That's quite a question, but an interesting one. Thanks for asking!
I don't really care all that much about looks. I don't like tattoos and I don't like obesity, but other than that all that really matters there is that she's hygienic and healthy (and I do mean that.) So pretty much everything's directly in the girl's control (to the extent you have control over who you are, I guess.)
And there are plenty of things about a girl's personality that I find attractive, though specifics really vary from person to person. Everyone has their own idiosyncrasies, and often-times it is only as you get to know a person (or start to fall for them) that they start to become endearing!
But having said that, there are some standard personality traits that I really like in a wife someday, so here they are! Of course no one is perfect and I don't expect them to be, but the more of these traits the better.
Friendliness
I mean this in two senses.
First, it would mean the world if she were my close friend before we were dating, so we would have a very concrete bond beforehand. Strong friendships that don't require anything more, if one chooses, lead to the best strong, self-sufficient romantic relationships in my opinion.
Second, it would be fantastic if she were an overall nice and friendly person to people. You know, swearing at a minimum, always treating people with decency and kindness, and just all the things that one thinks of when they think of friendliness. It doesn't have to be over the top, but just there.
Intelligence
I also mean this in two senses.
First, I think it would be fantastic if at school she was a student that worked hard and was pretty smart. From experience, intelligence creates deeper personalities, higher standards of humor and else, and if they don't overload themselves, a happier and cooler human being.
Second, I think it would be fantastic if she was cautious. –if she thought before she did things and didn't act recklessly. In other words, self-control is great. It also shows the guy, if she is interested in a relationship with a guy, that she has thought before the decision to be with him and hence is more meaningful. (That one minute possible reason for this being a good thing; there are plenty more.)
Equality
I would want this girl to believe that she is my equal in every way. What I mean by that is this: Some people believe in gender roles like that men are supposed to be strong, always take care of the needs of his woman, always pay the bill, be the one in charge, and watch over their woman; while women are supposed to be over-emotional, over-romantic, needy, being catered to, and pay back their man sexually. I hate this so much.
Ideally, I'd have it be that the girl and the boy are complete equals (as previously stated.) If the man wants to treat the woman, he might pay for one thing. If the woman wants to treat the man, she might pay for another. If someone is feeling kind one day, s/he might get the door, etc.
But overall there would be nothing that one person has to do for the other because of their gender. What happens should happen because of affection, care, or love, and nothing else.
I'm going to continue in the comments since I've met the word limit.
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Smart to have list and improving yourself, as for question. I would say open minded person, is always in progress of learning, thats one thing. Relaxed, balanced, stable mentally. Accepting of others, that what gets many people wanting to be with you. Just some basics like respect, trust, honesty. Instantly shine from rest.
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I’m never emotionally abusive and always try to be kind. I don’t know any woman who gets angry less often than I do except for one person who is very shy and barely talks.
I've had girls tell me I have a lot of personality.
Which is surprising to me given how much of a social outcast I've been my whole life lol.
I dont know what it is honestly. But girls do like me so I guess I'm doing something right.
I dont know what i look for in a girl. I really dont know what to look for. I just feel that i like a girl. Whaf else can I do?I've only fallen in love once. And a big thing I loved about her was how playful she was.
We were always just goofing off and playing around with each other.
We'd rough house and I'd pin her down and tickle her.
She'd randomly sneak up behind me and push me.
I'd take something from her and play keep away.
No woman had ever made me feel so comfortable to just hang out with and do silly shit with, and I was always happy to be around her.Kind and respectful. Not a pushover or co-dependant, but knows she can depend on me. Has her own goals and dreams, but also wants to share in mine. Isn't afraid to let me help her. Isn't offended by my masculine instinct to provide, protect, and lead.
I think I have an engaging, ambitious, "change the world," creative, artistic, intelligent, very rebellious personality, but I doubt I'd call it "beautiful."
I believe my sense of humor and the loving solid person I am because I'm always there, through bad, the worst and the best!
Actually I do not know why anyone would want to have anything to do with me.
Just sharpen me knife and the sheilas jump the johnson
there was a lotta things i used to like about myself but since im feeling a quite low these days everythings just gone
I make sure she cums first and many times over, before i do.
Kindness and low/reasonable expectations I guess
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