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It would be a dealbreaker if HE expected sex on our first date... He would never see me again if he suggested that...
So Yes to me it's a dealbreaker.125
So first of all, let me say I'm not judging or disrespecting to anyone who has sex on a first date. As long as everyone involved is a consenting adult, I don't care what you do.
I'm just not a sex on the first date kinda guy. I'm not even a sex on the fourth or fifth date kinda guy. I really need to know someone before I'm willing to be that intimate. So if I went on a first date with someone and at the end of it they were upset we didn't have sex, we might not be that compatible4
Women like sex and want to fuck just as bad but the thing is, they put up a front and act like they are offended or my favorite, "I don't have sex on the first date." Whatever the excuse, if you don't] follow her body language and give up she will be offended and likely never have anything to do with you even though she is the one resisting and fighting your advances. What it men were like that lol?0
What Girls & Guys Said
So what percentage of them wanted just straight-up hookup?
This is interesting (a bit horrifying.)514
For me I would respect your decision but ask you why you don’t want to have sex. I don’t have hard rules on when sex should happen and I tend to gauge it depending on how well we get on. Sometimes it’s a date, sometimes a few, sometimes a few dozen and sometimes never. I don’t really understand people who think waiting 2/3 days will make a huge difference and make the person stay with you. I will wait those 2/3 days and have sex with you and still leave you if that’s what I feel like doing…0
A lot of times, women who throw pussy at guys immediately, end up feeling empty and used, and don’t feel valued by men. And they’re often not the prettiest, most exciting/interesting women.
Just focus on attracting prettier, higher quality women.0
It's a validation thing for most women, you wanting sex from them, even if they themselves don't want it.
Women want to be wanted.
If a guy shows he is in control of that situation and woman can't leverage sex anymore. She will feel like her sexual market value has dropped. And she doesn't like that, so she might seek validation fron elsewhere.
There are good women too, who have no problem with it, and actually happy to keep sex for later.30
The first date is normally to see if you both want to try for a second date. The second date is a "get to know you" date. The third date is, some of the time, the "are we comfortable enough for sex" date. Then somewhere down the line is the "is he worth having sex with" date for her. Then it may, or may not, happen.0
honestly, if you're looking for a serious relationship, you should have told your date what you're looking for. Same thing for your date. They should have told you what they're looking for in a relationship.0
If you're looking for serious avoid the ones who are pushing for sex on the first date or ghosting you because they didn't get it. Not your problem. There's women who don't want to have every penis they see.0
Definitely not a deal breaker. It’s just those type of women that you chose to invest time and emotions to date. Most women who actually want genuine relationships wouldn’t think that way and would prefer sex after being official bfgf. Those women you were seeing probably wanted something more casual and a fling.10
The reason why they ghosted you might be because they wanted sex and you refused. It's about dignity. How do I even talk to you later if something like that happened? 😅44
They complained because of your performance anxiety. They were willing and you were not, your loss. Im only gonna expect sex on the first date if she shows high interest0
Fuck no. You're a rarity, man. These girls are prolly gonna end up with a man who treats em like crap. You're good, don't worry50
If a girl has sex on the first date... she will automatically be treated as a slott because she is not valuing herself as a lady. She sold her value to a cheap conversation and some dinner. Value yourself more and connect emotionally with your significant other before the sex. Unless you just want sex. No strings attached. Same goes for the guys.1
I'd be happy if a first date lead to simple cuddling I feel no need to rush to the climax of the relationship on the first night.0
Funny. Men would be considered pigs for that kind of behavior.40
If the girl don't show any sign that show she want some sex or don't accept mine, then 100% hope we will never meet again.0
It’s because they only wanted you for sex not to date you. They didn’t see you as dating material for whatever reason.
this is most guys dream. Enjoy, haha.32
They wanted just sex and you refused. I assure you as girl you will have those unpleasant experiences with dates much more often. So stop crying and look forwards.30
Because they wanted just a one time thing. I assure you a girl who wants a relationship or even being taken seriously, will never fuck with you at first date.0
Even a kiss is too much for me on the first date. I need to get to know them properly before anything physical.0
That is just so weird. I had the same problem once or twice.32
And now you see why women like that always end up with guys like that who doesn't treat them with respect or love. They are used to men treating them like that on the first day. Now when they get somebody who's at least a bit decent now they can't appreciate it. Like a few have already had said, that's what they personally want. So because you didn't give them what they wanted, they left you. Has nothing to do with you. Has everything to do with the kind of people you interact with. That's why you don't have sex before you were married in the first place. You're now seeing why also. Is really messed up, sickening, and crazy this is exactly what people are doing.
LoL nice guy alert