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Being a former nice guy, I can confirm this. It happens because girls tend to want a thrill, to be excited by the guy they are with. Nice guy's tend to be boring, safe, and predictable. Until the woman gets it out of her system and wants something realistic, it ain't gonna happen... Also, the jerk/bad boy has that element of mystery/danger/thrill so it's more attractive at the time, and the woman thinks she can change him (she can't, history has proven that, and no one changes unless they themselves want to...) or "tame" him. I blame romance novels and movies and such, they give an unrealistic portrayal of romance and love and teach the wrong expectations and standards. The phrase, "Nice guys finish last," comes to mind. The phrase has multiple meanings... If you want the girl, you got to have a dark side to some extent or some kind of mystery or thrill to ya. Most women say that they want a nice guy, but what they mean is that they want someone who can be dark/mysterious/dangerous with her, but safe/stable as far as society is concerned and treats her like a princess/queen/goddess...
Yes , I speak from experience and the only reason I claim to be a nice guy is cause Girls rejected me for being a nice guy. So not self proclaiming.
It is like this for me when I meet a New girl I instantly know if I wanna give it a shot. So I try to get to know her better and flirt with her while simultanuosly creating a bond and then when think she is a genuine nice girl I ask her on a date. Mostly I then get the answer we are too good of friends to be risking it with dating or the nice guy line or even worse the brother line.
Then the 3 times it did work cause I got cheated on, replaced and ghosted.
The first cheated on me with a guy that stalked her an asshole
The 2nd replaced me with a dude when I was Just accepting to meet one of her friends cause why not he was a douche and had all her attention when she was my girlfriend we broke up that night
And the 3rd kept kissing me the whole night Just to never talk to me again starting the next day all her attention went to her guy best friend from then she didn't even want to date.
So yeah it is like this.Just from the messages I've seen on here women really seem to be attracted to jerks.
I see numerous posts about girls taking about their cheating partner. Others voice concerns and doubts about what the guy truly means when it's obvious there is no hidden meaning.
Then there are the posts that ask of they should stay with a guy who is clearly abusive or a degenerate. Posts like "my boyfriend is going to jail should i wait?" or my boyfriend beats me should I call the cops?"Self proclaimed nice guys aren’t actually nice guys. They’re the dudes who feel entitled to a woman just because they give her some compliments. Plus, they shower girls with compliments not to genuinely compliment, but for something back. Not very nice guy of them, is it?
Yes and no. there's a huge difference between a good man and a nice guy. Most of these self proclaimed "nice guys" tend to be boring, not confident, unattractive, and not that nice to beginning with. They think they are entitled to a relationship or sex with a girl just because he's nice to her. Real nice guys don't expect anything in return. Girls most of the time can see right through that, and can spot the difference between a genuinely good man and a nice guy. Most girls like these "jerks" because they tend to be handsome, confident, and who knows maybe some of those guys are actually good men. I know this is just on tv but there's been plenty of instances where the nice guy got the girl he wanted like Ross Geller got Rachel, Dan Humphrey got Serena, and Cory got Topanga. Who knows if this happens in real life or not but maybe it did.
Yes. There's a big difference between 'nice', and 'kind'. Girls see right through NICE - they know you just want in their panties.
No, women want to be entertained, humored, and their brains fucked out. If you're weak and nice it's a giant turn off.
You need some game. And you need a man-makeover. And NEVER put a woman on a pedestal. EVER. They will instantly lose respect for you. Women absolutely loathe weak men.
Start here, read at least the first two years' blogs by Rollo: www.therationalmale.com
And then go here for your man-makeover: www.theartofmanliness.com
And never forget, YOU ARE THE PRIZE! So start acting like it.Niceness comes off as unconfident and wimpy. Being a jerk isn't always attractive to women, but confidence is more attractive to them than being a jerk is unattractive. In other words, being nice/mean is 100% irrelevant to women. Confidence is what matters above all else, regardless of how they treat others. It's just that confidence, most of the time, means coming off inconsiderate to others (either unintentionally or intentionally).
I don't know. I'm not a massive jerk just as I'm not mellifluously nice. I tend to neutrality in every behaviour of mine and being balanced brought me many benefits through my life. Maybe it's time to stop trying to be part of a group and be more like you're supposed to be.
I put down yes but I wanted to place a yes & no answer.
It's important to fall for a jerk. Not necessary but it helps girls discover what a true dumbass won't do for her. That way, they can know what a true gentleman is.
They r basically doomed to begin with...
Kidding,🤤No it's just an excuse guys use to blame other people rather than examining their own faults. If a girl is choosing a complete jerk over you it's not because she likes jerks it's because your an even bigger one.
You just aren't a nice guy if you constantly post stuff like this, this isn't difficult. Besides some girls like what they like and a guy being a "jerk" may just be your pent up rage that you aren't with that girl. Look at yourself a little please.
I assure you, if you're looking good you can be the nicest person on this planet and panties will slip down automatically for you. lol
No. In reality the nice guy is also a jerk who tries to leverage being nice to get laid and who soon becomes not nice when he's rejected.
The way it really works is the nice guy loves the IDEA of the girl, not the actual girl as an individual, he assumes the jerk is jerk, when the “jerk” really might have a lot of redeeming qualities, and the “nice guy” is himself a fucking piece of shit human with nothing to offer in a relationship.
Nice guys are mostly hypocrites in denial thinking that being nice entitles them to a girl's heart wich is not nice in itself.
The idea is to be a good guy but to get a girl's heart you need charm and not just flowers.yeah, up to a certain age, it does, cause guess what: girls have to learn how to find "good partners" like men do by trial and error. and there's definitely loads of guys running after the wrong girls as well.
It is true for a lot of Girls and Guys but most Girls won't know they are dating a jerk until it's too late because most jerks will lie first up but that lie will only last so long and there true colours show and usually the nice Guy or shy Guy watches from afar helpless to do anything because the last thing they want to do is make her upset and force her to do anything.
Every guy would be a jerk if it really works it like that but for some reason these so called jerks are handsome. So girls who date mainly date these guys for their looks like rich guys who date pretty golddiggers women for their looks
A lot of the time. But the reasons go deeper than that. There are underlying conditions for everything.
This is how it works for most nice guys. I'm not a nice guy, and I see it all of the time. A lot of men are unable to admit that though, and will default to blaming everything on the guy as you've already seen in the comments from the blues so far.
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