Men, how can a woman make herself more attractive? I'm struggling to find a partner, advice?

[Anonymous]

Any tips on how to become more attractive to men? I have no idea how to attract a man. I changed my wardrobe so I wear nice clothes (a lot of nice summer dresses and outfits), I smile a bit more because otherwise I have a bit of a resting bitch face, I lost weight so I'm nice and thin now. I try to be the best I can be to make a good impression on my personality but I still struggle to find anyone who likes me. All my other friends get hit on and find people interested in them and I seem to be the odd one out. Maybe I'm too bland? Too mediocre? What am I doing wrong? Any tips on how to improve myself?

[abc3643]

Looking attractive is important, but, believe me, it's not the most important thing...

A man wants a partner through life. This means he wants:

1) A woman who is loyal and trustworthy and supporting. Subconsciously, men view the world and each other as constant threats that need to be monitored and acted upon. That takes work, but, just as important, it involves the control of information and emotion. Men instinctively know that information = power and that the more your enemy knows about you, the more capable an enemy is at defeating you. This is why men do not show emotions much and are hard to talk to and share. BUT, if a man is in love, then he completely trusts her - that she will never be the enemy and that she will be supportive.

And, if she cheats, this is very very bad to a man because, it's not so much that you are fucking someone else, but that you are intimate with the enemy and giving away our information and secrets.

2) A woman who is confident and secure because this tells him that he can likely rely on her when the going gets tough.

3) A woman who is not a project. By project, I mean a woman who is high-maintenance or a constant damsel-in-distress type. He is fine with rescuing you or getting you out of trouble every now and then, but he doesn't want to feel like a firefighter married to an arsonist; he wants a fellow firefighter. Having to spend time energy and money to keep such a woman happy/out of trouble does two bad things:
A] Is work. He has to constantly dedicate time, energy, and money toward your needs and desires when those resources are better saved or spent on something to make your lives safer or better.
B] She is basically the opposite of what he needs: a partner - someone who will help solve or make it easier to solve life's problems which is better than someone who adds to life's problems (which implicitly makes it more difficult to solve life's existing problems).

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So, is being physically attractive important? It helps to at least get noticed - like getting your foot in the door, so to speak. But it is your personality that wins him over or not. I'd rather be with a "bland" but good woman who is supportive, not high-maintenance or damsel-in-distress or some gorgeous Instagram model high-maintenance bitch-queen who can't even make toast.

[magiusX26]

though i dont agree with everything said the very large majority of it speaks a lot of deep truth.

[livin_hi_808]

Oral sex. Learn it. Practice it and do it to many different ones to get plenty of experience.
The secret there is guys don't give a fuck if you're fat, ugly skinny and kinda cute if drunk.. You give good head and hook a guy. Speaking from personal experience. If you can hook a guy with pure ORAL MANIPULATION then he isn't going ANYWHERE

[Anonymous]

Your outfit. This will sound stupid but this worked so well for me. As soon as I did this, I started getting so many more guys talk to me. Do you own a pair of leather pants? Something like these? It works WONDERS!

[DWornock]

You need to be pretty or least attractive. If you are fat and ugly, few men will be interested. However, if you are at least attractive, plenty of men are interested but they don't count because they don't meet your standards.

Whenever a pretty girl complains that men are not interested in her, what she is really saying is that highly desirable hot guys are not interested in her.

[livin_hi_808]

That's shallow lol. What if the dude is ugly or fat or that's his flavor? Fat and/or ugly? smh

[DWornock]

@livin_hi_808 Even most average guys are rejected. Google, "Women consider 80% of men below average." Fat and ugly men don't have a chance.

[topramen1565]

Become one of the bros! And we seriously do not care about makeup! Or how pretty your nails are. If you do pull up in makeup and a sexy suit, awesome but so what? If guys find you attractive, yay, if not, dont take it to heart. It's harsh but if it makes you feel better, girls reject guys too.

Not being attractive to folks doesn't mean there's something wrong with you unless you're a jerk

[Leavesbound]

Find a fat guy with a cute brother. Then help him lose weight. If the brother is cute he will not be ugly when he's not fat. He'll be so grateful to have a beautiful girlfriend that he will be loyal like a puppy dog.

[MrCommodore]

It might be just how you act or behave around guys you like or find attractive, you might not be open or inviting with body language or not flirting and also not reading their body language.

[Asker]

This is very likely I suppose. I'm not quite sure how to flirt right maybe I'm doing things wrong

[MrCommodore]

Yes thats possibly it.
While it's almost expected that guys make the first move, in reality girls on a subconcious level usually initiate interest and make themselves more open or available to be approached. These are things you can work, lots of YouTube videos on it.

[boggboss]

Imposible to say without knowing what u look like the issue is not your attractiveness but more so u want people to approach u which is hard in this day and age as many men don't approach

[FilmGuy93]

You have to talk with people, be funny, make an active effort to involve yourself in the community

[ShadowWins]

all the advise i got is dont put on 14 pounds of makeup, and just put your hair to one shoulder and try to look sexy yk

[Yourfriend2021]

It's hard to say without seeing a picture. But if you are nice and caring that will help you.

[rachel776]

send me your picture and i'll tell you what i can