Do some men treat bad tempered woman better than nice woman? why?

[jennifer_bloom]

[slatyb]

Emotionally healthy men quickly drop ill-tempered women. Some men with poor self-esteem may choose an ill-tempered woman because that's what they are used to.

[es20490446e]

They project their values on them.

[jennifer_bloom]

I don’t understand, details?

[es20490446e]

You think that the reasons they act like that are the same as yours, healthy ones.

[jennifer_bloom]

Oh okay, yeah, they encode their behaviour according to their own bias

[es20490446e]

That's it.

[GoldenAxer]

I'm not sure I'm one of those but I favor assertiveness over agreeableness. If I feel like a girl is too nice to me to the point of hiding her opinions and resting her chin on her hand while complimenting left and right, then she starts to feel like a "fan" and not an "equal", if you will. I preferred the girls who would disagree with me, call me stupid (although hopefully playfully), etc, because at the very least they aren't kissing my ass. I at least know their true thoughts. When I tried dating "fan" types in the past, they agree with everything I say and seem so kind like 6 weeks into dating and then I discover a whole new side, and I don't like being surprised this way.

[GoldenAxer]

It's for similar reasons that I generally tended to date women my own age. I found the younger ones who show so much interest in me resembling a "fan" if you will. Like please don't idolize me! I'm not that great! And I'm pretty sure I'd disappoint those types if they knew me better. "I'm not as good as you think I am!" Kinda like that. So sometimes even the bitchy types, if they're assertive, appeal to me more because I don't think I'll disappoint them so much once they truly get to know me.

[GoldenAxer]

I'm really allergic to the asskisser and not just with women. At work, I have had to deal with some of those, and I don't like them. They are not in my group of most trusted people, because they flatter and compliment to the point where I'm pretty sure they're not being genuine with their thoughts. I value people most who disagree with me and challenge me but ideally in a way where we can still get along. Those are the people I want close to me, and that's the case with my wife as well. She disagrees with so many of my thoughts, and to the point of teasing me and calling me an idiot (over laughs and hugs). She never kisses my ass. And that's how I know she's among the most trustworthy people in my world.

[TallAnon]

Could be a pattern they grew up with, their mother being bad tempered, but being less bad when they did something for her. This then becomes an expectation and a woman being nice to begin with is unnatural and uncomfortable, so they seek a relationship where they can provide for a more toxic woman. The same happens to women and that's the classic example of why one particular woman may keep getting into multiple abusive relationships where she subconsciously keeps seeking out men that exhibit similar characteristics that she's used to.

[DonkeyDan]

I've not very little time for bad tempered women, I'd definitely treat a nice woman better. But then I wouldn't treat a bad tempered woman any way, don't really want bad tempered people in my life, had enough of that with my parents to last a lifetime.

[Xoxocutekitty]

A bad tempered woman isn't a doormat. She's not the kind of woman in a relationship that gets walked over. She tells him what she likes and what she doesn't like. She doesn't fall prey to this expectation that women are supposed to be happy customer support bots in public and at home.

Guys are pretty straightforward. If you're smiling, they assume you are halpy. If you're mad, they want you act mad instead of getting mad over an arbitrary 'last straw' two weeks later. If you're sad, they want you to tell them how to comfort you.

Most men view 'bad tempered' women who are women - complete with good bad and ugly.

[drakethibault1]

I wouldn't tolerate a bad tempered woman and treat her better than a nice woman. Usually when bad woman acts trashy, I dont argue with them but I firmly and respectfully state that she should calm down, otherwise I am not talking. If that doesn't work I just leave.
Therefore, I might not argue with her (what's the point anyway), but it doesn't mean I will treat her better.

[ChiTown33]

This question has way too many variables in it. I mean this all comes down to perceived value vs. Actual value. Men treat women according to their perceived value. Just because you see her as bad tempered doesn't mean he does. Or if he does it might mean he sees more value than you do. So her bad temper is worth putting up with.
It's kind of like with you women. You'll fight over a guy simply because he's more attractive. It doesn't make him a higher value guy. He's just perceived that way in your mind because it's on the surface. It's seems the most obvious.

[Ghostlock]

Hell no, I get the hell away from bad tempered women. In my experience nothing good has ever come out of a relationship with a bad tempered woman. As soon as a woman puts on her*tough guy act* with me and tries to act like she's a tough girl... I'm gone.

[drdank518]

I stopped tolerating bad tempered womens bullshit a long time ago. I don't need that kind of energy in my life. Unfortunately I've met some women over the years that thought being a ball-buster with an abrasive personality was a necessity to succeed in this world. It's like no you dumb bitch; all it means is I don't wanna be around your soap-opera-loving bullshit.

How fucking hard is it in this world to just be nice to people?

[Tomsta]

Psychologically we tend to stay with what is familiar. If said guy is used to dealing with bad tempered women and said blowback of said women then they are going to be drawn to that as that's was is familiar. Same conceptual idea behind people that always end up in abusive or exploitive relationships

[Lynx122]

I don't, if being around someone makes me miserable I stop being around them. I always find kind, giving, sweet, understanding women :). It doesn't mean that there's no challenges involved but at least the baseline is in a good place.

[Cryptoanonne]

Lol I think this is a misunderstanding possibly. Guys might feel like they have to pander to more aggressive women because theyre scared of em. doesn't mean they genuinely treat them 'better'. in my opinion maybe the misconception is that females who are super overly nice sonetimes feel like theyre faking it so it might seem unattractive possibly? I think most guys like girls who talk to em more as equals and are genuine with them

[FreyaRed]

Being unpredictable. Nice people have to behave inside specific limits of nice behavior, that makes them very predictable. Being a little bit dangerous, mastering of reward and punishment while appearing not too transparent pays always off. Not just with guys but even with people who love you unconditionally like your parents.

[FilmGuy93]

Because the bad tempered women don't put up with the BS that nicer women do.

[dwiller943]

Nice girls have standards too. We literally reject ssholes and put them in their place. But as long as we don't act like trash, it's still not enough.

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

Because they love the spiciness for whatever reason.

[libsaretards]

Personally, I treat a nice woman better. If a woman wants to get an attitude with me, I'll shut that shit down fast. I demand respect both ways in a relationship.

[Joshua0213]

Nah the nicer the better. Tbh my girlfriend is really nice to me but someone insults me and she turns into a demon, its scary😂 I hate fights with random people so normally just ignore them but she doesn't let that slide

[t-8900]

No I tuned them out immediately
I don't like attitude. Extremely unattractive

[jasco]

Some dude and its mostly do to how they were raise. If a man experience such behavior as a child he may be turn on by it as a adult. It's not always gonna happen but its a chance

[worldscolide]

I won't be with someone who is bad tempered.. Been there, done that.. I have the scars where she sliced my face up to prove it. Fuck that.

[RiverUndertheSkY]

🤭 woooooah

[Pummel]

I think I treat all women with respect and common courtesy.. remember Ill tempered people sometimes just need a kind, loving or encouraging word...

I speak from experience.. I had a tough paper route growing up