If you're not patriotic, would you date someone who's really patriotic?

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Or vice versa?

SirRexington · Accepted Answer

It would wind up causing trouble. When people say that they are patriotic it comes most often from two separate places.
1: they love this country and believe if you don't support it the way it is that you should leave and stop complaining.
2: you believe dissent and expressing your criticism of how we can make the country better than it already is determines patriotism.

So ultimately do you pledge allegiance to a symbol? Or do you pledge allegiance to the people of that nation? Because to me, I don't care about the government or the businesses or the flag or any of that. But I do care about the citizens. I do care about their conditions and their prosperity. If I see a large swath of the population unnecessarily struggling then I am going to speak up and I'm not going to allow some coward who refuses to stand their ground and fight for a better life to convince me that my criticisms are invalid.

ThrowAwayx404 · Accepted Answer

It depends on what “patriotic” means to that person.

Unfortunately, today’s definition seems to be “I’m a ignorant, uneducated, conspiracy theorist, Trump cocksucker with unsophisticated views of America, politics and social issues, and who thinks America is perfect and our history is all rainbows and butterflies”.

Given that that’s the current definition in the US, I’d say fuck no.

If the definition went back to “I care about my neighbors and community” maybe I’d be more willing.

DeeDeeDeVour · Accepted Answer

I'm an American and also half Filipino. However, only my accent is American. My physical appearance is very Filipina. Within the time I lived 19+ years in the Philippines, unsuspecting visitors from either China and/or several Arab countries would bad-mouth my beloved USA so much with made up lies that I reached that point in which I calmly debated their opinions, rationally fought back against their opinions, immaturely threw a drink on them, immaturely gave them middle fingers, immaturely cussed at them and/or politely turned my back on them.

Whatthefluff · Accepted Answer

I find it difficult to agree with someone who blindly and wholly supports their country, especially if they feel "proud" of their nation's history. I think this applies to any country.

Account · Answer

No, I wouldn't date a patriotic person.

slatyb · Answer

Patriotic? Like what? Pretending our country is perfect when clearly it's not? That's not patriotic, that's just jingoism. Or truly patriotic, working to make things better? Because if you look at the people we honor today, they are honored for taking a risk, going against the status quo to make improvement -- the women who fought to get the vote, Rosa Parks, the freedom riders, Daniel Ellsberg, the Vietnam war protesters, the protesters at the Stonewall riots, Woodward and Bernstein. Eventually I expect it will be Chelsea Manning and Edward Snowden.

BlackTealLazer · Answer

I would date a soldier.
I would not date someone who's aggessively trying to shove everything that makes someone a "true American" down my throat.
Honest... answer.

~Patriotism isn't judged on how many people hear your views about you country, but by what you do for it yourself even in the smallest act of kindness.~

humpbackjack · Answer

As long as she could agree to disagree on some things and was ok with each of us having our own things. Really just like any relationship you’re not going to see everything the exact same way and I’m going to have interests that they’re not into and vise versa I mean I’m not what most would consider patriotic but I feel like I am to the point to where I’d definitely fight for my country so someone being really patriotic wouldn’t be a deal breaker

AndrewMG · Answer

I would but being patriotic is weird, I mean why would you take pride in the fact your parents had the horn 9 months before you were born so you were born in a particular place... I mean it's just a weird thing to be proud of! lol

Friendlybro79 · Answer

This is for everyone who thinks patriotic is a bad word or meaning extreme right wingers...

Definition- Having or expressing devotion to and vigorous support for one's country. This isn't a bad word. We're not perfect but we can still be patriotic for the things we do right and still strive to better.

Democrats and Republicans or anyone for that matter can be patriotic without it meaning crazy conspiracy theorists driven to riot the capitol.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on if they are actually patriotic or if they surface-level patriotic. Do they sacrifice for their country or do they just like waving the flag? Do they contribute to improving the nation or are they only interested in personal benefits of being a citizen, while wanting to deny those benefits to their countrymen? I'd date a real patriot, but there's a lot of fake patriots out here these days.

KellyTarrel · Answer

You'd have to reverse the example for me. I'm the patriotic one.

Shamiah02 · Answer

Not here in America.  The really patriotic Americans usually have no clue what America was built on, and instead of following American values they beliefs are the opposite

DonkeyDan · Answer

We're not allowed to be patriotic in the UK anymore, the "woke" people had a meeting and it was decided 😂😂😂

MCheetah · Answer

As long as they weren't hateful, vitriolic, or extremely negative, then I guess it'd be fine. It's okay to give proper criticism towards a country and not turn into an asshole about it.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

Well, I’m not too patriotic, but I could date someone who was very patriotic or not patriotic at all.  It really depends on the person, their views, how they get along with me, etc.

NathanDavis · Answer

I'm thrice as patriotic

tatianamay · Answer

Depends. Dont try to force your views on me, and we're good

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

As long they aren't an asshole about it, because some are, as well as racist and think they're better than others.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Depends whether they're the smart kind of patriots or the stupid kind. By that I mean depends on whether they accept criticism to the country or will go crazy if someone says they don't like something about said country.

HighValue · Answer

I am patriotic and I couldn't be with someone that isn't patriotic at all. I'd assume they are an America hating liberal.

t-8900 · Answer

The rule of thumb is no politics at the dinner table. that used to keep families together. now everyone has no filter... really annoying

Mossberg500 · Answer

I suppose I'd have to simply explain why I'm a real Patriot and she's fallen for the two party false dichotomy. How she reacts to that would determine the rest.

genericname85 · Answer

ah that's not gonna be an issue in germany. here, nobody is patriotic. cause if you dare to act patriotic, people will call you a nazi and shun you.

MountAverage · Answer

A person that's really patriotic will generally have a lot of views that are polar opposite of mine. So I don't see why I would want to be with someone like that.

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

Nope, I don’t care to hear “Muricas the best” every 5 seconds 😂 and have the whole outside of my house decked with American flags

legalboxers · Answer

nope.. Im not too keen on being an accessory to someone who wanted to storm the Capitol and be like "I have violent diarrhea.. I need to use your bathroom, and oh by the way Trump won the election, there was too much fraud

Kaneki05 · Answer

100% no. Reasons are pretty obvious to anyone who knows how Nazi's happened.

Rachel794 · Answer

As long as there’s listening, respect and open communication sure.

Mangospacho · Answer

It depends on how patriotic they are. If it interferes with the relationship or it’s something they’re obsessed with, then it’s a problem no matter what it is they’re into.

Miristheiss · Answer

As long as they weren't anti country I would be fine.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I'm patriotic, but I don't mind if she isn't. As long as she's loyal to this country.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

What does it mean to be patriotic?

Guardian45 · Answer

If their patriotism is the elephant in the relationship, then Bye!

Fuentes · Answer

I'm patriotic so vice versa NO, and i mean a idiot who hates this country but refuses to leave it, we will just not work out.

Manchild2018 · Answer

I have a much different take on this. To me those 2 people are sleeping. I need a girl who understands that patriotism is just a fake way to control you through propaganda and lies.

noohair · Answer

With all the faults, I still love this country,  I wish I could find a woman I could say that about.

Wester1967 · Answer

I’m the USA? Any patriotic woman is a self deluded imperialist clueless idiot with no knowledge about how the world actually works.

Jayplays900 · Answer

If they can bring in other people's ideas and aren't one-dimensional, then yeah.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I can, but she's can't be a anti patriot or open border supporter idiot.

Browneye57 · Answer

Tell us how you define 'patriotic'. As in, they like the country and you hate it?  Or one is a trump loyalist and the other a never trumper?

loveslongnails · Answer

You'd have to define what you mean by "patriotic". I know people know who "think" they are but haven't got a clue. I wouldn't date them at all.

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Answer

While it seems like a good thing/sounds great on paper, in the end, sacrificing for the corrupt, the abusive, the dumb, the manipulative etc - isn't really a good idea.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Sounds like way to much work plus I can imagine how difficult it might be.

MrJMM · Answer

Yeah, you need to define patriotic in a specific way because everyone got an opinion on how someone is supposed to be a patriotic person.

ImmortalHanma · Answer

That’d be awesome because gifts would be super easy

NewgodX · Answer

A too much of anything is a bad thing  Simple

Anonymous · Answer

NO! I'm a Conservative, but I'm not a radical Conservative.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yeah, I think it would be fine

Andres77 · Answer

depends on how militant that might mean.

Still-alive · Answer

nah i think that'd get annoying real quick

msc545 · Answer

Sure, as long as they were not right-wing facists.

TallAnon · Answer

Sure, the word means nothing to me

Laura456 · Answer

Def not. I want to live in peace haha

Alexa99 · Answer

Probably not ones who don't tend to be negative.

B4852 · Answer

Depends on what she is being Patriotic over.

JesseTheMan · Answer

Nah probably not, patriotism is kinda cringe.

Joker_ · Answer

If she was hot

Vigors · Answer

Hell no

Ruenella_ · Answer

Absolutely.

Sketti2021 · Answer

Meh doesn't matter

Nightroads · Answer

Why would it matter?

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Yes, I would

Jouth · Answer

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