Can I redeem myself after drunk texting and being clingy way too soon?

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Okay so I think I embarrassed myself with this new guy. So we met on a dating app and have been speaking for less than a week so really I shouldn’t care but hey, I do... So we had a first date and had a good time. The thing is, he didn’t mention that he has a kid. I found out before the date because obviously I did some snooping before meeting up with a stranger. I don’t mind that he has a kid but it was bothersome that he didn’t mention it. So after too much wine last night (talking to my therapist about this), I texted him and said he should have mentioned it. He got defensive and said that it was odd that I expected him to tell me so soon. I got defensive and said, “okay well how about you not text me again.” I am SO embarrassed by this. We are both nearly 30 and I feel as though I let my liquid courage make me look crazy. He actually texted me this morning and said that he was sorry he didn’t tell me and he would love to tell me all about his daughter. Can I redeem myself after being crazy and moving too fast?

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Awwww, you poor girl! 💛. Yeah, that's embarrassing for sure.
But yes, you can save this!
I don't think he did anything wrong here. He doesn't have to tell you immediately about being a dad. It does spook a lot of people, so it's understandable.
And he already apologized, so you're golden, girl.
Tell him you were drunk, and you really like him (or have high hopes, or whatever it is), and do a great apology. He'll forgive you.
This is small time stuff. Just a small hurdle to get past.

Drumlin2001 · Accepted Answer

If i were back in dating pool i would mention kids in my profile, but i can understand why he may feel different. I would be bothered by someone snooping in my life before we even had a date.
You should apologise, explain your side. See if he'll still meet up (unless you can't handle the kid thing, better to get out now if your looking for a long term thing and you dont want to take on a kid)

MotorcycleMan · Accepted Answer

Not likely, but you can learn from it for next time.
OK, I'll give it a maybe since he texted you back.
Single parents will protect their kids. They may not tell you and you may not meet their kids for some time. You should be OK with that as parents shouldn't be bringing people they don't know well around their kids.