Why does bumble have this rule: "Remember, women always make the first move"?

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Bumble has a rule that says and i quote "Remember, women always make the first move". What's the point of this? To protect women or something?

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

----------------It's not a rule nor is it for their protection. it's just the way they set the app up. Women message first. Now I would argue that really isn't making the first move when it comes to dating. A real first move is asking someone on a date or out to dinner. For me though I love BUMBLE. I use it for all my female clients so that they can control who they interact with. On other sites women get almost 50-200 messages a day. On bumble they only get replies not messages.

Online Dating can be overwhelming for women so Bumble makes it easy for them.

"If you don't like me and still watch everything I do, bitch you are a fan."
~Coach T Anthony @thedatecoach IG

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Women get many unwanted messages, unsolicited dick pics, and extreme weirdos messaging them on other apps. That can't happen on Bumble unless the woman messages the weirdo first. So that makes women feel safer and they are more inclined to choose Bumble over other apps.

I'm in a relationship now but before that I dated using Bumble and zoosk and I had good results with both sites. The lady I have been dating for eight months is someone I met on zoosk.

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

I haven't used Bumble but yeah, I think it's to protect women from unsolicited dick pics. Not that it works, I've heard dudes just wait until a woman sends them a message and then they send a dick pic.

I'd use Bumble before Tinder with that feature, though. And preload a meme with a small dick with an "F" written on it as a reply for unsolicited dick pics.

Bee-Hatch · Accepted Answer

Well yeah to protect women. I'm sure you're popular on the dating apps couple of likes a day? For women it's a hell of a lot more. An open channel means you're subjected to too many messages. The idea was once you find a match as the woman you get the opportunity to initiate contact if you like. It's got its flaws. But for some it's preferred.

AmandaYVR · Answer

To make women do it. Otherwise they never will. Almost all of them wait for the guys to do everything first when it comes to dating.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Wouldn't know.. Don't use dating sites...

hhadeshatesme · Answer

The founder of bumble Whitney Wolfe was also a co-founder of tinder she resigned in 2014 after filling a lawsuit against tinder for sexual harassment I believe. Bumble was made to empower women to make the first move by giving them the ability to control the conversation.

Juxtapose · Answer

Nobody is really happy with this system of men initiating almost to the point of exclusivity.

Forcing women to make the first move gets rid of the problem of women's inboxes getting flooded & man getting *completely* ignored.

Dating apps will make you feel like shit.. luckily my girlfriend makes me feel like a king.

BeMuse · Answer

When they were first brainstorming the site they were going to call it bum hole. That’s where the sphincter shaped logo comes from. It’s a site for gay soy boys that wait for comands from dominatrix trannies..

ODC2112 · Answer

The thing is very simple. Women grow up in the social stereotype that everything is their due. So on dating sites they don't do anything active, they wait for the man to do everything, because they are ladies and therefore everyone has to put themselves at their service.
The story of protecting women or whatever is purely bullshit. Bumble derives his algorithms from other dating apps where it has been noticed that women do nothing and then complain that dating apps don't work, they are just waiting for ego gratification.
Bumble makes women do something, so that the success of the relationship depends on them.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

So that women don't get unsolicited dick pics as their first message from a guy.

JSmuve · Answer

It's bumbles shtick to give women the illusion of protection. They have control over who sends the first message, making "the first move" but women historically hate making the first move so they don't bother. It's "empowering" women by forcing them into a role that they're not naturally inclined to.

It also is said to cut down on unwanted messages, to which I'd rebuttal that there's nothing stopping a guy from sending unwanted messages after she sends the first message. Also, what kind of guys is she swiping right on that are sending these messages? Perhaps she should be more selective. If she's getting so many then perhaps that says something about her judgement.

A_Bell · Answer

Never used a dating app except to see what they are like. I don't understand why anyone would subject themselves to this demeaning crap. Not this rule, the whole sorry setup.

I guess I am a see the merchandise in person instead of buying online kind of person.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, that's it exactly. Women often get "bombarded" with messages from guys and feel overwhelmed. Some guys get mad at rejection also and often these things "chase" women away from these sites/apps. With them "in control", at least initially, they feel "safe". And from a guy's point of view that really likes this feature, I like her to because then I know she's actually got some kind of real interest in me likely, or at least enough to talk. She's not just talking to me "just because" (for whatever reason), not likely anyway. She made the first move and showed me interest first, I don't need to know if she has any or not, I know she's got some at least.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

For every message a guy gets, it’s reckoned a girl gets 1000. there is a move to to have more dating apps this way. Zero problems with it, an group we sponsor have an even more girl orientated app.

Anonymous · Answer

To reinforce an already sexist and biased dating market. Women already have far too much power in the market, and this just makes it worse. I would be happy to see dating apps banned.

oddwaffle · Answer

It's for the guys to learn playing as a fisherman instead of a hunter.

As a hunter, you go around looking for prey. Stalk them and begin the ambush. Essentially just go up and begin your pitch.

As a fisherman, you cat-, I mean... present yourself in the best light and hope a big catfish will bite.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

To allow women to choose who they interact with instead of them being messaged back to back to back by random men all day asking to chill , come to their house and get laid. It helps protect the women

crazy8000 · Answer

To change dynamics that female's must take initiative.
It prevents the funny effect that female's do on dating services that creates an issue for them that they blame males for instead of stop doing what created the whole mass message and dickpic behavior. ( ignoring and ghosting )

Empowerment is mostly just a ideological propaganda to justify something that isn't really what they shout.

SheerKiss3 · Answer

It was created for that purpose, to make girls feel safer taking the decision who to talk with. It makes it different.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

It's to make a reversal on dating tropes. I'm honestly surprised it's still up because it rarely works.

NoLookingAtSoleil · Answer

They do anyhow make the first move - not overtly, but they give you a green light and then you can make a move officially.
It's how it works (and quite a number just play you for emotional/mental attention afterwards to feel desired/good about themselves)

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Because guys will like every single girl and chat up every single girl or attempt to so bumble puts the decision in the hands of women.

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

Forget bumble try okcupid the free version is all you need

Levin · Answer

Women get 100s of likes and many messages from desperate men a day. The average men is probably lucky to get a few likes per week. Think about it.

Anonymous · Answer

Cuts down on a lot of the creepy and perverted texts right out of the gate.

Anonymous · Answer

It's because that's the whole gimmick of the app: It only allows women to send the first message when a match occurs. In theory, it was supposed to give them control over the attention they receive and encourage them to take initiative. The problem is that the vast majority of women prefer the bombardment of attention and don't want to take initiative.

JackSmy · Answer

Who/What is Bumble, and why should I give two shakes of a limp dick WTF they say or think? I've never heard of them, and thus, they mean nothing to me.

Ghostykill3r · Answer

Because that's what they decided to do. I kind of like it because it takes the pressure off the first message off of me.

Slim57 · Answer

Women don't do shit on that app except match with you and never say anything haha

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

1. Protect womans from creeapy guys 2. Let the woman be aproach only by the guys they want to be aproaced 3. Make the app more serios for mens and womans

SamFromFL · Answer

It’s to make bumble unique as opposed to all the other dating sites

hellacray · Answer

Well I'd say because every other app the guy always initiates first and ends up flooding the woman's inbox.  So I guess this way it's a bit more controlled.  But... It's still a waste of time.

DarkCarousel · Answer

Probably just to set themselves apart from other dating apps.

normalice · Answer

So girls dont have to deal with 40 million guys in their inbox asking for sex.

teninch · Answer

no this is to protect the guy from making a mistake and like my dad always said, make sure the girl has a lot of good looking friends. so you dont need to bust a move just make sure that bitch dosnrt rape you

Texaskid1 · Answer

Because that is how it is in life. The problem is that most men are don't realize when a women is making the first move since women tend to be more subtle in their flirtations.

Dazedx0 · Answer

They have that rule because there are some guys who'd maybe rather not make the first move  And we're not doing it unless it's the only option lmao

genericname85 · Answer

i don't know but i like it. cause with other platforms you're tempted to text 10000 girls that never answer anyway

friendzoned4life · Answer

The point of this is saving time Girls Just have to text you first so if they are only on there for free attention like on tinder they are gonna have to work for it

Anonymous · Answer

That was always their marketing slant. They had to do something different. Otherwise they'd just be saying "we're exactly the same thing as Tinder but with fewer people on it!" That doesn't exactly sound like a winning strategy.

Tonita91996 · Answer

Not really protecting women actually setting us up because a man doesn't have respect for a woman if she shots a her shot. He sees that as a booty call 9 times out of 10. Bumble and tinder are apps for predators to prey on women.

jamesgoldman · Answer

It's the USP that has made Bumble a  multi-billion dollar entity

MountAverage · Answer

So they don't have to deal with the tons of creepy first messages they usually get on other dating apps.

Huldusonur · Answer

I like it. It breaks the social norms and puts women in control of the conversation. Although, I wonder how it works with homosexual women

HairyPoppins · Answer

They just wanted to differentiate themselves from other apps.

maulstrum97 · Answer

It's their sales pitch. What makes them different is it requires women to take the initiative rather then men which is our typical job.

najekim · Answer

To give the lady the decision whether to pursue or not. Sorta like the saying in the Lifestyle, if she ain't happy nobody's getting any.

kevyhanma · Answer

To make it more realistic most guys around my age just wanna have shrex and we only can if women lets us  rapist being the obvious exception

Anonymous · Answer

Its idiotic because Nearly all women are too cowardly to make the first move.

Scottty2hottty · Answer

Ask me out to Burger King I will pick up the fries.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s very bad. It’s giving women more power than they already have. Instead it’s better to completely ignore women.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

To protect women

magiusX26 · Answer

its meant to force women to start the convos.

stuntbrain · Answer

Bumble is for retards

Dchrls78104 · Answer

No, to protect men.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Because times have changed

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t know but it works for me

Anonymous · Answer

I heard it's being used as a friending app now

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