True or False: Women are more likely to be happier with men who are less attractive than them?

[coachTanthony]

According to a fairly recent study they say this is TRUE. What do you say?

https://www.esquire.com/uk/life/news/a17209/women-happier-uglier-men/

True

False

see poll ( pass the popcorn this is going to get good )

[rounddablock]

Some controlling women might want a lesser attractive guy because she knows he will always bend over backwards for her given his limited options. She also doesn’t have to work to hard to always stay better looking than him. Even if she gains 10 or 20 lbs compared to him (if he’s short, much older, ugly face, etc) she will still look better. It’s less intimidating for her.

But women also have a harder time climaxing then men. Overall it’s easier for a guy to finish after he gets over the initial hump of doing it with a lesser attractive woman (although even we can go whisky dick if we don’t find her good looking). But this is even worse for women. I don’t know too many women who are happy faking it all the time.

I could see some women taking the shitty route and using the lesser attractive boyfriend for money, support, attention, etc and then cheating on him random hook ups with better looking guys.

When I was younger I had two girls cheat on their bfs with me (they didn’t tell me they were taken). When I found out later I lost all respect for them. Yeah it was nice to get laid and pursued because I was better looking. But still it was shitty of them.

[oddwaffle]

It's false. From a biological view women are attracted to:

#1 Men with certain kind of genes that are different from them. Reflected in their particular odor due to immune system killing off certain bacteria eating their dead skin while letting others live (and give off certain smell)

#2 Men with natural attractive physical and such as muscle (that's why women like horses!), fitness, handsomeness...

#3 Women are also attracted to power traits that increase resources gathering before they are pregnant such as leadership (more resources), risk taking/bravery (known to increase rate of resource gathering), skills and similar abilities. that increase wealth/resources.

#3 becomes less of a "need" for women who are particularly good at making their own wealth/resources. They would take time to find the best candidate. That's why you see a lot of women holding back from marriage nowadays. It's because they can afford to wait.

[angel39373]

I think it varies from girl to girl honestly. Even with that study, it doesn't mean every attractive girl will be happy. I know for me it's very hard because I lost someone who I thought was perfect in looks and personality. I'll be honest... he may always be the most beautiful to me. And that's the soul crushing part. But I will say this. What makes you memorable and miss-able to me doesn't solely revolve around looks. For example, there's these two guys- guy1 and guy2. Guy1 was a 10 in looks (no I'm not talking about the guy I still love) yet didn't give me the time of day. Guy2 was way less perfect in looks yet made me feel understood and loved. You know who I find myself missing more? It's not Guy1, that's for damn sure! My point is it's more complicated than this. It can be a mixture of truth and falsehood. Looks, at the end of the day, only matter to an extent for me, and that's where I stand.

[coachTanthony]

Of course it varies from girl to girl. Nobody is saying every woman would be happier if they did this nor could anybody or any study ever conclude such a thing.

[angel39373]

Of course

[angel39373]

My point is I'm not really sure if women in general are more likely happier or not. It's hard to say

[coachTanthony]

Well do you think you would be happier with a man who is less attractive than you are?

[angel39373]

That's the thing- I don't know. All I could say is maybe.

[coachTanthony]

Okay cool thanks for the comments!

[angel39373]

No prob

[Woke51]

Agree. It's all about how they make you feel. At the end of the day, we just want to feel good.

[angel39373]

@Woke51 exactly

[Dazed0N0Confused]

My mom likes to tell me I can do a LOT better when it comes to my SOs looks, but why would i give up someone who treats me like a queen to try looking for someone that looks better, but may not make me as happy?

My 7/10-On-A-Good-Day Self

My Handsome Fella

[Lildiq]

Ur mom is full of shit. Your less than average. Maybe just about average if your lucky

[Lildiq]

He's better looking than you and I'm not even gay

[Lildiq]

Not tryna be a bitch. Jus smacking people back to reality. I'm a honest person. I say the trutb

[Dazed0N0Confused]

@Lildiq beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

[friendzoned4life]

Believe me he is the hot one

[friendzoned4life]

@lildiq also not gay but if I had to choose from these pics I go with him

[kevyhanma]

@friendzoned4life you just called another dude hot that speaks for itself (your gay)🤣

[kevyhanma]

That was really nice I’m happy for you too

[friendzoned4life]

No @kevyhanma

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I don't think that's a universal true or false answer.. It depends on the individual and how much looks play an importance in their attraction to a person.. people can be attracted to more than just looks.. They can be attracted to their personality, their mind, their smile, their sense of humor..
And how attractive someone is or isn't is personal perspective.. Some people would say I'm attractive and some would say I'm not... That can go for anyone.

[Chikky]

If they're with the less attractive men, they'll feel like they deserve more and end up cheating or leaving him. So I guess it all about being attractive to each other equally, understanding and love

[YOLOIFIC]

That could happen, there is no one universal outcome.

Completely possible they she ends up falling in love with him over time and stay together for life.

Same thing people equally attracted (which is highly unlikely if not impossible since no two people are exactly the same) can still see other people. Relationships don’t fail because their is unequal levels of attraction, they fail because one or both partners give up for various reasons.

[Chikky]

@YOLOIFIC if she ends up staying together, that means she's not holding on to the attractiveness of her partner but into something else.

Being equally attractive to each other is just making sure that no partner loves the more and no partner love the less. At least the gap shouldn't be much to make the other partner feel like they're not deserving of the other partner

[YOLOIFIC]

Again, you’re presuming a lot and using very faulty and extremely shallow logic.

A relationship based on looks is on shaky ground at best. Looks might attract a partner but the relationship is built on mutual trust, respect, and benefit.

[Chikky]

@YOLOIFIC oh jeez go read the question

[YOLOIFIC]

What question? Sounds like you’re upset that you can’t refute what I said.

[Chikky]

@YOLOIFIC it's like you're dumb enough not to comprehend my point in relation to the question

[YOLOIFIC]

I get your point, it’s flawed, shallow, and unrealistic. You don’t like that I’ve pointed this out and you can’t refute it so apparently now your only recourse is to get upset and hurl insults and make ad hominem attacks.

[Chikky]

@YOLOIFIC you are in no way understanding my point, I know looks is not the bases of a relationship, I'm just trying to relate to the attractiveness of a partner in regards to lasting relationship. So I get all that, you're just here saying stuff that's not even part of the question trying to make me look shallow and realistic while the question isn't even asking all that

[YOLOIFIC]

I think any rational person reading my comments would disagree with you but that doesn’t mean you have to agree.

If you’re feeling shallow that’s you’re problem not mine. All I pointed out was one there is no rational way any two people can be equally attracted to each other and that two the implications that if one partner thinks they’re more attractive they will eventually leave or “cheat” and they equal attraction is required for a relationship

[YOLOIFIC]

Also FYI, just because you have an opinion that’s shallow doesn’t make you a shallow person but if you’re getting this emotional about my use of the word shallow to me it says you feel that you’re shallow.

[Chikky]

@YOLOIFIC go back and read my opinion, cause clearly you are still making references to what I've said previously, no new idea coming from you and stop commenting on my opinion. Go back to yours cause you're just not as smart as I thought you were

[YOLOIFIC]

Stop gaslighting, I get you’re upset you can’t refute me but continuing to lie and say I don’t understand isn’t winning it just you admitting you know you can’t refute what I’ve said.

Pretending I don’t get what you said when I’ve clearly shown I have and have refuted it and apparently you can’t counter is being immature.

Again, you said “If they’re with the less attractive men, they’ll feel like they deserve more and end up cheating or leaning him.”

That’s a false narrative and a very shallow point of view that assume a relationship is based solely on looks which is false. As I’ve stated a billion times is this one possible outcome, yes, but there are countless other outcomes too. Presuming such a narrow minded outcome every time is errant.

[yofuknutz]

Well we can guess who gave her the one negative response I guess this guy is not going home with the prom queen tonight.

[Account]

False. Why do people think men who are not conventionally attractive are also good?

[Darksign]

At least your honest

[invalid1]

Pass the popcorn. 😂
thanks couch, I have read the intro of this article, I liked it.. I put it aside on the pile of the infinitely procrastinated tasks😂 and I also thought about bringing it up in GAG.
🙏 I don't know. I would just love to see the opinions.

[invalid1]

*coach 😬😶🥴

[coachTanthony]

ha ha ha don't blame ya

[Puppystarfish23]

Very ture in my opinion. There's nothing wrong with being a attractive man but men who focus too much on there appearance usually lack in other areas and are extremely shallow and are likely to cheat as they are obsessed with looks not being content and happy with who there partner is in the inside.

Men who care less about there appearance usually care less as they have better things to do in there life and have character and personality and are more willing to be loyal and treat you good because they know you like them for them and appreciate but you can see the good in him in the inside as well as the outside.

[Anonymous]

I can’t really answer this question because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It honestly depends on the woman and what she finds attractive most people wouldn’t date someone they are not physically attracted to. If a woman was dating a man she thought was “unattractive” she’d eventually dump him for someone she thinks is better, cheat, or the relationship just wouldn’t last for long.

[Opinion Owner]

So in most cases no she wouldn’t be happy.

[YOLOIFIC]

Neither, since there is no way to speak for all women rationally.


Each persons has differ tastes, no one will be happy with someone they’re not attracted to or don’t have a personal connection to that’s grown into love.


Plus again, attractiveness is subjective. What you see as unattractive they might not. So all that matters is what they feel not what anyone else feels.

[YOLOIFIC]

Looked over the study, not supervised. Younger people are less mature, and it’s not shocking some have used the fact young men are easily manipulated by women to their advantage.

Those relationships though are more likely to become unhealthy and fail than ones built on mutual respect. The young hot body will not stay young and hot forever and then the men aren’t going to want to do whatever to make their partner happy which will result in her being far less happy that a healthier relationship built on mutual respect than unilateral exploitation.

[Novacane]

I mean let's be honest, naturally, women are more appealing than men, therefore, women will always be seen as better looking. Then again a women's main priority is usually her looks and a man's is if he can provide, so looks for men are not that important. So going off on your picture provided we are talking about 2 extremes, in that case, I think it is false, a woman that knows her worth will never settle for less and if they are with a very less attractive man it is usually for a reason, but she will always be open to having options until the right one comes along.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Men traditionally value keeping a partner that is more attractive than they are.

A girl can do everything, she can be his domestic and bedroom everything and if an individual man has his heart set that 'he can do better' superficially, there is nothing that will make him stop looking.

Women often end up with guys who are less attractive because they are the ones who typically stay. They invest time and energy knowing them as people, and appreciating all they contribute in a relationship. Women value being valued for their beauty and men value obtaining beauty 'above their pay grade.'

Every gender can be a relationship hopper.

[Starwitch23]

My 1st boyfriend was not so good looking and treated me like shit. He dumped me.
My second boyfriend was gorgeous but he ended up cheating on me. So, I don't think there is a correlation between the looks of my upcoming boyfriend and my happiness. It's the personality you have to be with. Looks will fade away one day.

[pink_and_inlove]

I’m sorry how did you find out that he cheated on you?

[Starwitch23]

He told me.

[Lildiq]

Why don't you dumb bitches think to date someone who has both good looks and personality?
You do know being good looking means you have to be a shitty person right?
You do realise good looking guys can have good personality as well as looks right?
Dumbass giels

[Starwitch23]

@Lildiq Did I deny that fact? I haven't. I know people like me do exist who have best of both.

[victoriaxoxo]

For me it’s a yes but it’s to do with the amount and fierceness of competition between girls over very hot guys. There are so many girls always hitting on them and it gets really tiring to see it all the time. Also we sometimes assume that a guy that is not as attractive is easier to deal with but that’s often not the case as unattractive guys might waste a large amount of their time chasing random girls to fill their insecurities.

P. S. unattractive I mean a guy who is like a solid 6/7 not someone who is so unattractive that making eye contact is difficult.

[Mot-Mot]

So an above average guy is unattractive? No wonder why we have to struggle so much, dont want to even imagine if you are below average

[victoriaxoxo]

@Mot-Mot I consider myself like a solid 8 so he can’t be that much worse looking than me.

[Mot-Mot]

Is it easy finding men like that? I imagine there aren't many around and you still have to find one that its worth it which makes it even harder

[victoriaxoxo]

@Mot-Mot what no, not at all, there’s plenty of guys like that

[Mot-Mot]

I meant that there musnt be a lot of 8s around, 6/7s are more common

[SheerKiss3]

Being attractive is very subjetive. I can find a sweet nice guy attractive not matter how he looks like.

[Lildiq]

So if I had a mask of a Turd that I wear all the time aslong as I'm sweet girls will like me?

[SheerKiss3]

I was talking for myself not for all the girls! So I dont know if it will work also with them.

[SheerKiss3]

Oh. And i said sweet and NICE and well.. You are not that nice 🙄

[MCheetah]

Mostly true. Putting personality aside, men pick women for their looks, and women pick men for their height, wealth, social status, and confidence level. If women only need looks to get by as the bare minimum, then women wouldn't want the guy to be taking her "role" in the relationship, either.

[TessCasie]

Everytime I try to get with an attractive male I fail. And it pains me to realize I’ll need to settle for someone less attractive.

[coachTanthony]

Maybe you will be happier though? If you are happier would you consider that settling? Unless the goal in life is to just date someone for looks?

[TessCasie]

I’m trying to get both looks and personality I won’t give up lol

[TessCasie]

But on the flip side I’ve noticed majority handsome men are separated or divorced it kind of pains me to see them like that smh

[angel39373]

I totally get you <3 I lost someone who was perfect in looks and personality so its easy to fall into perfectionist tendencies. I really wish you the best, love!

[YOLOIFIC]

Chasing beauty can be painful but realize beauty is skin deep and attraction based in looks is superficial.

[Solidsnake007]

If this is true why do people say that majority of woman are not visual and don't care about looks? And here I was starting to think that I shouldn't even focus on my looks anymore cause girls aren't into it anyway. I like being fit, sexy and good lookin regardless.

By the way I think the same. I want a girl who has both looks and personality.

[Gomezaddam51]

I wish. I have tried to get with pretty women and have been shot down every time. I don't think I am ugly, or wasn't when I was trying to be with the pretty women but they still didn't want me. Oh sure they played around and let me buy them stuff but eventually they came up with the bull crap of we are just not comparable.

I have only come across one beautiful woman with an ugly guy. She was a gorgeous early 20's year old who lived with an old biker, a member of the Outlaws. She was totally devoted to him and took care of him even when he was sick. He was in his 60's back then.

The other beautiful women with old guys were with them because they were rich. Rich will get you any woman you want.

[PaynefulPleasures]

Well there's not even popcorn 🍿 on the planet for this but here we go 🍿🍿🍿✌️

[coachTanthony]

bahahahaahahahahaha this one will need extra butter.

[PaynefulPleasures]

Exactly 😂🍿🥤

[MannMitAntworten]

I have a feeling this is a very gray area and varies woman to woman. I mean, some woman expect an Adonis yet are “not quite attractive”. Then there are those who feel more comfortable with an attraction level they feel similar to theirs. Then there are women who date whoever approaches them regardless of looks but purely because they asked. Many types of women have many types of variables. I cannot say women are “X” in this regard just knowing the women that I do… Which doesn’t remotely mirror the cliché one way or the other.

[ChiTown33]

This really depends on the woman. Some women want a guy that is bigger than them because without it they feel unfeminine and beastly. Other women have such fragile self esteem they have to have the most attractive guy to make up for their low self esteem. Anything less and won't do (I use to know one of these women) I feel sorry for them the most because generally even when they find the guy she's looking for he treats her like crazy because she is so far out of her league.
It's like I've said before to guys you can't fix what's going on between a woman's ears. Take your shot and then walk away. Have some respect for yourself if she can't see what you're bringing.

[pink_and_inlove]

My boyfriend is very attractive so I voted false lol he’s made me the happiest girl ever

[anon1903]

He's quite the eye candy.

[pink_and_inlove]

He’s even handsomer in real life

[anon1903]

Good for you, hon

[pink_and_inlove]

I wonder why people downvoted though? I didn’t say anything wrong

[tatianamay]

@pink_and_inlove those assholes who downvoted you are jealous single people. Pay no heed

[lilyanony1]

The person that doesn't think they're as attractive puts in more to make the relationship last and work. It's like anything we treasure what we really like/love. The more attractive person probably finds this to be an endearing trait. Who doesn't want to be doted on.

[Yyyyu]

I don't about it I literally know ugly guys who are grooming under age girls on discord and most guys who bear their wife are below average

[lilyanony1]

OK... So they are so insecure they go for someone inexperienced, or try to have complete control and get them to tow the line and never leave through fear and domination.
And extreme level of possession and fear of rejection. The principle is similar. One person loves a person to death, another goes for the inexperienced, the other bullies them to stay. All stems from insecurity.
They are not the same as we all have a choice in life and how we go about things is between you your maker and your conscience.
But as I always say my viewpoint may not be agreed with, and that's OK.
I just express what I feel I understand.