Of course. I don't expect one who is not commited to me yet to be commited to me. So whatever they do while still single is there own to do. Because people can be single and just having sex.
Of course it is ok. Expecting random strangers to be exclusive to you just because of your ego is completely ridiculous.
Once we have been dating for maybe 3 or so months and I see there is some potential, I may start considering offering some level of commitment. Before that, no that's silly.
Of course I will be. On what grounds does a total stranger expect exclusivity from me?
Commitment is a serious cost, what exactly are they offering me in exchange for it? The fact that I can take them out and pay for their dinner once a week? Lol.
That three month mark is where they stop being a stranger. Under the two month mark, they are definitely a stranger. That's an equivalent of grabbing coffee 6~8 times.
I've had most of dates fizzle out around the 2 month mark, what am I supposed to be exclusive to each and every one of them, and then what, hope I win the life lottery and somehow find a life partner at a rate of 6 people per year?
That's absolutely unreasonable, have you dated lately? I've talked to and have been on dates with around 40 people last year, and that's only because of the pandemic.
I'm completely transparent about my sexual life, someone who isn't ok with me having friends with benefits or casual sex or whatever, I wouldn't even go on a date with them to begin with.
Yes, I had ladies who thought it to be a deal breaker, but that's just something that gets out of the way right in the beginning in the talking stage, for the most part. Besides, those girls themselves were often sexually active- I wouldn't even want to date someone who isn't sexually active, we wouldn't be compatible in the first place, I expect sex and open sexual attitude in a partner.
I mean, I get it. You are a certain age and have certain expectations, and that's fine if it works for you. But I don't think that's going to be representative of, especially, younger people's experiences these days.
If you live sometime very much why be with someone else? My hubby couldn't have sex the last year of his life... Did I go out and fuck someone else? No, cuz I loved my husband...
I don't do that! But read these threads how many people think that's okay! I don't, you fucking someone while you trying to date me uhh no! You trying to have sex with me and date other people, uhh no!
See I disagree on this one... Why be dating people if you having sex with other people? Or why be having see with other people while trying to date someone else?
But what's the purpose of the date? To see if there's a connection, interest to date right? How can you say interested in them, yet fucking someone else?
Hook up with someone and dating with others can be perfect "friends with benefit." Because you can date someone, but before marriage you can have sex with a friend, it will also be safe and known person.
Commitment or not, I wouldn't want to be on a date with someone that just had sex with someone else. Shouldn't you end the sex with someone, before you decide you want a relationship?
this is the difference to me between courting and dating, courting is exclusive to me, but it's not a word you hear used very often,,, I guess "going steady" would be the equivalent?
But would you really be okay with going out on a date with a woman and she don't have sex with you at the end of the date, but she has sex with her friends with benefits, You gonna go on a second date with that woman?
To each their own... Me personally I'm not interested in dating people that are having sex with other people and I'm also not interested in having sex with someone who's dating or having sex with other people... And more than half the time hiding/lying about it...
No but I wouldn't be friends with benefits with sometime who's actively dating other people... Now would I date someone who's actively hooking up with other people. That's not my idea of dating. And isn't the whole friends with benefits thing supposedly because it's two people not looking to date, or be in a regular relationship? Or is that just the lie people tell to have their cake and eat it too?
It sounds like your typical modern female strategy... to find someone new before you dump the current. Having friends with benefits while trying to meet someone. Have fun trying to pair bond with anyone if you need to sleep around all the time. Not really marriage material. It screams insecurity to me.
Hahaha typical male answer cuz this question was based off a guy who's doing this/proposed this not me. Why you should read the whole question before replying cuz I stated I would never do that. And also read the replies and how is more men saying this is okay behavior. But hey, keep trying to say it's the females🤷🏼♀️
Why date one person and be screwing the other? And probably not being honest with it.. So you're okay with your dates fucking other guys while they dating you?
because its in the dating process. i dont owe you anything. i might date you and not like you so what? keep my options open. until something serious happens if i like the person enough.
Agree with this sentiment. And if you don't care or don't ask the question he won't have to lie. Until we agree the relationship is exclusive... it's not.
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Of course. I don't expect one who is not commited to me yet to be commited to me. So whatever they do while still single is there own to do. Because people can be single and just having sex.
Of course it is ok.
Expecting random strangers to be exclusive to you just because of your ego is completely ridiculous.
Once we have been dating for maybe 3 or so months and I see there is some potential, I may start considering offering some level of commitment.
Before that, no that's silly.
Not wanting to date sometime that's fucking other females is an ego thing?
Hahaha okay sure it is...
*someone
So you gonna date someone for three months and be fucking someone else?
Of course I will be.
On what grounds does a total stranger expect exclusivity from me?
Commitment is a serious cost, what exactly are they offering me in exchange for it?
The fact that I can take them out and pay for their dinner once a week? Lol.
You dating sometime for three months and you consider that a stranger?
That three month mark is where they stop being a stranger.
Under the two month mark, they are definitely a stranger.
That's an equivalent of grabbing coffee 6~8 times.
I've had most of dates fizzle out around the 2 month mark, what am I supposed to be exclusive to each and every one of them, and then what, hope I win the life lottery and somehow find a life partner at a rate of 6 people per year?
That's absolutely unreasonable, have you dated lately?
I've talked to and have been on dates with around 40 people last year, and that's only because of the pandemic.
Maybe they fizzled out cuz you were sleeping with sometime else🤔
I'm completely transparent about my sexual life, someone who isn't ok with me having friends with benefits or casual sex or whatever, I wouldn't even go on a date with them to begin with.
Yes, I had ladies who thought it to be a deal breaker, but that's just something that gets out of the way right in the beginning in the talking stage, for the most part.
Besides, those girls themselves were often sexually active- I wouldn't even want to date someone who isn't sexually active, we wouldn't be compatible in the first place, I expect sex and open sexual attitude in a partner.
I mean, I get it.
You are a certain age and have certain expectations, and that's fine if it works for you.
But I don't think that's going to be representative of, especially, younger people's experiences these days.
Only if everyone knows you're sleeping with someone and dating others.
I just don't get the point of that? Why would you be sleeping with someone other than the person you're trying to date?
Do whatever you like as long as you aren't lying about it to someone who deserves to know.
I wouldn't do that! And most that do aren't upfront about it
Well I'm a traditionalist, so I imagine you can determine my answer from that.
Hooking up is bad in general
I agree💯
If your partner knows and consents, technically it's no cheating
I just don't see the point🤷🏼♀️ Why sleep with someone other than who you're trying to date, build a connection with?
What if your partner's asexual
If sex is important to someone, why would they enter into a relationship with someone that don't match then sexually?
They love each other very much?
If you live sometime very much why be with someone else? My hubby couldn't have sex the last year of his life... Did I go out and fuck someone else? No, cuz I loved my husband...
*love someone
I don't have these values. Love for me is just love. Raw, sweet, paced. I don't attach other things to it.
I'm not his private slut.
PS. I'm relationship anarchist but i can still see where you're coming from. You sound like a keeper.
Thanks
That's stupidity
Your playing with yo life
I don't do that! But read these threads how many people think that's okay! I don't, you fucking someone while you trying to date me uhh no! You trying to have sex with me and date other people, uhh no!
I would do it if I could get a hookup if not a date in general. I can't get anything right now :(
100%.. as long as your are not exclusive with anyone it's fair game...
See I disagree on this one... Why be dating people if you having sex with other people? Or why be having see with other people while trying to date someone else?
see dating means going out and meeting another person for drinks/ food... right? it's not serious... i
this is a two question answer
But what's the purpose of the date? To see if there's a connection, interest to date right? How can you say interested in them, yet fucking someone else?
Hook up with someone and dating with others can be perfect "friends with benefit." Because you can date someone, but before marriage you can have sex with a friend, it will also be safe and known person.
Nope. I'm either the only one or I'm not involved.
Right!! Same here
If your dating causal sure or you talk with a partner.
So you have no problem with guys you're dating having sex with other females?
I would for me. But if another couple is ok with it I don’t have a problem with it. If works for another couple go for it.
You're a free agent and not committed to anyone, so go for it and have fun.
I wouldn't do that... If I'm trying to date people to see if we have a connection, why would I be having sex with someone else?
Good point.
Hook ups and dating yes sure there is no commitment, but "courting" is a different matter,
Commitment or not, I wouldn't want to be on a date with someone that just had sex with someone else. Shouldn't you end the sex with someone, before you decide you want a relationship?
this is the difference to me between courting and dating, courting is exclusive to me, but it's not a word you hear used very often,,, I guess "going steady" would be the equivalent?
But would you really be okay with going out on a date with a woman and she don't have sex with you at the end of the date, but she has sex with her friends with benefits, You gonna go on a second date with that woman?
sure if we had fun, nice meal etc, but then it's more like a meetup than a date,
So wait, it's only a date of you have sex at the end? I hope I read that wrong lol
sure. if both are on the same page about that, that's fine. to each their own.
Yes, unless anything else is agreed upon you don't have any responsibilities towards eachother.
To each their own... Me personally I'm not interested in dating people that are having sex with other people and I'm also not interested in having sex with someone who's dating or having sex with other people... And more than half the time hiding/lying about it...
It's probably OK if you tell them about it if you hookup more than once.
I wouldn't do that period... Why date one person and be having sex with a different person? That's playing with people's feelings...
Do they have feelings if it's just a hookup? Do you?
No but I wouldn't be friends with benefits with sometime who's actively dating other people... Now would I date someone who's actively hooking up with other people. That's not my idea of dating. And isn't the whole friends with benefits thing supposedly because it's two people not looking to date, or be in a regular relationship? Or is that just the lie people tell to have their cake and eat it too?
You are right. I wouldn't either.
It sounds like your typical modern female strategy... to find someone new before you dump the current. Having friends with benefits while trying to meet someone. Have fun trying to pair bond with anyone if you need to sleep around all the time.
Not really marriage material. It screams insecurity to me.
Hahaha typical male answer cuz this question was based off a guy who's doing this/proposed this not me. Why you should read the whole question before replying cuz I stated I would never do that. And also read the replies and how is more men saying this is okay behavior. But hey, keep trying to say it's the females🤷🏼♀️
Yes. its in the dating phase. its not relationship nor marriage.
its perfectly normal to keep the options open.
Why date one person and be screwing the other? And probably not being honest with it.. So you're okay with your dates fucking other guys while they dating you?
because its in the dating process. i dont owe you anything. i might date you and not like you so what?
keep my options open. until something serious happens if i like the person enough.
Agree with this sentiment. And if you don't care or don't ask the question he won't have to lie. Until we agree the relationship is exclusive... it's not.
Exactly.
If i was dating and she saks... i'll tell her the truth. Im seeing other women. since its not exclusive but only dating.
Seeing? Or sleeping with? That's two different things... And I'm personally not gonna date someone fucking other females...
Thats because you are old school... i get it
Sad that having morals and values is considered old school smh
It has nothing to do with morals. you are just old school, self rightous one...
Whatever... 🙄😂