use social media. It’ll make you seem more.. mature.


People shouldn’t date unless they know how to use the right words to get the right answers..

[Kaneki05]

I mean People kinda subconsciously use social media as a way to fact-check for lies. So a person not having that social media makes the other person more uncomfortable because they cannot do that. So while a person not having social media isn't really a red flag it will sorta still feel like it to a person.

Also it could actually be just 100% a red flag, like what if the person don't have social media cause he want's to be less tractable after he's killed u lmao. Extreme and rare case but if there is still a 1% chance that's... still a chance.

[Anonymous]

No, just the opposite. I have no social media because I think it is a huge time waster, it contributes to all sorts of social and societal problems, it creates self esteem issues in children (especially girls) and even adults and it opens your life up to the entire world so your information can be stolen. Even your personal property can be stolen if you let the world know you are on vacation and your home is empty.

I think social media has had a particularly troubling affect on today's women and has contributed to the trend of women being shallow, materialistic and entitled.

[knottywriter]

No... I actually do not use a lot of personal social media. I only recently made a Facebook profile because I was forced to by a company in order to redeem a reward from my points. I have not used it for any other purpose or added anyone because I just think it has devolved our abilities to have real and genuine relationships.

[Anon621]

I personally deleted the majority of my social media as a teenager and it honestly has helped me to stay productive more often in terms of preventing potential distractions so instead I use games or I play a card game I came up with on my own time any time I get bored and I also have an over the door basketball hoop to help me do a productive hobby that doesn't require any electronics.

[Jaumet]

Seriously, has this world gone to shit this badly that you would need to as that question? Like, what the fuck is wrong with your dumb ass... like thinking people who never have an SMS account must be like "serial killers" or something... makes me wonder why you feel the need for others to have a freely available website... perhaps you are the social site serial killer that has been stalking these particular areas? I mean why else would you be upset that some people don't have sms accounts...

[Dazed0N0Confused]

I hate social media, in hardly ever on, then I get yelled at by family for not knowing things that were on FB like a funeral or a birthday party. I tell people to fuck off and personally tell me via call or text if it a actual important event.
It would be a major plus if my partner didn't have it.

[Kieronm]

Why would it be most studies I've heard of say they are negwfor your health: anxiety, depression, stress, eye strain, posture of neck and back.

I have a few apps of course but I usually use YouTube more than any other mainly for music and animal clips 😁.

[crazyish]

God no. The total opposite. The only social media I have is FB, unless this counts. But im new to it. I don't snapchat.. Instagram, or have Twitter. And the last time I posted anything on FB... well, will be a year next month. Lol. I chose to work on myself and not date. Issues and all that. Take it as a good thing. They are more intuned with themselves.

[shade_19]

Yes! Big big red flag
He could be a sociopath serial killer who isn't looking at social media to meet people and understand them but has his own rituals book having sacrifices, then dates people offline and then kills them
U r in danger ! Run for ur life
I too am not on social media like fb or insta nowadays
just here.. to meet people and find ideal victims for sacrifice
I'm updated😉the one u r dating has probably not

[David92506]

It depends on how you define social media.
Is going on this site considered "social media?"

[Espresso-Grande]

Only if you're looking for love online.

My husband doesn't use social media. I don't really. I have FB, but I rarely use it.

I would only have an issue regarding someone not using social media if I was looking for dates or a relationship with a total stranger online, because you can't look into their background as additional proof that they're legit or not. You can learn a lot about someone by their social media.

[MCheetah]

It's more like the opposite; social media is mostly a cancer on society. Mainly, Facebook, Twitter, and Reddit. I almost never use Facebook, I only sh*tpost on Reddit, and I never owned a Twitter account before.

[katiesmuff]

It shows good sense in my opinion! At 37 the only social media I ever had was that old MY SPACE site. Have never had a twitter, facebook etc account and never will. When I want to talk to someone I either call or text in some cases.

[Hannah_le]

Maybeee. Depends on the person but if you notice their love life has been odd and then they have jealousy problems then it’s definitely a red flag. They probably wouldn’t like you talking to the other gender and will be more controlling over you.

[jshm2]

Nope. Quite the opposite.

Someone with shit tons of social media, is either obsessive or too full of themselves.

[Angelo75]

On the contrary. You know that that person will spend more time with you than sitting staring at his/her phone all the time.

[Anonymous]

as strange as this may sound but back in the olden days you know 2000 and prior before you millennial shitbags and gen z 'ers came there was a time when the internet barely existed and social media was barely a thing with something called MySpace and prior to that no social media at all. *gasp* what a strange concept.. people actually used to verbalize to each other face to face *the hell you say* *i'm lying you say* nope it's all true people actually also used to pick up a phone and *get this another new concept for you millennials and gen z 'ers* actually talk on the phone (the hell you say or gasp not true) why yes it is all true people actually used to communicate face to face or over the phone for what it was originally meant to do talk. god help you millennial shitbags and you gen z 'ers if you were ever sent back 20-30 years in time prior to social media

[Alyssa11]

I don't care what anybody says, it is a red flag. What the hell is that person hiding!

[rjroy3]

Not a redflag. I understand someone who truly has no social media than someone who has and actively uses all of them. Like I have specific uses for the socials I use and don't seek to have and use everything.

[123lucy]

I didn't have any social media until quite recently

[casserolie]

most people just dont use social media for privacy reasons, i dont blame them either especially with the current instagram situation

[angelgirl7]

Not really. Back in the day, no one had social media. It's not for everyone... I sure wish I could break my social media habit.

[Rickinct7]

dating someone with too much social media is a red flag

[Floppy2112]

No, it's smart. Social Media is a cesspool. I don't know why anybody would be on it. I had twitter for a month. It was so dumb. It's like a factory for misery, everybody waiting to pounce on each other to tear each other down. Fuck that.

[Unit1]

The girls in my real world experience certainly do think so

[lilyanony1]

I had no social media, I want minimum social media and I aim to remain anonymous or delete it completely soon.
I'm fed up of it all tbh regurgitated crap.

[Bee-Hatch]

No its a positive. Means they're less likely to sit indoors and actually have a life.

[modelUN242]

Dating someone with social media is a red flag for me.

[iGodric]

I deleted and left that cesspit called social media and i am never going back.

Yours truly,
Red Flag

[Miristheiss]

It is a plus.
Social media wasn't even a thing until about 15 years or so ago?
What is the relationship plus of social media?
Is it a plus my wife isn't posting selfies all the time and alluring pictures of herself?
Sure is.

[Anonymous]

No, usually means they’re busy and are getting their life in order. I know of two people that don’t have social media and they’re both far in life at a young age. High education, high paying good jobs and already have investments, whether it be a company, luxury car or a home. If anything not having social media seems to make you more focused on real life.

[Avicenna]

No, I'd view that as a positive. It means she lives her life in the real world, not the social media world.

[Belgie]

No but if it concerns you it might be a clue that you think about social media too much.

[worldscolide]

LOL no. Only an idiot would see no social media presence as a bad thing.

[menina]

Not at all. They might not like social media, which is normal and totally fine.

[StacyMeet]

Nah, it's fine. I am actually quite jealous of people who don't have socials. They seem so free to me.

[Mr_longLegz]

Not really, I find people with no social media generally better off in the head. However thats not always true.

[bolverk]

It could be that the person does not have any social media that they are preserving their privacy and do not feel the need to splash their social life over the internet for all and sundry to see.

[Smoothing]

In what universe did social media become a determinant for dating?

[Mystery_World]

having social media is not a bad thing. bc these days you get most info from social media. but to me red flag is posting pics. why you post pics when no one really care about. you do expect attention when you post pics. that gives hell of stress.

[MillenniumBill]

Social media accounts are like the number of people someone has slept with. The more the worse.

[giasadie]

not at all. Dating someone with no social media means they are smart and have a life.

[LiveOutLoud]

nope. I actually have gone on dates with this one guy who didn't have any social media (facebook, instagram, snapchat) but then again he didn't even carry his phone with him when we would hang out... he was a bit old fashion

[Britishclassic]

I mean if they don't even have discord- then im worried 🤣

[guesswhoseback]

I respect people who limit their social media. I deeply regret overusing it in the past along with some of the stupid posts I put up.

Never post your personal (emotional) problems in public especially if you are a man. It’s anti dating.

[Quidthonian]

It is a green flag for me. I don't have that face thing, that instant bs... If she has gmail, then we are fine.
This means that she won't be constantly looking at her phone during our time together.
Where do I meet her?

[mazeltov]

I deleted my fb 5 years ago but keep the messengrr active. My life’s much better. I found peace.

[maryisbreathing]

Why would it be, I don't use instagram, facebook, twitter or tik tok because I don't care

[Nottoxic]

Social media can be depressing and can also take up a lot of time. I can fully understand why someone wouldn't want to have social media.

[Citizenkirk]

I've heard that dating someone with social media is.🤯

[Flower7]

No, I'd rather him not have social media at all than to be on it flirting with other women.

[Dinklex3]

No?
Lol.
I didn't have social media for the longest time and it didn't mean shit.

[Nmalinova]

Nope perfectly fine! I don't use any either 😂 wastes too much time in the day...

[Lone_wolf122]

Seeing the votes especially guys has restored my faith in humanity

[Finchie40]

I would say No flags , social media has damaged so many relationships

[Josh4206]

If anything its the opposite of a red flag, I'd much rather date someone who had no social media or only 1

[_no_one_]

I'd like to date an online ghost and be one myself someday

[Therisinghero12]

It would be pretty hypocritical if I said that it was, considering I only really use it to message friends and family occasionally