Yeah you should stop having sex with him if you want to get over him. We keep saying that sex is separated than anything else but this is not true because during sex you actually get more than just a mechanical stimulation. You get attention, care, dedication etc. If it was only a cold mechanical thing you could be done with a sex toy, isn't it? And same is for him but he gets enough with just these small dedications and cares already, while for you these things give you hope for getting more of it.
By continuing to get crumbles you're just reinforcing an addiction and in the meanwhile you interiorize the fact you're "meant to be" a secondary one, a last choice of someone, and that you can't aim to anything better.
He is also cruel by accepting sex with you while -knowing- you're into him and he isn't reciprocating, because this means he is deliberately exploiting you, instead of having some basic human respect and refusing to cause more damage.
Further, when he'll get a girlfriend you will feel destroyed. He is not going to commit to you because he had plenty of chances to do so but he never did, so you won't be his girlfriend but only a sexual entertainment. A girlfriend will eventually come in his life.
So, yeah, to get over him efficiently you have to first of all cut all the sources of those "crumbles" (sex, sexting, affective moments). So many other guys will give you sex and proper respect, as well as committing to a relationship with you. You just have to never allow anyone else to exploit your feelings like this guy and you won't be trapped anymore in such situations. Require guys to be committed to you before getting into a sexual relationship, else, nothing.
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He doesn't have time for a relationship, yet had time to have sex? Sounds like an excuse because he really doesn't want to commit.. You're not going to get over him if you keep having sex with him.. This friends with benefits culture has distorted what true friendship is.. Friends don't fuck each other, at least not in my day and time. Calling it Friends with benefits is just a way to glorify hooking up.. The more women that give in to those types of relationships, the more men that won't commit to a relationship... Why would they when by having friends with benefits, they can have sex with whoever/whenever and say it's not cheating. Hopefully you all are practicing safe sex..
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