I am the girl in this situation. Guy is turning 18 in two days. I’ve known him for years, however recently we’ve been spending more time together and I guess I’m just now acknowledging how he’s grown now. He’s so mature, handsome, sweet, intelligent, warm-hearted and he makes me laugh, which of course he’s done for years. I’ve unfortunately developed feelings. To my knowledge, he has too.
I feel bad about all of this. What I fear is the judgement of the age gap, even though he’s going to be 18. Not only that, he’s only graduating this year. He hasn’t even had the opportunity to establish himself yet, and I would feel so bad to take that away from him. Not to mention, he hasn’t even had a girlfriend. I would hate to feel like I’m taking advantage of him, which of course I would never even do that in the first place. It’s just that when someone younger dates someone older, they’re influenced by them and what they do. And that wouldn’t be fair. Am I terrible for wanting to pursue this? And for having feelings for someone younger than me? I haven’t pursued this and I don’t know if I will. I feel sad because I know he feels the same way, but I also feel like a bad person.
I feel bad about all of this. What I fear is the judgement of the age gap, even though he’s going to be 18. Not only that, he’s only graduating this year. He hasn’t even had the opportunity to establish himself yet, and I would feel so bad to take that away from him. Not to mention, he hasn’t even had a girlfriend. I would hate to feel like I’m taking advantage of him, which of course I would never even do that in the first place. It’s just that when someone younger dates someone older, they’re influenced by them and what they do. And that wouldn’t be fair. Am I terrible for wanting to pursue this? And for having feelings for someone younger than me? I haven’t pursued this and I don’t know if I will. I feel sad because I know he feels the same way, but I also feel like a bad person.
