Does this mean he didn’t love his wife?

[nella965]

If a man decides to start dating again 6 months after his wife died in a tragic accident? Isn’t it a bit too early?

[eagle1951]

some handle grief better than others. my wife passed away on Feb 19th, 2018. and I'm still not over it.

[nella965]

How can anyone forget their dead wife in just 6 months ?

[Jake99999]

Who said he is forgetting her? I am sure he will never forget her. Why are you so hell bent on interpreting this like he didn’t give a crap and he is forgetting and replacing his wife? After 6 month of being sad and missing her, he goes out on a date. It’s a way to start life again. It doesn’t mean he is flushing his wife down the toilet.

So how long should he wait? 5 years? 10 years? Let the guy move on with his life. His wife is dead. It’s been 6 months. All he is doing is going on a date.

[nella965]

@Jake99999 there is a huge difference between 6 months and 5 years. 6 months is no where close to 5 years

[Pterodon]

Not really. He’s looking for comfort

[Jake99999]

No. He can. People have a right to move on with their life.

[nella965]

Nobody is saying he can’t. He probably just didn’t really care for his wife

You can’t just replace a wife like you’re replacing toilet paper rolls at the bathroom

[Jake99999]

You don’t know that. 6 months is enough time to grieve. If a person ( man or woman ) feels ready to start living again, let them. Also the question didn’t say remarry 6 months later. Just start dating? That doesn’t sound to me like replacing a toilet roll. He may have loved his wife dearly.

[nella965]

you need to take time to remember your wife and her legacy. you can't just jump over to your next woman immediately the day your tears have stopped.

[nella965]

there is a lot of significance to a dead spouse , especially if they meant so much to you. A person with such significance will need to be remembered rather than just to be replaced within a few months. You replace a broken light bulb within a few months, not a wife. Light bulbs are not of significant sentimental value, but your dead spouse is.

[Jake99999]

Again. He is not “replacing” her. He is just going out in a date. And 6 months is half a year. It’s a long time. You are wrong. You have no right to say what he feels or doesn’t. Live your own life. Let him live his.

[nella965]

6 months is no where near a long period of time. When my mother died , I was depressed for 5 years.

[Jake99999]

If you are married and your spouse dies, feel free to live the rest of your life in memoriam. Don’t judge others you know nothing about. .

[nella965]

You know I never said that a man can never remarry but it is wrong to just replace Your wife like you’re replacing a toilet paper roll.

[nella965]

He clearly didn’t care to take time to remember his wife. It probably didn’t sting him that much either. 6 months later , I still would be devestated.

[Jake99999]

I get it, we all know how you feel. But you posted up a question. Do you want answers and opinions from other people - or do you just want everyone to agree with you? You are going to argue with every person who does not agree, and just keep at it over and over. You got your answer. So take it and move on. No one is forcing you to change your mind. And you cannot force everyone else to change theirs. People are sharing what they think. Clearly, the whole universe doesn't totally agree with you. So you are not getting the 100% validation of your take on it, that you seem to want. So move on then. If you are so sure you are right, 100%, for every guy that ever went out on a date after 6 months, then why are you even on here asking? The truth is, everyone is on their own journey and dealing with life and living their life the best they can. There are all kinds of circumstances, all kinds of people out there, trying to live their life and doing it their way.

[nella965]

Of course there will always be nuts out there who think significant people can just be replaced like toilet paper rolls. I would feel sorry for The woman who ever becomes your wife. She’s just another gadget being rotated on the conveyer belt

[nella965]

This has actually broken up families. Kids hate it when their fathers date or re marry way too early. especially if it’s under 2 years. I would say that most people agree with ken

[Jake99999]

You don't know shit about me. You are a mental case. Did your forget to take your medication?

[Danish87]

There are many cases, where husband or wife marrying in year after one of them died. It depend from person to person.

[nella965]

You can’t replace wives like you’re replacing toilet paper rolls at the bathroom.

[Jake99999]

After 6 months of grieving …. to go on a date - that is not “replacing his wife”. It’s just a date. His wife is dead. I am sure she would want him to go on with his life.

[Danish87]

@nella965 It won't be said replacing if one of died.
Some people are just over practical or may be not emotionally connected. And so can get into other relationship so early.

[nella965]

It took me 5 years to get over my mothers death. By 6 months , I was still Devestated and shocked And depressed. It was almost traumatizing.

quite honestly , it’s disrespectful to just forget your dead wife so quickly. She’s just another wife on the conveyer belt for you. She’s dead? Just look for a new one. It’s not hard. Wives are replaceable. Once your second wife is dead , go ahead and look for a new one as soon as you can.

[Danish87]

@nella965 there are lacs of people with different mentality. So there will be people.
There are people who never marry after death of their spouse.

[nella965]

@Danish87

It’s disrespectful to your dead wife and also your children.

[Danish87]

@nella965 When you say, disrespect to your wife. It feels like talking about me😅
Let me clarify 'I am single'. And this I am saying in general.

[nella965]

I doubt you would be happy to have your future wife remarry a few months after you’re dead.

[Danish87]

@nella965 Don't push things on me. I said in general point what happening in society.
And yes, If something happens to me in younger age. Will leave Financial arrangements for her
And even will be happy if she marry after me. So that she dont have to spend whole life alone.

And for me, If am loving my wife, won't ever marry again.

[nella965]

We are not talking about if your wife ever remarries. We are talking about her remarrying a few months after your death

[Danish87]

@nella965 How a person can feel good or bad after he/she dies?

I said if at younger age one dies, it's not always bad to look for other partner. Other one is having whole life there to live

[nella965]

@Danish87

You’re discussing something that’s not even the topic. The topic being discussed is remarrying within a few months after a spouses death

[Danish87]

@nella965 yes am saying on that only. If she remarry after 6 month or year it's ok

[nella965]

Of course you would. Cuz you’re too stubborn and immature to admit you’re wrong. That’s why you kept changing the topic

[Danish87]

@nella965 if someone don't match your thinking doesn't mean he is wrong or stubborn or immature.
You just don't want to see perspective I kept, nor what I answered straight way you want to know.

[nella965]

@Danish87

I could see that you did agree with me but you just didn’t want to admit it. That Explains why you were desperately trying to intentionally change or avoid the topic several times

[Danish87]

@nella965 yes nella you are right.