Emotionally unavailable partners? How weird is it?

[Anonymous]

Me and the boyfriend are both equally emotionally unavailable and that also means we don’t have too many emotional needs that we desperately need met by the other person. We both are so independent to the point where we sometimes don’t talk for a week, but when we do connect we are our best selves because of the space. BUT that does mean that we move at a slower pace than other people. I do want marriage and children someday. Do you think we make perfect partners for each other or is there no point in dating then?

[boggboss]

It depends you won't be able to be like this if kids or marriage is in the picture so what steps are u guys going to take to change that

[Asker]

We are really happy and comfortable in each other’s company when we are together. I think that living together will not be an issue.

[Asker]

Living together as a family with kids and marriage is something we can adjust to, but in the “dating phase” we don’t have many emotional needs. We’ve been to together for a year and 8 months now!!

[boggboss]

Which is fine but just saying we can adjust to it means nothing when u both show that how you currently live is how u want and you can't really gro kids in that situation if its working at the moment great just dont see how u can build from that unless it comes together

[Asker]

There’s no way to find out unless we get married and do the family thing. Even some emotionally available people make shit partners and parents, but we do have compatibility, harmony and comfortability together because the only issue is our independent.

[boggboss]

I never said it won't work just that I dont see how it will work and yes being emotionless available dont make a relationship work but it does help

[Asker]

What?