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Your gonna come across some or more bad apples until you find the right person to date. Now everybody's different but here's what you can do.
1. DON'T DATE single mothers because no matter what the circumstance she's stills getting benefits from her children's father. Its very hard to find single mother who ain't seeing their fathers at all and permanent. also more the babies she has the more chances all of her kids has all different fathers like someone with 5 kids with all 5 different mother in laws!! ouch! >.<
2. There's always chances that someone from lgbtq plus is gonna steal your girl and make her join their ranks and wife her up. lesbians are more commonly steal peoples partners. Sometimes bi woman will take her too then this is very rarely bi men or bi men couples looking for a bitch to spice their sex lives up! From any points once she's gone she gone for good!! Trust me!!
3. This happens sometimes but rare but there's women out there that size really really matters to her and she gonna ask to put your cock on her hand and then measure it then determine if your cock qualifies her qualifications or not. If she rejects you from your tool then she'll ghost you then leave ya for good. From the beginning if a girl asks for your cock ask her if size do matter then wait for her answer. If she says yes then move on. If she said no then double check and listen to her tone to find out if she's lying or not if she moody then let her go! Because those girls will never be happy and satisfied. I always tell girls after them being rude me.
Me: if size matters to ya then that means your not satisfied with the human races at all!! Because if size matters to ya then you might as well go Chase a black stallion 🐴 or a big blue whale 🐳. Because the Big blue whales have the biggest size out of everybody out on this Covid earth!! Their size is 8 feet!! Good luck!! 😂
4. Always stay true to yourself 100% no matter what!!
5. also Rejections always makes you stronger!! Period!!
Good luck!! 👍👍
I don't agree with lying about it, because I wouldn't want to be lied to or have something like that kept from me if I'm getting serious with someone. Sex matters to me, and I would have to consider if a potential husband was coming in with no experience. But it's not just about experience - though I'm also not so insecure that I feel threatened by someone's experience and crave someone who has none. It's also about relationship skills and attitudes about sex - I might wonder if he's too conservative for me, views women in a light that I find unacceptable, etc. But I'm willing to learn about him more and about why he's a virgin before pulling the plug. I was a late bloomer too and I'm still learning things myself.
I think it's very possible that you will get rejected a few times because of this, unless you're trying to date super young women or a religious women. But it's not the end of the world. Some women don't have this as a deal breaker, especially if you're bringing a lot of other things to the table. If, for example, over all these years, you've worked on your emotional maturity, empathy, self-awareness, people skills, vulnerability, etc. and you know how to talk to people, have some confidence - then you're going to be way ahead of some guys who just happened to have sex, in terms of finding a quality relationship. I'd say try to keep in mind that everyone has insecurities in relationships. Maybe wait until 2 dates in, after you have been connecting, talking, enjoying each other's company, to bring this up. And depending on her reaction, you can decide if you want to be more open about why you're a virgin. I don't know, I like openness and vulnerability in a man - you stand out automatically from a lot of men if you can offer that in a relationship. And that can answer questions she may have in her head about why.
You can still be a catch and lack experience. Lead with your strengths and show her why you'd be a great boyfriend. So let's start there - what do you think your strengths are? What makes you attractive and a great potential boyfriend/husband? Focus on that. Unless you want to hook up to lose the v card, you can't do anything about it. Don't obsess over what you haven't done - your life isn't over yet. Celebrate the cool, awesome things about you - personality traits, experiences youve had, interesting things about you, fun things about you, etc. Nurture a confidence around that and also learn not to define yourself too much by how any one woman views you. There are so many people out there, all different who want different shit. If one doesn't like that you're a virgin, thats no reason to be ashamed - thats just not her cup of tea. doesn't make her a bad person and doesn't make you unworthy of love or affection. You just aren't a match. Some things aren't good or bad, they just are.
Also, it may be a good idea to get a therapist (everyone should have one in my opinion) and/or journal and reflect on why you are a virgin. Is there a fear stemming from something deeper? Fear of intimacy is real. I ultimately did just hookup to get the nerves out of the way, ease that anxiety, and just have a new experience. I don't regret it at all, because I was a grown woman at that point. I didn't feel like my first time with a guy had to be super special. (I had already been with women though, so I didn't consider myself a virgin really. My first sexual experience was with a good friend.) Just be mindful of the fear of intimacy you might have. Focusing too much on gaining sexual experience could feed into running away from something subconsciously.
I think you'll be fine. Like most of us, the one may not be the first woman you date, but you'll keep learning things as you go along. Be kind to yourself and others, accept this trait about yourself and choose what you want to do about it. You can definitely still fall in love, and this doesn't define you. Bon Voyage!
I know someone that's in my life that's going through this exact same situation, they turned 30 last year and haven't been in a real relationship. They were in a long distance relationship once but they never slept together and didn't see each other often to actually call it relationship honestly. They don't even know how to kiss aswel as being a virgin and they don't know how they're going to explain their situation to their future significant other. They don't know what to do and they're alitte ashamed of themself, they haven't met anyone like them before. They always thought that they were weird because they wanted to wait and not have casual sex with a stranger. My friend just wants to find someone special to be with, they just want that one person. But in this society it's not that common to still be a virgin at this age but for whatever they are. Honestly if you have to wait just wait, 50% to wait and it's worth it then so be it. There's nothing wrong with you you're just looking for something more sincere, or meaningful and there's nothing wrong with that.
------------------You will be fine as long as you are not wearing a sign that says, "I am a virgin and inexperienced and I feel bad about it." People who are not virgins still get nervous when dating someone new. My advice always is, "Act as if." Act as if this shit doesn't bother you and own who you are and where you are in your life. If it doesn't bother you then guess what? It probably won't bother them either.
"Nobody dies a virgin, life FUCKS us all."
~Coach T Anthony @thedatecoach IG
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I don't think it's a bad thing at all. If it were me, I'd personally prefer someone inexperienced over someone who had been with multiple women. I have never understood the negative stigma about men being virgins, myself.
I'm sure the right woman will not care, and if you being a virgin is a deal-breaker, she wasn't the right one for you.
Inexperience is an asset for a lot of marriage minded people because it means innocence and appreciation and non comparison
u What you want won't happen unless you start dating. If it feels awkward to begin dating at age 30, how do you think it will feel if you wait until age 40? 50?
Here's my take on this - unfortunately there might be women who will look down on it. And it might not even mean that they're shitty people, it might be their instantaneous response. I definitely wouldn't pay for sex because... eventually when you get into a relationship you'll tell your girlfriend about it and trust me it's sounds more lame if you admit to going to prostitute to lose virginity at 30.
What I would do if I were you -
1) Don't let it bother you, if you don't feel confidence over it then pretend you do and you will.
2) Treat it like a good thing, men need to respect themselves as well. Even if that's not your reason, just say that it is.
2) Say (and perhaps trick yourself into thinking) that you haven't done it yet because you didn't want to. For religious reasons for example. There are a lot more say Christian virgin men than you can imagine.
4) When a girl really likes you, she won't care either way. Truth is everyone likes something else and you don't need to be "experienced" with a lot of women, you need to build experience with the one you're with and want to please.
Society's stance on sex is overrated. If they think it is too weird of you to be 30 and inexperienced, walk away peacefully and move on with life. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at age 30. Don't give a sh** what society thinks or says. Don't feel guilty for not being involved. Everything you said in your summary is TOP NOTCH STELLAR, and I commend you greatly for it! There are people out there who are destined for relationships and marriage, and people who are not. So if you turn out to be one of them in the long run as I am... there are other things in life that will fill that void. Just keep living life, do your thing and the right people will be there. Maybe one of them IS your future. If not, just keep living!
Today, that is TOTALLY OK!! Don't rush into it, and make a mistake, like getting someone pregnant, or getting a disease!!!
It's totally OK, to take your time, and find the RIGHT one, OK?
Porn, and online sex, and the LIES your friends tell you, about how many times they have, yeah, MOST OF THAT IS JUST BULLSHIT!!
Be YOU, be comfortable, and don't be ashamed, or feel bad, in ANY WAY!!
Times are different, and being 30, and a virgin, is not a big deal, OK?
If anyone judges you, or thinks something about that, it is them, and their FALSE ideas, and the things they screwed up, in their life, and they are only mocking, because they made so many mistakes, and you are what they maybe thought they SHOULD BE!!
Tell the truth. That's it. When dates progress into the phase of discussing past relationships, be straight up. I never lie to women. Not only do girls really appreciate it, you will respect yourself, and have a much easier time relaxing around them. Hen you lie to a girl, it's the same as saying that you are so scared of her, that you will dishonor yourself instantly. Don't do that to your soul, and give the woman your with some credit, as she probably won't act like she's in high school. Show her she can trust you, by trusting in her. She will be so thrilled at your being forthright, that your lack of experience will be small news. Plus, it'll indicate to her that you don't have any sick fetishes, that you're not just looking for a pussy to fuck, and (above all) that you are different from all the assholes she has had to put up with. Don't worry - keep the faith.
Some girls dig it. Personally, I'd go for a guy who's inexperienced than a guy who's been with multiple women. Some girls may even find it cute. Don't worry, you're good.
by the way before i receive all the hate, im not 14, im 16(i put the wrong year i was born in and im not able to change it back)
I think there’s plenty of women who are also close to your age and also virgins. And a lot of women might also prefer to be with a virgin than a player. The best you can do for yourself is seek a high value woman; a woman who is looking for respect and loyalty, and not just sex. These kinds of women won’t care. Some might even prefer it.
No advice here, just reality and this is how it is : by being a virgin will make a relationship better, it can get better if the other person is inexperience too, that will help you both to discover and it's such a delight experience. On the second hand ! There is those whom have been having sex for 10+ years and still bad it, so experienced or not is not what matters, it is how you do it and of course with who you are doing it. It wouldn't help you by me telling you to relax, go have fun, find your ups and downs, no one can last long in their first times, not even the first 10 times. Enjoy and explore, ask your partner, you both can learn and teach each other. Fail to succeed
I've got you brother man, here is what to do...
Just start dating. Once you find somebody you like and she asks personal questions like that, don't be offended by how she responds, but just be honest with her. Some women would be flattered that of all these years, they would be the one you lose your virginity to. They would also be impressed by how pure you would come off like that.
But ask what she likes in bed, be patient, take it slow, and share the experience with her.
If you wanted to wait til you got married, good for you!!
Ignore pornography brother man, they're just actors, your experience with her is going to be way more intimate.
Also, some women, if you tell them you're a virgin, would probably do some dirty whit with you for your first time, so buckle up buddy, you might be in for a ride! Lol.
Great question, and I hope all goes well man!
I was in similar position. I was a 35yr old virgin, never even had a kiss. It was an albatross around my neck.
Ultimately, you just need to be open and honest with people, let yourself be vulnerable with them. A decent person won't judge you, if someone does they aren't the right person for you so move on, its their issue, not yours.
I was fortunate to have been introduced to someone through friends. We'd gotten close but i wasn't ready to talk to her. Was only after talking to a shrink i found the courage to be honest with her after we had reconnected. She was my first for pretty much everything. Ultimately it didn't last long for various reasons.
Soon after i tried speed dating& online dating, it's a long slog and you'll be ignored & ghosted but you will find people. I met someone online, we dated for couple of months, then i met my OH. We've been together nearly 3 years, have 2 kids.
Things can change very quickly, bit you have to work hard for it
Well I’m 23, virgin and proud. I kept it up by choice but then no boy will marry me if I am tainted so actually I will get a high price and value for having an intact hymen. All my friends actually want virgin men to marry because they’re also virgins. I personally don’t care but would prefer a virgin because will be each others first and that makes it extra special.
At this point you really need to select your social circle carefully. Do you believe in God? Church would be the best bet if you do. But if not I would recommend getting dating counseling.
There is nothing wrong with you by the way. In a way I respect you. I lost mine young and too the wrong girl. It was rushed and drama filled. It was a mistake. I did it out of insecurity to be considered more “masculine/popular.” vs. being in love and wanting to do it.
Also don’t listen to these women give you all these feel good lies. They mean well but virtually every women I’ve met outside of a faith based organization is hypocritical about this. The exception if she is a virgin too.
My boyfriend and I were adult virgins. This wouldn’t be a turn off for me because I’d rather have someone with less experience and learn about ourselves together or even just have less risk of STDs. You’ll find the right person. Just make yourself more available.
They don’t need to know you are a virgin.
Lack of experience is not really an issue tbh.
ignore all the bollox you hear on here about how stunning guys are.
everyone is different.
to get someone, you need to be out socialising, learning to interact with girls.
you need to get out and mingle
To quote the movie " The 40 year old virgin". " You know what your problem is you're putting the p***you on a pedestal".
You need to trick your brain pretend to yourself that you've slept with a dozen women. And live that person a until it becomes reality. Don't tell them you're a virgin either! I don't care how understanding she seems. You'll turn women off with that s***. It's not that it matters that you're a virgin. But to a woman that's like saying no OTHER woman ever wanted you. So she'll be thinking why should I. That's not sexy and it will chase women off.
Good luck man!
As long as you do not go for women who are obviously very into casual sex (if they go for being physical very quickly for example), then I don't think you have to worry so much.
When dating it is definitely ok to get to know each other well before considering having sex. You do not need to tell about your lack of experience at first either. Just say you do not have so much if it comes up.
I feel in the same situation, I am 35 and even though I have been in love, I am also somehow inexperienced. I am still virgin and I have only dated two guys in my life without reaching homerun with them.
There’s nothing wrong with that I think it’s a good thing because with my boyfriend I felt bad that he had slept with other women before me it wasn’t the case for me though he was my first. So that’s good because your future girl won’t have to feel bad about you having slept with other women. I wish that I could’ve been my boyfriend’s first as well
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