----------------It's not a rule nor is it for their protection. it's just the way they set the app up. Women message first. Now I would argue that really isn't making the first move when it comes to dating. A real first move is asking someone on a date or out to dinner. For me though I love BUMBLE. I use it for all my female clients so that they can control who they interact with. On other sites women get almost 50-200 messages a day. On bumble they only get replies not messages.
Online Dating can be overwhelming for women so Bumble makes it easy for them.
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Women get many unwanted messages, unsolicited dick pics, and extreme weirdos messaging them on other apps. That can't happen on Bumble unless the woman messages the weirdo first. So that makes women feel safer and they are more inclined to choose Bumble over other apps.
I'm in a relationship now but before that I dated using Bumble and zoosk and I had good results with both sites. The lady I have been dating for eight months is someone I met on zoosk.
I haven't used Bumble but yeah, I think it's to protect women from unsolicited dick pics. Not that it works, I've heard dudes just wait until a woman sends them a message and then they send a dick pic.
I'd use Bumble before Tinder with that feature, though. And preload a meme with a small dick with an "F" written on it as a reply for unsolicited dick pics.
Well yeah to protect women. I'm sure you're popular on the dating apps couple of likes a day? For women it's a hell of a lot more. An open channel means you're subjected to too many messages. The idea was once you find a match as the woman you get the opportunity to initiate contact if you like. It's got its flaws. But for some it's preferred.
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To make women do it. Otherwise they never will. Almost all of them wait for the guys to do everything first when it comes to dating.
Wouldn't know.. Don't use dating sites...
The founder of bumble Whitney Wolfe was also a co-founder of tinder she resigned in 2014 after filling a lawsuit against tinder for sexual harassment I believe. Bumble was made to empower women to make the first move by giving them the ability to control the conversation.
Nobody is really happy with this system of men initiating almost to the point of exclusivity.
Forcing women to make the first move gets rid of the problem of women's inboxes getting flooded & man getting *completely* ignored.
Dating apps will make you feel like shit.. luckily my girlfriend makes me feel like a king.When they were first brainstorming the site they were going to call it bum hole. That’s where the sphincter shaped logo comes from. It’s a site for gay soy boys that wait for comands from dominatrix trannies..
The thing is very simple. Women grow up in the social stereotype that everything is their due. So on dating sites they don't do anything active, they wait for the man to do everything, because they are ladies and therefore everyone has to put themselves at their service.
The story of protecting women or whatever is purely bullshit. Bumble derives his algorithms from other dating apps where it has been noticed that women do nothing and then complain that dating apps don't work, they are just waiting for ego gratification.
Bumble makes women do something, so that the success of the relationship depends on them.So that women don't get unsolicited dick pics as their first message from a guy.
It's bumbles shtick to give women the illusion of protection. They have control over who sends the first message, making "the first move" but women historically hate making the first move so they don't bother. It's "empowering" women by forcing them into a role that they're not naturally inclined to.
It also is said to cut down on unwanted messages, to which I'd rebuttal that there's nothing stopping a guy from sending unwanted messages after she sends the first message. Also, what kind of guys is she swiping right on that are sending these messages? Perhaps she should be more selective. If she's getting so many then perhaps that says something about her judgement.Never used a dating app except to see what they are like. I don't understand why anyone would subject themselves to this demeaning crap. Not this rule, the whole sorry setup.
I guess I am a see the merchandise in person instead of buying online kind of person.Yes, that's it exactly. Women often get "bombarded" with messages from guys and feel overwhelmed. Some guys get mad at rejection also and often these things "chase" women away from these sites/apps. With them "in control", at least initially, they feel "safe". And from a guy's point of view that really likes this feature, I like her to because then I know she's actually got some kind of real interest in me likely, or at least enough to talk. She's not just talking to me "just because" (for whatever reason), not likely anyway. She made the first move and showed me interest first, I don't need to know if she has any or not, I know she's got some at least.
For every message a guy gets, it’s reckoned a girl gets 1000.
there is a move to to have more dating apps this way.
Zero problems with it, an group we sponsor have an even more girl orientated app.
https://www.killingkittens.comTo reinforce an already sexist and biased dating market. Women already have far too much power in the market, and this just makes it worse. I would be happy to see dating apps banned.
It's for the guys to learn playing as a fisherman instead of a hunter.
As a hunter, you go around looking for prey. Stalk them and begin the ambush. Essentially just go up and begin your pitch.
As a fisherman, you cat-, I mean... present yourself in the best light and hope a big catfish will bite.To allow women to choose who they interact with instead of them being messaged back to back to back by random men all day asking to chill , come to their house and get laid. It helps protect the women
To change dynamics that female's must take initiative.
It prevents the funny effect that female's do on dating services that creates an issue for them that they blame males for instead of stop doing what created the whole mass message and dickpic behavior. ( ignoring and ghosting )
Empowerment is mostly just a ideological propaganda to justify something that isn't really what they shout.It was created for that purpose, to make girls feel safer taking the decision who to talk with. It makes it different.
It's to make a reversal on dating tropes. I'm honestly surprised it's still up because it rarely works.
They do anyhow make the first move - not overtly, but they give you a green light and then you can make a move officially.
It's how it works (and quite a number just play you for emotional/mental attention afterwards to feel desired/good about themselves)Because guys will like every single girl and chat up every single girl or attempt to so bumble puts the decision in the hands of women.
Forget bumble try okcupid the free version is all you need
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