Is this strange or am I overthinking it all?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve been on two dates with this guy and I’ve just basically got out of a messy situation with another guy and I was looking to distract myself from my own emotions. On the first date with the guy he knew I was in a bad place and kept trying to hug me and hold my hand and I told him I wasn’t comfortable with physical contact but he kept trying to hug and touch me and tried to kiss me at the end of the date. I turned my head so he kissed my cheek. After the first date I told him that I wasn’t too comfortable with being touched and that it takes me a while to feel comfortable enough with someone new to hold hands and touch and kiss etc.

I went on a second date and he kept stopping to hug me and tried to hold my hand all the time. It got to the point where I felt really uncomfortable with him touching me and I felt suffocated. His hands were all over me and he kept touching my stomach and touching me under my clothes. I just went really quiet because I’d already told him that I wasn’t comfortable with physical contact but he just kept pulling me in for hugs and affection all the time and I wasn’t happy with it. Eventually I started to feel physically sick because I felt that I didn’t have much of an attraction to him yet he kept trying to touch me.

is this wrong?

[charltonhestonsgma]

you know, some people really like and even need a lot of physical contact to be fulfilled and happy, and some people, like you, are maybe not down for that. that's fine. i'd just maybe find a different person because you two aren't compatible. also, while I can understand him wanting to touch you and be close to you, it is unacceptable that he didn't respect your boundaries. if someone clearly tells you they don't want to be touched, you don't touch them. its that simple. i would break things off. also, if you just got out of a relationship, in my humble opinion, i think you should spend some solid time with yourself before you launch into a new one. don't bring sadness over another man into a new relationship.

[DarkCarousel]

You have to be comfortable with it and might not be there yet. That should be considered.
Personally, I think they were too forward and didn’t respect the things you said.
Additionally, if it’s at all possible that you have some issues with touch or intimacy, you may want to seek some further guidance there.

[ToastyOats]

Just tell him that. Also do some cardio and eat healthy so you'll feel more confident and sexual. It works.

[SamFromFL]

Yes, it’s wrong to use a new guy like that as a distraction

[Robert_]

You are overthinking it