Men, what's more attractive in a woman--kindness or intelligence?

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livin_hi_808 · Accepted Answer

What? Well I would have to say kindness because last I want is a smartass bitch. But then I don't want a nice idiot either. Both characteristics have great attributes in having them but to have one with the complete absence of the other is a complete imbalance. Looks don't make a girl beautiful, it's her personality and character that brings it all together. A good personality and character can definitely win you over without the looks but kindness and intelligence aren't enough on their own to make a girl attractive or unattractive. They are supporting attributes to balance out a spectrum of others.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

hmm... I would say kindness is more important and, a must, however... I find intelligence way more attractive.
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because I consider kindness a basic human trait that people should have (I know not everyone has it) and also is something I am very used to, I am selective with people I get involved with and at least a decent level of kindness is common to all, so... when I meet someone kind, to me is not such a big deal

while intelligence, well... that's far more scarce on this earth and these times nowadays

I just find intelligence way more attractive.

MrOracle · Answer

Kindness by far. She can be really smart or not so bright, but if she's kind, most guys will appreciate that. Smarts without kindness is useless.

rjroy3 · Answer

I used to think I didn't care about intelligence whatsoever in a female, but merely appreciated it when a girl was also intelligent without being tryhard about it.

But I found my line. There is such thing as too dumb for me lol. That said, kindness matters way way more. Intelligence almost doesn't matter outside a minimum threshold.

That makes sense tho. Male female interaction is primarily sexual. Everything after that is secondary. If she makes good money, cool. If she's smart, cool. If she's confident, cool.

But if she's hot, kind, caring, fun, adventurous. Fuck yea. I'd rather a girl be curious, adventurous, and playful than anything else aa far as personality is concerned.

Anonymous · Answer

Kindness, by a long shot. Intelligence is important too, but most of us guys would take a kind-but-less-intelligent women over an intelligent-but-unkind woman every time.

Women and men are attracted to each other for different reasons. We value different things and have different priorities, and despite living in a very different world than our ancestors did, we are still genetically programmed to find those same traits attractive in the opposite sex that our ancestors did. For what men are attracted to in women, those traits are kindness and a nurturing nature because those are what make a good mother to our children.

Floppy2112 · Answer

Kindness by a mile. Why? Because it is in such short supply. There is no shortage or women (or men) who reckon themselves geniuses. Look at the self proclaimed geniuses on twitter, some of the dumbest people alive think they are the smartest. The world is lacking kindness, decency, respect, understanding. That's the stuff we need to bring back. Anybody can read a book and be smarter, but it seldom makes them better.

IDontBelieveIt · Answer

You can be intelligent but have mean traits that's totally a turn off! Intelligence is a plus if they use it for good. If I met a brainy girl but she wasn't kind to others.. no way if she told me I could sleep with her, I still wouldn't even if I was horny.

Andres77 · Answer

This is tough.
Kindness without intelligence leads one into being taken advantage of.
Intelligence without kindness leads one to turn into an arrogant jerk.
I've been overly fortunate to have found both. She's a wonderful combination. Having to pick one, after knowing the benefits of both, would be like choosing which leg I'd rather lose.

wkozak · Answer

Both, i would like if she can understand my strange thoughts and interact with it and know how much i can go away with my imagination as a writer who is trying to make novels which reflects deep and futuristic philosophical ideas, but i need her to be kind and warm as my mother, when i feel bad about life i put my head on her thighs and start pulling out everything from my chest and she starts petting on my head and tells me that it's fine and you should have no worries because i'm with you.

BeMuse · Answer

Intelligence stands out… It’s an attractant… Kindness is comfortable and lasting. You don’t need to know everything or be kind to everyone, but you have to have a bit of both and know when to use them...

ohshee · Answer

Well I think those two work hand-in-hand I think if you were intelligent you're going to see things deeper and you're going to be kind and this is a hard question for me because both of those are a messed for me anyway

Anonymous · Answer

Kindness by about 1000x. Intelligence is nice, but honestly it doesn't really add a ton to the attractiveness of a girl. It doesn't have NEARLY the impact it seems to have the other way around. One of those REALLY fundamental differences between men and women that's worth understanding.

FatherJack · Answer

Intelligence is a bonus , providing she is not a " know it all " arrogant bitch , sadly come across many of those , true kindness would ace that. Sadly , truly kind towards men women in the West are rare. This is a result of toxic social engineering.

Barry88 · Answer

Intelligence. I need to be able to have a meaningful conversation with a woman. A woman can be incredibly kind, but if she's not intelligent, I won't be interested.

TheBootyChest · Answer

Kindness, I want to be with someone who supports me and lets me support her. Someone who I can have an emotional conversation with.

Cobygonzalez0603 · Answer

I lack intelligence so having a smart woman that completes me in the relationship and stops me from doing something stupid is a big plus for me

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

All sorts of things are attractive in a woman, but the most attractive is not having a go at me for not putting the toilet seat down!

MCheetah · Answer

Both are super attractive. But I guess kindness. An intelligent asshole would basically just be another me. ;)

Sweepthelegjonny · Answer

“Kindness” or a good heart makes a loving and supportive partner. That’s the one that matters in life.

ArztSchlachthof · Answer

Both. If she was kind but... not so "fast", then she'd not understand me at all. If she was intelligent but not kind, I wouldn't even talk to her.

Robert_ · Answer

A lack of kindness it definitely a red flag. However intelligence is something that really attracts me.

CaptainSmartass · Answer

Kindness. She has to be a kind and, ideally, sensitive woman. I'm not bothered about how smart a woman is, how many degrees she's got, or anything like that. Simples...

raw_is_war99 · Answer

Kindness, I’ve been around girls who did well in university and high school but they seemed so stuck up.

J2ohhhhh · Answer

If she can be kind to me I don't care if she's a bitch with the rest of the world, but she needs to be smart.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Men don’t give a shit about intelligence, professional or academic success, or any other masculine traits in women. We want a kind, caring, sweet, respectable, and responsible woman.

Nick473 · Answer

Definitly kindness, intelligence is ok its kind of sterile but its good if there's common knowledge you both share but kindness is special it warms our heart and shows us you love us.

Anonymous · Answer

I've never been in a relationship, but I mean if she's intelligent, chances are she's also kind. But I don't think the opposite is necessarily true.

rcljr · Answer

I will take kindness over brains, women with too much smarts overthink shit

LeoElias · Answer

She's kind but not intelligent. Or She's intelligent but she's not kind. The second one basically describes a bitch lol. Kindness definitely.

SupremeWarlord · Answer

Kindness, I like intelligent women, but I have a high tolerance of how stupid they can be, most girls I was into weren't exactly smart by the way.

demonics · Answer

No one cares about your degree for the 45634624636th time.

Iron_Man · Answer

Intelligence but if you have no kindness it won’t work out

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