Is an 18 year old too young for a 25 year old?

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She’s really mature for her age because her parents are in their 50’s. And she’s been working since she was 16. I just feel weird because I like her…. I hate that I do. All my ex girlfriends have been older than me too. Like when I was 18, I dated a recently divorced 29 year old woman. She taught me that age doesn’t matter, but still? I wasted most of my time on bad women, that’s why I haven’t settled down yet. I don’t know what to feel about the age difference, though?

Cherry234 · Accepted Answer

No that's fine. 18 years old is the age where you're no longer a minor. It's not that big of an age difference so it's fine. I'm not concerned about age gaps as long as the guy I'm with is at least 18. But I don't like age gaps that are too huge. I don't necessarily want a guy that's 20 years older than me.

I would date someone younger, older, or the same age as me. I've been told before that I should stick to guys that are my age or older than me but I don't see why I have to. What's the big deal? Age shouldn't matter that much. It also seems like a lot of men aren't into older women. I'm glad you're not one of them

Mary087 · Accepted Answer

Nobody can tell you who to date, you have to decide for yourself. It's up to you. If you really like her then go for it. I personally have had a thing for guys 18-20 but it all depends on the personality compatibility and places you guys are in your lives.

Vikkrram · Accepted Answer

Buddy I am in same situation like you and i seriously don't know how it started , i tried to hide my feelings but it was impossible to hide and same for her also. We never talked wid each other , and honestly speaking i feel shame on me and feel weired when i come in front of her. I can't even look in her eyes coz of my shame. I know it's impossible to be together and she also knows that. But when i come in front of her and when she looks at me constantly i feel really very shame and guilt on myself.

Slingblade1126 · Accepted Answer

It's a 7 year difference, which to me isn't a lot. My current girlfriend and I are 8yrs and my ex and I were 7yrs but to me it's not the age difference but the actual ages. At 18 to me she is just becoming a woman while you are already a man or at least a young man. If she was 25 and you were 32 most people wouldn't bat an eye because you both pretty much know what you want, at 18, she's still learning.

hahahmm · Answer

You have not learned how to have a healthy relationship and you want to experiment on this young lady. I vote, 'no'. UNLESS she has already dated guys like yourself and is fully informed about the risks. Otherwise... it's like you're drowning in the water & don't know how to swim and you want somebody to throw another clueless person to you.

When two people are closer in age or both are older this isn't an issue.

Spookydood · Answer

Ok lets say the two of you work out really well. The age difference is going to matter less as you get older. The age difference as of now seems a bit much, but she's an adult, she can make her own decisions. If you're taking it into serious consideration, i don't see a problem here.

AviatorTom · Answer

Seven years is not too much of an age difference. If you feel like you're robbing the cradle, wait a few years until she's a bit older.

Look at it this way. If this turned into a long-term relationship, when you're 60, she would be 53. I know many couples with larger age gaps.

DaveJord · Answer

I say do whatever if she is 18 and legal. Its a little creepy... I mean its a 7 year difference so not like you're robbing the cradle. Just kinda easy for a 25 year old, to take advantage of an 18 year old. So if you're doing it for the right reasons and it felt right... then you would not need to ask.

You sound like you have some guilt and reservations... so do what you think is right.

At least say she's out of highschool.

lisa-elly · Answer

It's borderline and obviously no one rule can fit everyone in all situations. But I would say that at 25, you're still young but have a lot more life experience behind you (and with it, maturity), whereas at 18yo most people are essentially excitable kids/teenagers in an adults body.

Worth thinking about whether the 18yo should get some more life experience first before committing to a 25yo. After age 21/22 then I'd say everyone's fair game though. Hope this helps!

Anonymous · Answer

She is still technically a kid and your a grown ass adult how can you possibly even be attracted to her or even be with her that’s just so wrong and kind of creepy to see a grown ass man attracted to a child
I would say the same if it was a woman interested in an 18 year old most of the advice here is telling you to not ask her out but you are completely ignore those opinions

Walamagicc · Answer

It’s barely okay. She’s legally an adult but she isn’t old enough to get into any clubs or bars with you and she doesn’t know anything about life because she’s a baby. A 25 year old has probably already been to college and have their own apartment, possibly even a career set up. An 18 year old and 25 year old are at two completely different stages in life.

John987654321 · Answer

It's a big age gap in that age bracket, but it's not necessarily undoable, either. If you two really like each other, and the two of you mutually want to date each other, I'd say that's fine.

okeydoke · Answer

You can date her, but you will start to notice significant lifestyle differences and maturity differences completely based on having less independent life experience. As a general rule I’m not interested in seriously dating someone under 22.

Anonymous · Answer

For some reason it's okay for a guy to be older... not the other way around? Is she 25? Or 18? If you like her go for it. My parents are 15 years apart lol

tatianamay · Answer

Dont worry, man. Its gonna matter a lot less when you're okder. Dont sweat it. she's an adult

SEL195 · Answer

No she is not too young. She just has less life experience than you.

pink_and_inlove · Answer

I don't know I’d be careful because some girls leave younger guys for older guys it happend to my boyfriend when he dated older girls

Visionary7 · Answer

My niece is 18 and I wouldn't want her dating a 25 year old for some reason 🥴

bamesjond0069 · Answer

18 and 25 is fine. I was 34 and my girlfriend was 18 she's since turned 19.

OddBeMe · Answer

Eh, borderline, but she’s 18. If she were 17, I’d say slow your roll. So nothing to worry about.

bpking · Answer

At 18 a person doesn’t know what they want or even who they are yet. They’re not emotionally mature yet.

Anonymous · Answer

Na when I was 27 I slept with two 18 year olds. Ebony and Latin. It’s okay as long as you don’t get her pregnant

FunkyMonkee · Answer

It's only 7 years! She's legal, go for it!

ChiPaPa · Answer

No. They're both adults. It's only seven years.

Twalli · Answer

My age limit it +-10 years

Angalena · Answer

Heck no I think it's fine

In_Trance · Answer

Lol really mature. Riiiight

Fearlessegale · Answer

I'm chill with that.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

It’s fine

msc545 · Answer

It isn't a problem

H3LLBRING3R · Answer

Not really.

lycanthrope3 · Answer

Nope

Slim57 · Answer

Nope

Anonymous · Answer

No, 17 is too young.

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