Do some men treat bad tempered woman better than nice woman? why?

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slatyb · Accepted Answer

Emotionally healthy men quickly drop ill-tempered women. Some men with poor self-esteem may choose an ill-tempered woman because that's what they are used to.

es20490446e · Accepted Answer

They project their values on them.

GoldenAxer · Answer

I'm not sure I'm one of those but I favor assertiveness over agreeableness. If I feel like a girl is too nice to me to the point of hiding her opinions and resting her chin on her hand while complimenting left and right, then she starts to feel like a "fan" and not an "equal", if you will. I preferred the girls who would disagree with me, call me stupid (although hopefully playfully), etc, because at the very least they aren't kissing my ass. I at least know their true thoughts. When I tried dating "fan" types in the past, they agree with everything I say and seem so kind like 6 weeks into dating and then I discover a whole new side, and I don't like being surprised this way.

TallAnon · Answer

Could be a pattern they grew up with, their mother being bad tempered, but being less bad when they did something for her. This then becomes an expectation and a woman being nice to begin with is unnatural and uncomfortable, so they seek a relationship where they can provide for a more toxic woman. The same happens to women and that's the classic example of why one particular woman may keep getting into multiple abusive relationships where she subconsciously keeps seeking out men that exhibit similar characteristics that she's used to.

DonkeyDan · Answer

I've not very little time for bad tempered women, I'd definitely treat a nice woman better. But then I wouldn't treat a bad tempered woman any way, don't really want bad tempered people in my life, had enough of that with my parents to last a lifetime.

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

A bad tempered woman isn't a doormat. She's not the kind of woman in a relationship that gets walked over. She tells him what she likes and what she doesn't like. She doesn't fall prey to this expectation that women are supposed to be happy customer support bots in public and at home.

Guys are pretty straightforward. If you're smiling, they assume you are halpy. If you're mad, they want you act mad instead of getting mad over an arbitrary 'last straw' two weeks later. If you're sad, they want you to tell them how to comfort you.

Most men view 'bad tempered' women who are women - complete with good bad and ugly.

drakethibault1 · Answer

I wouldn't tolerate a bad tempered woman and treat her better than a nice woman. Usually when bad woman acts trashy, I dont argue with them but I firmly and respectfully state that she should calm down, otherwise I am not talking. If that doesn't work I just leave.
Therefore, I might not argue with her (what's the point anyway), but it doesn't mean I will treat her better.

ChiTown33 · Answer

This question has way too many variables in it. I mean this all comes down to perceived value vs. Actual value. Men treat women according to their perceived value. Just because you see her as bad tempered doesn't mean he does. Or if he does it might mean he sees more value than you do. So her bad temper is worth putting up with.
It's kind of like with you women. You'll fight over a guy simply because he's more attractive. It doesn't make him a higher value guy. He's just perceived that way in your mind because it's on the surface. It's seems the most obvious.

Ghostlock · Answer

Hell no, I get the hell away from bad tempered women. In my experience nothing good has ever come out of a relationship with a bad tempered woman. As soon as a woman puts on her*tough guy act* with me and tries to act like she's a tough girl... I'm gone.

drdank518 · Answer

I stopped tolerating bad tempered womens bullshit a long time ago. I don't need that kind of energy in my life. Unfortunately I've met some women over the years that thought being a ball-buster with an abrasive personality was a necessity to succeed in this world. It's like no you dumb bitch; all it means is I don't wanna be around your soap-opera-loving bullshit.

How fucking hard is it in this world to just be nice to people?

Tomsta · Answer

Psychologically we tend to stay with what is familiar. If said guy is used to dealing with bad tempered women and said blowback of said women then they are going to be drawn to that as that's was is familiar. Same conceptual idea behind people that always end up in abusive or exploitive relationships

Lynx122 · Answer

I don't, if being around someone makes me miserable I stop being around them. I always find kind, giving, sweet, understanding women :). It doesn't mean that there's no challenges involved but at least the baseline is in a good place.

Cryptoanonne · Answer

Lol I think this is a misunderstanding possibly. Guys might feel like they have to pander to more aggressive women because theyre scared of em. doesn't mean they genuinely treat them 'better'. in my opinion maybe the misconception is that females who are super overly nice sonetimes feel like theyre faking it so it might seem unattractive possibly? I think most guys like girls who talk to em more as equals and are genuine with them

FreyaRed · Answer

Being unpredictable. Nice people have to behave inside specific limits of nice behavior, that makes them very predictable. Being a little bit dangerous, mastering of reward and punishment while appearing not too transparent pays always off. Not just with guys but even with people who love you unconditionally like your parents.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Because the bad tempered women don't put up with the BS that nicer women do.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

Because they love the spiciness for whatever reason.

libsaretards · Answer

Personally, I treat a nice woman better. If a woman wants to get an attitude with me, I'll shut that shit down fast. I demand respect both ways in a relationship.

Joshua0213 · Answer

Nah the nicer the better. Tbh my girlfriend is really nice to me but someone insults me and she turns into a demon, its scary😂 I hate fights with random people so normally just ignore them but she doesn't let that slide

t-8900 · Answer

No I tuned them out immediately  I don't like attitude. Extremely unattractive

jasco · Answer

Some dude and its mostly do to how they were raise. If a man experience such behavior as a child he may be turn on by it as a adult. It's not always gonna happen but its a chance

worldscolide · Answer

I won't be with someone who is bad tempered.. Been there, done that.. I have the scars where she sliced my face up to prove it. Fuck that.

Pummel · Answer

I think I treat all women with respect and common courtesy.. remember Ill tempered people sometimes just need a kind, loving or encouraging word...

I speak from experience.. I had a tough paper route growing up

fred_durst · Answer

if he is beta cuck , yes he get turned on by being treated that way

crazy8000 · Answer

They do just like the other way around. I say. Go with what works for you otherwise is it pointless.

Arabella_Rose · Answer

just because a woman is bad tempered , it doesn't mean she is not nice. Just because a woman doesn't have a temper, it does not mean she is a nice person. Some people like feisty women. Not all men like calm girls.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Based on your question, I'd say probably some people do. That's not far fetched.

Passion_Devil · Answer

Bad tempered doesn't always equal BAD. Some men don't want a pushover puppy who can do any trick on command. Some men prefer feisty. It can be a thrill to these men. Some men want to tame that.

Anonymous · Answer

Mommy issues , if their mother is horrible they tend to choose bad girls. Lack of confidence , white knight mentality , lack of women friends can be reasons.

EaterPeter · Answer

They do. Why, I don't know. I was one of those men. I hope I am not one of them any more.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys who had abusive moms and/or sisters feel more at home with bad tempered women because they are familiar to him...

Nick473 · Answer

No, ill be nice but i won't like her and she definitely isn't gonna get much attention

legalboxers · Answer

my ex was a sociopath, the olivia Rodrigo song (if it was a male version) its about her..

Azura_88 · Answer

Really? They cry that they want a submissive woman so I don't know how it's possible. Angry girls are a turn off for them.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes cause some men like a dominant woman but not me

NATRAL · Answer

No, I’m very nice to nice women, I reciprocate the energy. When dealing with a bad tempered women, I tend to find myself being toxic to counter it or just ignore that person and not waste my time and conscious

Janessa2021 · Answer

Abso-fuckin-lutely i an a testament of that. They love when women talk shit and be mean to them fir some weird ass reason. I think its stupid but to each their own

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

Because us men are not "allowed" to stand up to intolerable bitches.

jshm2 · Answer

Those will usually be simps and/or submissive men.

livin_hi_808 · Answer

Yeah weak ass simp fucks

BlackManIsGod · Answer

I'm no abuser or whatever but I guess it's because they can fight back and tell them when they're unhappy and don't want to deal with that

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why some women treat bad tempered men better than nice men

anylolone · Answer

Same reason why some women treat bad tempered men better than nice men.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

Yeah, I’m sure some men do.

Anonymous · Answer

i sure as hell don't. they fight with me i fight right back. i don't put up with or tolerate anyone's shit

Shy_Steve · Answer

Probably because a lot of Women treat bad tempered Men nicely and usually ignore nice Men.

Avicenna · Answer

Some men? Sure. But it’s foolish.

crazysassypaws21 · Answer

yup I don't know why people are crazy

Starwitch23 · Answer

Yes, I saw lot of men doing that.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Any man who does so, suffers from Masochism.

CaliSixx · Answer

Because they know if they don't. We'll kill them

xXstrangermae · Answer

Eh- Idk- I'm very helpful by the way

Anonymous · Answer

Yes If she's with a simp.

Shihab91 · Answer

Some do , others don't

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

No, not that I know of.

Anonymous · Answer

some guys like dominant women

dwiller943 · Answer

*All

jimmy2 · Answer

I doubt that

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