Girls, about meeting a stranger in his house?

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I met someone, we saw each other one time a couple of days ago for a coffee, but he is so interested with me and invites me for this weekend, to spend the whole weekend with him in his house.. He wants me to be like his girlfriend for the weekend, hehe. He likes that I love dressing up as a girl and he wants to buy me clothes, panties and many other things.. I have desire to go, but in the same time I am afraid and worried. He is 41, which is now 12 years older than me (because two days ago was my b-day). I am sure if I go, that there will be sex and more sex, also I will be on his teritory and maybe thats why I am worried.. So my question is do you think is too soon, I dont know him well honestly, maybe thats why I am afraid, but in the same time I would love to spend the whole weekend like a girl and be with a man... So, any advice?

crazyish · Accepted Answer

You met him for coffee already? How did he seem? The biggest question was what was your gut telling you? People tend to miss when their intuition is trying to tell them something. So if you felt anxious or second guessed anything as a red flag then maybe do another sit down date to feel it out again before. If you didn't get any bad vibes or doubts about him then I say take the chance girl! Life will sometimes bring you the best surprises when you take risks! Its called living and experiencing new things. Being cautious is natural but don't let it hold you back. There are still good people in this world!! I would suggest just telling someone where you'll be and with whom just as a precaution. Don't base choices off of fear. Trust me I understand the whole, it could be dangerous aspect. But in my experiences, it's usually the ones you already know, who are the most dangerous. Trust your instincts hun. Be smart. Have precautions. I carry a blade in my purse, overnight bag, glove box and I even have an open blade in side of my car door at all times. You take chances with strangers going to the store everyday. If you lived scared of others then you will be a shut in and not get to experience life! Just my opinion. Have fun and be vigilant 😉 Good for you!! I'm excited for you!!!

meetkitty123 · Accepted Answer

I don't know this sounds like a terrible idea to me not because of the man's age doesn't matter but because you've only met this person once before. I think you are rushing things. True you have the physique of a guy so you are capable of fighting off an attack if it turns badly but what if there's more than one person? You need to be careful the reality of it is that there are some predators out there who seek to harm homosexuals or bisexuals. We can't say for sure whether this person has good intentions or bad because just like you none of us know him.
If you truly do decide to go make certain that someone you trust knows the exact address of where you're going to be! Perhaps take a prepaid phone with you and hide your real phone somewhere on vibrate with the GPS/location tracker on. Bring pepper spray and a swiss army knife. And incase things do go well Don't forget to use protection and lube. A female condom is best for anal sex. You don't need to ruin the rest of your life for just one weekend with a complete stranger.
And quite preferably change the location don't go to his home go to public place such as a hotel or an Inn. Being in a public location is safer. There is no reason for you to go to a stranger's home by yourself.

AmandaYVR · Answer

I don't know why being his girlfriend is a phrase being brought into this... but ok. Maybe that's a gay thing or something.

I mean, you are a guy and you're not as vulnerable physically as women are, but it still does have some risk, this idea.

Do you feel this confident that you two will hit it off, and there won't be too much awkwardness? Most people don't jump right in to a whole weekend or going away together. Why don't you just say to him, "Thank you so much for the invite. I'd love to come over, but let's take this a bit slower and see where things go. I'll bring an overnight bag, but I'm not ready to commit to anything just yet. Let's just get to know each other a little better, and go from there."

I have no idea whether a guy going over to another guy's place is dangerous at all. Can't advise you there.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

My advice, take some pepper spray & a protection tool with you, if you really want to go & are nervous. I always have pepper spray & a knife on me. You can also always decline & ask to meet in a public space first.

What my girlfriends & I do is we text a picture of our date, the location we are meeting, a picture of the location when we arrive, an emoji code system, & a time to text the next day to make sure we are okay in case the emoji system only works until my phone is out of reach. Our system is:
🙂 - going good, no worries
😘 - feeling a little weird
😘😘 - call me
😘😘😘 - get me out of here
😘😘😘😘 - call 911/get your ass over here, this isn't safe & I need backup.

If he suggests going elsewhere, make sure your friends know as well. This is for your safety. Does it seem a little crazy? Probably, but better safe than sorry.

Best of luck to you sweetie!

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

Yeah, it’s WAY too soon! If you enjoy being like a girl, the listen to a girl! This is crazy! There is NO WAY that I would spend the evening (let alone the entire weekend) with a guy I just met, in HIS house! Violence against trans women and cross dressers is at a record high! What happens if he feels guilty and maybe even ashamed, after he cums, and decides that it’s YOUR fault and beats the crap out of you, or kills you? Would anyone even know where you were? This is truly a bad idea! Maybe if he texted you a pic of his driver’s license, so you could give it to a friend so he or she knows the address of where you will be, and the name of the person you will be with? But even then, I don’t know of any girl who would do this, so maybe you should act like a girl, and worry about your safety a bit more? Please just care about yourself enough to not run off someone who clearly just wants sex, and is basically buying it! Just think about it!

WarningWarning · Answer

You will have a car right?
Are you an impulsive person? Boy i am. When i was your age, if i thought the guy was attractive, hell yea. But that was a different time period too. Putting safety aside, we all know the dangers, if you want to leave, and you have a car, he has to shower at some point, sneak out. And in all seriousness, you could be hurt at that point.

But but... lets look at this. He is in his early 40s, my soon to be ex age, damn hot, charming to other women, smart, i think youd have fun with him for a weekend. He just isn't good marraige material. He loves too many women. There isn't a lot we can do these days. So a staycation is a big deal right now. Everybody is doing it.

So. Ask they guy if you can go over for dinner before, just for dinner, get a feel for the guy. Remember, if they offer once, they will offer again. Go with your gut.

loves2learn · Answer

I think it’s ok to accept it. Sounds like something you would really enjoy. PLEASE have a trusted friend or family to call when you get there and check in throughout the weekend. Give them your GPS coordinates.

ConfusedGal87 · Answer

I would not go. Especially if it's for a whole weekend and you only meet once. That sounds really unsafe, especially if his communication with you is already really sexual. I'd be worried about assault and/or contracting an STD. If he moves this quick with you?

yolo18 · Answer

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menina · Answer

There's no need of saying that you're going to be his girlfriend, you might be gay, but you're still a man.
If you don't feel comfortable with spending the whole weekend with him, then don't go. Meet him in a public place first, see how it goes and if you feel comfortable then spend the whole weekend with him.
Good luck with whatever you decide! 👍😉

Thedivinechic · Answer

I'd say be careful. I remember I was on a date with a guy once and he was so nice and sweet. He literally treated me like I wanted to be treated. He even said he was ok with the fact I read tarot cards. When we pulled up to his house, he got weird and scary. Pulled out a gun from his neighbor's place. I ran. The guy hated tarot card readers. Don't trust that soon. Could be a crazy religious freak that hates men in underwear. Please be careful. ❤❤❤

pleasestopthis · Answer

I don't think it's safe to go to the house of a dude you barely know... if you're going anyways make sure you use condoms, you don't know for sure if the guy has some STI, and let your friends know where you're going. It is always better to have someone know where you are in case you need help or something.

Tiffanyloves2swallow · Answer

Well in my opinion it is to soon u don't know what ur walking into, need to get to know him first before going and spending a weekend that might be amazing cuz someone wants to spend there money on I like that but u don't know who he really is and it could go 2 ways it could be awesome and u might have the best time of ur life or it could go bad the guy might not be who u thought he was so be careful of u end up going through this

prettyfacegoodtaste · Answer

Too soon. May never take you serious afterwards. Sounds like someone with commitment issues-“girlfriend for the weekend”. Guys have a way of making you feel amazing until they get it in.  No.

Destiel_24 · Answer

I personally would go to someone house unless you know him well, you barely know him. But if you decide to go just tell someone where you will be and his name

Anonymous · Answer

You are right sis , if you are afraid then don't go 12 year is a bit old (personal opinion) so focus on yourself if you really want to hang out then don't make it to his home as you are afraid be safe sis or distract yourself from their if you are top confused hope it hepld

Blondeandfree · Answer

Absolutely not. You better take care of yourself and be cautious

Anonymous · Answer

I mean it depends on where you’re from, if someone from my country asked me that it would say hell no bc the majority of people here have bad intentions when it comes to these things. Maybe get to know him more first if you’re uncomfortable

Katie1964 · Answer

Well I guess you could always leave if you didn't like the way things were going, right?

Boodica · Answer

Nope. Public only for weeks. Be logical. It is too soon. But not for a one night stand.

Anonymous · Answer

I would have prefered to meet out at least once before deciding on spending the entire weekend together. But if you go tell people where you are and be safe.

lillianaustin · Answer

yeah, i'd say it's too soon, yo should wait until you get to know him better

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, meeting strangers should always be done in a public place.

Anonymous · Answer

I think you should accept it. He is evident that both a bonus and a mature man.

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