Would you prefer a partner who challenged you costantly, ot someone more passive and remissive?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

''Challenging'' as they make you experiment new experiences and encourage you to explore your potential, and also discuss views and ideas.

[DizzyDesii]

Passive. I like someone whos already in a comfort zone similar to my own. I like routine and dont experiment much. I prefer we already like the same things so that we dont have to change who we are. Challenging me after i’ve already expressed discomfort with something will just make me leave them for someone else whos similar to myself

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Excellent opinion, thank you for sharing.

[DizzyDesii]

Thanks. I know its not good to be routine but i like what i like and i prefer someone else who likes what i like 🤣

[itsdeaaa_94]

I am like you @DizzyDesii

[DizzyDesii]

@itsdeaaa_94 glad im not alone :)

[mk200195]

Its what keeps you interested in the (challenging) person that makes it exciting as you are eager to learn and grow and know their mind…this likely makes you feel more attracted or creates feelings of closeness and emotional intimacy with them.


On the contrary, iIf you are with someone who is always submissive and doesn’t challenge you, after some time you will likely get bored especially if you are the one who is always doing the challenging and there is no response from the other end.. other than agreement to everything you say!


As human beings we are always evolving and we seek intellectual stimulation as that is what connects us to other human beings…emotional intimacy is great in a relationship and probably precedes sex for most females.

[TheorionMage]

There's a BIG difference between being hubristically confrontational and being 'competitive'. The 'object' of ANY discussion is to generate MORE light of understanding than heat of egotistical friction.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Perfectly said, my friend!

[UnlovedWife]

I think a good mix of both. Someone who is constantly challenging me might make me feel as though I am not good enough for them and someone who is constantly passive might encourage me to be lazy and therefore I might not grow as a person. I think the key is to find a good balance

[White_Widow]

^ this

[FreyaRed]

A little bit pushing is okay, however steady competition is annoying. I have enough competition in my study internship.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Well said!

[ShadezMcgee]

I would say challenge because that gives me more things to strive for goal wise and it contributes to a healthy relationship. However, I wouldn't want that to be always on in the sense that I like to relax and be content at times instead of always doing something, I like having routine more than anything, but wouldn't mind enough challenge to keep things interesting.

[ChrisMaster69]

Challenging, definitely someone that pushes me.

Both physically, emotionally, socially and sexually.

Challenges help us develop as better more rounded and experienced characters.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Excellent opinion!

[ChrisMaster69]

@jean-marie_celine thank you, if we don’t have challenges we do not evolve, we simply stagnate

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Very true.

[Poppykate]

I think most people want someone who challenges you, but also knows how to relax and knows when you have reached your limits.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I wholeheartedly agree with you, it should be balanced

[Poppykate]

Like most things in life. Balance is key.

[Biancam13]

There has to be a balance. Too much of a challenger is annoying because I wanna be independent to a degree. Too much of a passive partner though, nah, wouldn’t work for me. I need to feel like my relationship is improving my life in some way.

[The_Maphio]

Challenging sounds nice. A passive partner is not a partner worth having, for interactions would be mild, and unassuming. A relationship is a chance to better each other, rather than being together for the sake of it.

[Jjpayne]

I would prefer a more passive partner. Not because I want her to be silent but because id prefer to have my voice heard and have some respect. It's good and healthy for both partners to want and have that in a relationship

[Adam1978]

I would say a challenge once in a while can be fun, but always would be tiresome. Then I rather have one that never challenge me so I got the peace and quiet I need.

[kmg9150]

Challenge, It’s boring if someone always agrees with everything. Same mindset, no challenges, no growth. We only grow when we face experiences.

[Leavesbound]

If I wanted someone who doesn't have an opinion I'd date a blow up doll.

[exitseven]

I like somebody that encourages me to be the best I can be but not someone who nags at me if I miss a workout.

[jgokgotit]

I need a woman who challenges me to be my best and I aspect her to appreciate me doing the same.

[Dchrls78104]

I need a partner who complements me, not one who challenges me or is just along for the ride. The former would frustrate me and the latter bore me to tears; either way, it wouldn't last.

[Shark_61695]

A bit more passive but available for spontaneity every so often.

[Zack378]

Life itself is already a Darwinian struggle, what’s the point of being in relationship if you can’t escape the competition logic and relax a little even with your partner?

[Not_Average]

Submissive. I want to utilize my energy to conquer and succeed in my life endeavors. I don’t want to waste my energy with a critical woman or stubborn woman in my life. That would only hold me back from my goals.

[Thedivinechic]

A mixture, I guess. I respect men fully. Maybe that was my past Christian upbringing.

[loveslongnails]

Yes, being challenged by your partner is a great thing.

[kevyhanma]

Challenged me (I need a support system) but women want a complete product and don’t wanna put in the work

[clampfan101]

I wouldn’t mind a little challenge, but not too much.