Men, what do you think of the *I don't need a man* women?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Most women who have told me that they don't need a man have, within 5 minutes of uttering those words, asked me for something or wanted me to do something for them.

I've known plenty of genuinely strong and independent women in my life. My aunt, who ran a trucking company for 40 years, in charge of 30-40 rough men, for example. Or a boss I had when I worked in IT for an international bank. None of those women ever referred to themselves as "strong and independent" because it was unnecessary - it was obvious to anyone after 5 minutes. But neither did any of them ever act dismissive of men, despite their positions of authority over them. I'm pretty sure they were all in relationships with men, but no one ever called them weak because of it.

When I hear women say those words, I know she's really trying to convince herself by saying that out loud, and that it probably won't take long for her actions to prove the statement a lie.

misanthropistkev · Accepted Answer

I think who hurt them so bad that they think they don’t need their counterpart I’ve accepted that men and women need each other even if we think we don’t we do anyone who thinks otherwise should stop lying to themselves

jennifer_bloom · Answer

My theory is the men confuse need with loyalty and assume a woman who does not need him will not be loyal to him when in reality, it’s the woman who need a guy that are less likely to be loyal to him if he loses his job or his intelligence or health, since these woman are not independent enough to look after somebody else when it is not equally returned by the same measure of good use.

ManOnFire · Answer

It's an unnecessary and unappealing show of bravada or independence. I'm not impressed by that.

btbc92 · Answer

Many will say turn-off, let's just understand that. Most of those women don't because many men don't do what they got to do and shame and mock them, but abuse the ones who do. The truth is we all need in each other. But many don't need a man to be happy, and nowadays that can mean a lot of things. I just think everybody is not respecting what a woman means. It is all based on her attitude and intent. Nobody knows why she doesn't, but they shame her for not. I have friends who need a man, but they consistently get hurt, used, and abused. They don't feel good enough.

So it's best to be careful when generalizing men and women in this area. There are men who understand why a woman don't. And there are men who are mad they can't use a woman that have 0 to do with that guy. There are women who don't need a man because they were taught and raised to be independent for good reasons. Those women who were used abused also and are FORCED to be that and now don't need one to protect themselves from that AGAIN. Those you just have independence naturally and really don't need a man. They are not disrespectful. They're just stating that they don't, the insecure men are the ones who get mad. Then you have those who don't, and want and is unstable. And others who don't and really hate men, period.

So again, It really matters of intent and what meaning are you saying?

Mikelay33 · Answer

Most of the times what women say, deep inside it has a different true meaning but they are afraid to tell it out loud because of jealousy or other sorts. For example when a woman sees another woman who is more attractive and becomes jealous, she might say that she is a slut. Or when girls are jealous because boys are stronger than girls, girls would tell things like "o you know what, you boys are stupid brutes", or other things like "toxic masculinity". So they interpret 'being stronger' as being 'bad' just to feel good about themselves.

This one also has true meanings:
It can mean:
- " Omg boyfriend cheated on me. "
- Or because of the fact that men are known to be the more independent sex when it comes to genders and generations by generations we know that women always relied on men more than other way round. So because of knowing this, women become jealous hence why lot of women nowadays are trying to become 'like men'. And that's why feminists get obsessed with words like 'independent', 'strong', 'performant', etc. Because these attributes are what men Excell better at than women.

zeitgeist057 · Answer

I find it unattractive "turn off" if someone isn't interested in me. Pursuing someone who is uninterested in me seems pretty creepy. That's the kind of attitude that leads to stalking, rape, coercion, etcetera. That's the attitude that says, "what you want doesn't matter, what I want is the only thing that matters."

If a woman is just pretending to be uninterested, that's also a turn off because it means she's being manipulative and playing games. I enjoy playing games, it can be a lot of fun, but I don't enjoy games which are manipulative and designed to trap or deceive.

Miristheiss · Answer

It is unattractive. It wreaks of pride and ego and of hostile intent.

I don't need a woman. I can live a full life, do lots of things, support myself and have times with my friends... but I want a woman. I want a woman in my life, I want companionship and a life partner. I couldn't have the child we have without her and I need her to help raise the baby.

Life is better with her in my life and we help each other and balance each other.

Those that spout that off... they seem to have dark, cold and black hearts so it is definitely a turn off. They seem to hate and want to rebel against the natural order of life... men and women want each other... they have relationships, raise families together... grow old together. They seem to want to rebel against nature's natural way.

TonyV · Answer

They annoy the hell out of me and I would never date a girl that says that shit.

Sounds like they would have commitment issues and never value the relationship fully cause "she dont need me".

Just to prideful and full of them selves to ever admit they need help, we all need help sometimes, nothing wrong with it, so women who so aregently claim "they dont need a man" really rub me the wrong way.

Good thing they dont need a man, cause they will never get one with that attitude

razelove · Answer

Why would it matter if she turns me on or turns me off? She doesn't need a man, so let her just go to a sperm bank when she wants to have babies, toxic masculinity or whatever.

Do you notice that there aren't very many of those women in their 30's? Such a peculiar phenomenon that strikes only very young women until they might actually want a family, or have been a single mother for a while and think hmm, maybe this isn't ideal, but that's already reality.

There's a group of "I don't need a woman" men, I believe they're called homosexuals.

Anywho, I find it both ridiculous and very funny. If you want to sabotage yourself for the sake of some more FB likes or whatever, by all means, it's a very classy act. Not one that turns me on though, why chase after someone who will never hold me in any high regard? Fuck that.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Self-reliance is good. As is having your own interests and desires. The kind of person who has a life that's satisfying on its own is the kind of person who makes the best partner, I imagine.

Unfortunately, most of the "I don't need a man" types aren't in that position. They may want a man for sex, or for money, or for companionship, but they can't admit their own limitations and desires, and often act like even conversing with you is a great and generous indulgence on their part, for which they expect to be richly rewarded. These are the kind of people who are best avoided.

modelUN242 · Answer

If she doesn't need a man, why is she trying to attract them and use them? 😂 These women are "independent" but rely on their sexuality to get men's money as their income. Wow, strong woman there.

Floppy2112 · Answer

They don't need a man, they don't want a man, they can go on with themselves, by themselves. These women wonder why they cannot keep a man, geez. Imagine women, being with a man who always criticizes and rants on women all the time, sound fun? Neither is it fun for the man.
I saw a woman on a program brag about how manly she is and how much she hates men and then wonders why men, worth their salt won't even look at her. It did not help her case that she sounded like a man too. She was 'ok' attractive, but OMG bitchy. It's you attitude bitch!
She's threatening to not date anymore, to the welcome relief of the men in the room.

rjroy3 · Answer

Never met one that meant it both in the way they lead their lives along side saying the words. I know girls who say "I don't need a man..." for xyz but "it would be nice if.." aka they want a man and have that emotional need.

They just don't want to equate emotional need to NEEDING a man to get by in life as far as survival in the modern world. Girls don't want to feel weak and many do things to PROVE they don't NEED a man.

Silly. It'd be like a guy sucking his own dick to prove to women he doesn't need them.

AdithyaR · Answer

I believe there's two types
The I don't need a man type woman who understands that she's her own oerson and doesn't need to be referred with relation to a man to be valued. She doesn't hate men and will most likely have healthy relationships with good men, be it friends, family or romantic partners. This is a confident and strong woman who knows her talents and value. Definitely turn on.

The second type is just a bitter person, basically a female incel who chooses to hate an entire half of the population due to generalization. I have no thoughts about them.

TruthBringer · Answer

These are often the same women who say they don't need a man, but still crave to be with one and envy women who are in relationships with quality men. These are often the same ones who end up as single mothers, or perhaps ARE single mothers and struggle with finances and stress so they try to score themselves a man who could be a provider for her and her kids.

They boast about not needing a man, but are the very ones who cry the most about being single.

JSmuve · Answer

They're annoying and are trying to deflect from the fact that they likely don't get any attention from men at all, so they go on the offensive and preemptively say that they don't need them. That being said, self-sufficiency is attractive because it shows that she doesn't need a man in order for her to function in life, which means he can trust her to get things done when needed. Who wants to be with a woman who can't take care of herself? However, arrogantly proclaiming that she doesn't need a man is not attractive and papers over the fact that she's insecure and probably doesn't get the attention from men that she wants. If she truly doesn't need a man, she doesn't need to say it.

AndriaAlex · Answer

not that it matters that im trans. But hell no to women that don't need a man. The category of call girls pretending not to prostitute. Want and need? I dont need a woman although I'm sexually attracted to women. I could be a billionaire and never come close to wanting the woman in that photo. Not even for a one night stand!!. Its like puting lipstick on a pig waking up the next day realizing in fear she's off her medication. Gold digging narcissistic medication. Lol. Kind of the two and a half men episodes of rose with charley harper.

IronLady6354 · Answer

I think a lot of those women are either
1) Lesbian (in which case they just need a woman)
2) Had a really bad experience with a man and don't want to keep it going "
3) Are frustrated with dating and actually do want a man but just don't like the feeling of getting turned down
If it's either #2 or #3 95% these women come right back around to wanting to be with a guy at some point. However, if it's #2 and they've had super bad experiences with men (not just they had a thoughtless crappy boyfriend. More so that they've been repeatedly abused by men in the past) they may not come back around to wanting a guy. However, if that's not the case they usually end up doing so.

AlexanderAnttila · Answer

It's silly, childish and only chanted by insecure women. The truth is we both need each other, man and woman are created for each other. Not everyone are meant to be married that is true, but even in those cases it isn't true that we don't need each other at all. We're social beings.

awebee · Answer

It's true... in all honesty... but a rather hasty and some what an overly emotional charged statement... that for obvious reasons are completely valid... repeat the statement over and over as nesesary.. to movitvate your ambitions and put the words into practice.. and away you go.. simple... facts are facts.. its best , we men accept , that... food.. water.. oxygen sun light... actually meet the..."needs list" quite sufficienty.. on the their own.. not being on your needs list.. is a fucking excellent idea...

Apple1996 · Answer

Those type of women are ridiculous. They try acting overly independent and that is just not attractive. It's probably a total total turn off for guys when trying to get into a relationship since most normal people want someone to be there to lean on and that person lean on them too. Having that person there to lean on in times of need is very important. I hope these women realize that nobody can be completely independent. We all need somebody there for us sometimes.

Kieronm · Answer

The women / girls I've met like that are rude, dismissive, opinionated and want their own way, constantly talking down to Men and blaming us for everything that is wrong with the world today.

Independence yes, sexism NO. Talk of past injustice of women not getting a vote yes, trying to flip the situation and act as sexiest to men as the men of the past did to them NO.

JDavid25 · Answer

That's a lie and a terrible way to have an outlook on things cause men and women need each other.. That's how we survived this long.. Plus, in different ways even independent women needs a man in some way.. Like moving heavy furniture for example. A lot of these women are probably the types who secretly desire being dominated by a man.. LOL.. Not all but a lot..

Realistic07 · Answer

I don’t have an opinion one way or the other. To me she’s simply a human being that I may or may not know. If she says she doesn’t need a man then that’s her own life and choices, and that should be respected. If for whatever reason she does then that’s what it is as well. It’s not really my place to put opinion in to other peoples lives. Particularly when those opinions are not warranted, nor wanted.

Anonymous · Answer

well technically nobody should "need" somebody else. it is that we WANT and sometimes when people are tired to trying without achieving it they simply decide it's not so much worth it so then they say these type of things that they don't "need" when they never really needed to begin with but felt they did because they WANTED and probably still do WANT but just gets tiring and discouraging when you try and try and nothing gives.
I do not think these words are turn ons or turn offs, that's just stupid to me. I see it as people trying to be strong and accept that they don't need what they can't have or just too tired to keep trying and trying to boast. it's like whatever to me but I see it as giving up.

one should always keep trying no matter how many times you fail. If you want something go for it! don't let yourself feel tired and discouraged just because it's hard work to get there.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Yeah ok. She doesn't need a man but she needs child support. She doesn't need a man but she needs alimony. She doesn't need a man but she "can support herself" when she's in front of the divorce court. She doesn't need a man but she needs special laws that elevate her vagina while turning men into second class citizens. She doesn't need a man but she needs half my shit if she got bored with me. She doesn't need a man but I am not a real man if I dont commit and instead just fuck and dump. She doesn't need a man but she needs thousands of men throwing money at her on only fans.

Grond21 · Answer

I have zero interest in wasting any of my time with them. And if they say they don't need any man, that's fine with me. I'll find a woman that values men and she and I will get married and have kids. The other one will become a bitter old lady with lots of cats

VanillaSalt · Answer

Foolish. We’re social creatures. I can easily live 90 years alone but what do I have to show? Money? Success? These things mean nothing without someone to share them with. It’s just a shame the women that think this are worth sharing it with.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

A challenge. I love independence, confidence, fiery, feisty and a devil may care attitude.  Sort of a track record there. red hair though..

dovido · Answer

No one NEEDS no one, in my opinion. People come into ur life to share something with u. Rejecting people bc u can’t trust them shows your scars. needing someone is also not good it shows low self esteem.

being open to people... now that’s what’s up and that’s a turn on!

hahahmm · Answer

That mindset is similar to someone in a rich country thinking food isn't a big deal. But when these women get to 30+ at some point they realize their whole approach to life was wrong in most cases.

cth96190 · Answer

I say give such women what they say that they want: no man.
Such women are Feminists, which means that they are toxic and utterly unsuited for any form of heterosexual interaction.
Men should tattoo such women with a biohazard symbol, so that all men will know to avoid those women for the rest of their lives.
Given them boxed wine, cats and childless wombs.

Hotshowers · Answer

Just because a woman works to provide for her family doesn’t mean she thinks men are useless. I think it’s great someone can take care of themselves. I mean if you can’t do that, then you can’t take care of anyone else. I don’t like mean spirited women. But I don’t think there is anything wrong with looking out for herself.

cheapshotbob · Answer

Men, what do you think of the *I don't need a man* women?

i think its pretty cool it just means i get a chance to show them what a real guy is like
compared to the weak knee pretty boys who trash them after a 1 night stand.
if she still feels the same its her loss and my chance to say i broke up with a girl who is more shallow than a creek bed HA

MCheetah · Answer

Good for her. Hopefully she doesn't say sh*t when she's 43 like Hollywood millionaire Charlize Theron and countless others. If that's not the case and she's happy in her 40s being single (and sexless), then again, good for her.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/charlize-theron-single-shockingly_n_5ca61ad7e4b0409b0ec506e3

motownplayer2000 · Answer

I’m happy for them, they have no excuse to be lazy. They have to work and do what they can to take care of themselves! I personally don’t care for them because I’m a man, if I’m not needed, then I’m automatically going to be used by them. That is the go too, so as far as that is concerned, I don’t really care to get to know them past that. And if they get past that, they will never get out the friend zone.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

you don't need a man, then I don't need you. I'm not going to be treated as decoration or as something readily replaced, especially not from some one who is going to demand a lot more from me then I will of them (as is the nature of relationships).

JackSmy · Answer

Usually the ones that I want, as my friends!! She knows what she wants, and she is confident, and won't let stereotypes hold her back!!
Strong, confident women are AMAZING!! How do we encourage more, young girls, to find THAT CONFIDENCE?

kkirk4442 · Answer

It's neither a turn on, or a turn off. It's just a way of wanting to live their life. Any woman, or any man, can just decide not to have romantic relationships. A person doesn't have to have romantic relationships to be happy or fulfilled in their life.

iLoveJuice · Answer

The butthurt responses are laughable 😂 Just because we don’t NEED a man doesn’t mean we don’t WANT one. I’m literally confused as to why a man would be mad because we’re not stupid & we can pay our own bills.

ronaldo75 · Answer

Most women who think like this a constantly dating, all up in male spaces, constantly talking about sex/dating/relationships and can't go two seconds without being validated. I don't date broken women. I'll have sex with them, yes - but will NOT date.

Unstoppable20 · Answer

Nobody needs someone. I don't need a woman. I can take care of myself. A woman doesn't need a man. She is capable of taking care of herself. I would like to have a woman to spend the rest or my life with, but I am happy and I feel like I don't need a woman.

karangill · Answer

Well, let those women go beyond 40, "they don't need a man" is gonna turn to "I hate men and they are oppressing women". Because no man is gonna want them but there are some low character men who would want any women for anything and will sell their should and character for nothing.

HiveBee · Answer

Good. Maybe she has grown up past that BS conservative view that men should provide for women. We don't live in the jungle anymore.

Relationships should be equal now. I'd rather have a woman who wants an equal relationship than some weirdo who wants me to dominate her and make her scrub the floors but I gotta pay for everything. What a strange fucking set up.

slatyb · Answer

Need, or want? A woman that doesn’t need a man but still Chooses to spend time with me is paying me a great compliment. She could manage alone, or be with someone, but she chooses to have me in her life. What could be better?

SlightlyEccentric · Answer

"I am a strong, independent woman who don't need no man" is a favorite quote by misandric women who secretly long to have a dominant male figure in their life but are usually too much of a bitch to even get average men to talk to them.

Anonymous · Answer

After being with few "man" and broke me and fucked me up good
There was a new one. He first start off texting slowly and texting me everyday and sometime tonight and I had this feeling that he was going to keep doing that so I still texting him no thanks I'm not into a relationship after that I never heard from him again ahh. Was so nice
I don't need a "man" although it easier , little bit, cheaper my body is worn out from abuse, sex. Now I am sooo afraid of a banana in me I cringe when I see a attractive guy.

Anonymous · Answer

A healthy relationship is based on meeting each others needs. That's why we get into relationships in the first place, and a woman wouldn't seek a relationship with a man otherwise.

Here's the bottom line. When a woman says she doesn't need a man, she is just making a statement. It's a reflection of her mindset and her attitudes toward men, and it's not a pretty picture. I find women like that very distasteful and there is no place in my life for them.

Anonymous · Answer

Hard turn off.

It’s an excellent attitude to have if you want to drive people away. It reflects an element of toxicity to their personality. Just obnoxious.

Ironically, they do seem to need men. I’m sure we’ve all noticed that it seems oddly *very* important to them to tell men how much she doesn’t need men.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Obviously, she does not need/want me. So why would I waste thoughts on her?
However: if the picture sample is a typical example of such women, then I observe that they walk and dress funny.
No loss to me :D

Kas19 · Answer

I need my boyfriend. He's my best friend. But I don't rely on him to solve my problems. We just make a good team.

Anonymous · Answer

It really depends on the attitude. Being confident is good, being independent is great, and the statement is true, but if the attitude is "I'm better than everyone", not good. Like women with guys, confidence is good, arrogance isn't.

Not_Average · Answer

They’re invisible to me. They can do whatever they choose.

K-I-S-S · Answer

Yes, women don't need men.  Guys don't need women too. But we still want each other, for some reason.

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't need to be "needed", I'm not a tool, so it's fine by me... lol.

John_Doesnt · Answer

Typical rebound chick. They were dumped hard and now pretend they don't need a man anymore.  How are they any different from the sad MGTOW who say they don't need women?

tartaarsaus · Answer

I don’t know? Don’t care I guess. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to strive for not needing someone else. Could be that she doesn’t need a man but wants one 🤷🏽

Tonita91996 · Answer

The men who say that it is a turn off is just mad because they know they can't get any sex from her.

Liamj132111 · Answer

The fact that women who don’t need men is a turn on for women 😂 not surprising wlw vibin

ryckrohan · Answer

Why bother with them when they don't need a man? Respect their space.

Dontaaa · Answer

I tend to think that there's a fair chance that they're a misandrist.

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