Think of the opposite: Would it be better if unstable guys focused on pursuing women regardless, instead of fixing-up their lives, aiming for something important to achieve, and then proving their capacity? For women, wouldn't that be more disadvantageous, with hordes of under-performing men saturating the market, making it even harder to identify and/or access the more accomplished candidates?
Even if the right girl were to appear, be successfully identified as such, be successfully befriended, and later appear to exhibit sufficient indicators of interest, that would be irrelevant (in my case). What happens if you bite-off far more than what you can chew? Like being unprepared yet still choosing to suddenly acquire a gigantic mansion, high-end sports-cars, and other things whose mere maintenance-costs would force many to bankruptcy, you only make inevitable losing the thing itself (foreclosure, re-possession, etc.) PLUS interest. Until I know I can offer enough on the table to keep negotiations equal, fair, and just, on both sides, I will refuse to be her limiter from better options, ball & chain, and rip-off.
I left grad school with a mountain of student debt. My first priority was to find a job to pay down that debt. Priority #2 was to save enough money to put a down payment of a home of my own. Honestly, right girl or not, it wasn't until I was around age 32 that I was ready to consider a serious relationship.
Every guy is different, so your mileage may vary.
yup my cousin was like I ain't getting into a relationship until I am stable wit my money good job everything going good for me my mental and physical health togather.
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Yep, I gave up on dating. Finally found a job. Am building plans to start up my own business. And I mean actually building plans not Just thinking about them. But first I need my drivers license wich I get next week if everything goes right. Then I need to get a house or at least an appartement.
And unless faith gives me a New but this time loyal and actually 100% wanting me girlfriend before I have all that.
I am gonna wait before actively trying to date again until I have a good running business.
I would say that they focus is elsewhere. Ie getting a job/income not chase tail. That said you can certainly date a unemployed guy but then you will have to show the interest and probably ask him out. I have never been on the market when I been unemployed or for that matter when I just started a new job.
Yeah I'm feeling that. Lost job to covid last year. Feel too much shame in my current situation to put myself out there in dating. I hate feeling this way but what can I do? A man's gotta pay his own way in life. What girl would want a guy in late 20s still living with parents coz of lacking enough income to have a life? I have plenty good qualities but I'm afraid of going on a date and my living situation/unemployment coming up somehow, and seeing the girl lose interest in real-time.
I don't date unless my house is clean. If I don't have a clean house, running car and a stable job I take myself off the menu because I have standards for the caliber of woman I date and don't feel it would be appropriate to do otherwise... that said, I'm not going to turn down free sex if it drops in my lap just not going out to seek a "relationship"
That's currently me.. I feel like a lot of women just want somebody like that especially at my age.. But if a woman was fine with my current status and was just growing with me.. I wouldn't turn it down..
The right person will take you in and accept you for who you are, despite your current situation (s). When I met my late fiance, I was out of work. She knew that, and stayed with me because she cared about ME, not what my income was.
Yeah, I was kind of that way.
I think it was a mistake.
It's more complicated than just that factor, but looking back, I shouldn't have worried about my financial situation when it came to dating.
I would say age plays slot into this.
Being a broke guy is like being a fat, ugly girl. You're fighting a losing battle.
When I was younger I believed in a partnership unfortunately I didn't get most women didn't. At least not when it came to assets lol. Now my fortune has changed. Women approach me... but for what? A meal ticket? A free ride? No thank you.
yep, many men don't like to date until and unless they are financially stable to the fact r u can say rumor that if boys don't buy and give gifts or maintain his girls needs she will leave him. but the fact that nowadays girls are being self-dependent that also brings changes to the line like nowadays a man doesn't like to become a dad until and unless he is financially stable not like before.
What I do is giving priority to the finances, while still opening up to meet people in real life.
Mostly guys look to settle first and have commitments. Because, they want to provide their family and they like it that way.
I think that may be true in some cases, but if I found the right girl it wouldn't matter to me.
I did, but I wish I started dating sooner. Now I am 37 and can't seem to find someone.
YUP girls will not date you if you don't have money.
Unless they fond you super attractive already
most guyas dont want a relationship with a girl they want sex with her and then silence until it is time for more sex
Some guys don't, but most still try to date anyway
Frequently.
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