Is an 18 year old too young for a 25 year old?

[Anonymous]

She’s really mature for her age because her parents are in their 50’s. And she’s been working since she was 16. I just feel weird because I like her…. I hate that I do. All my ex girlfriends have been older than me too. Like when I was 18, I dated a recently divorced 29 year old woman. She taught me that age doesn’t matter, but still? I wasted most of my time on bad women, that’s why I haven’t settled down yet. I don’t know what to feel about the age difference, though?

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I’m gonna ask her out. I was freaked out at first, but I really like her. I think I could even see myself with her forever. Sometimes, things like age don’t matter if that means I get to spend time with the woman of my dreams. Thank you to everyone who answered.

[Cherry234]

No that's fine. 18 years old is the age where you're no longer a minor. It's not that big of an age difference so it's fine. I'm not concerned about age gaps as long as the guy I'm with is at least 18. But I don't like age gaps that are too huge. I don't necessarily want a guy that's 20 years older than me.

I would date someone younger, older, or the same age as me. I've been told before that I should stick to guys that are my age or older than me but I don't see why I have to. What's the big deal? Age shouldn't matter that much. It also seems like a lot of men aren't into older women. I'm glad you're not one of them

[Cherry234]

OP go for it. Don't listen to some of these people on here

[Cherry234]

Oh you mean the person you like is 18 and you're 25? Sorry I think I've been mistaken. Either way if you like her then go for it

[Mary087]

Nobody can tell you who to date, you have to decide for yourself. It's up to you. If you really like her then go for it. I personally have had a thing for guys 18-20 but it all depends on the personality compatibility and places you guys are in your lives.

[Vikkrram]

Buddy I am in same situation like you and i seriously don't know how it started , i tried to hide my feelings but it was impossible to hide and same for her also. We never talked wid each other , and honestly speaking i feel shame on me and feel weired when i come in front of her. I can't even look in her eyes coz of my shame. I know it's impossible to be together and she also knows that. But when i come in front of her and when she looks at me constantly i feel really very shame and guilt on myself.

[Slingblade1126]

It's a 7 year difference, which to me isn't a lot. My current girlfriend and I are 8yrs and my ex and I were 7yrs but to me it's not the age difference but the actual ages. At 18 to me she is just becoming a woman while you are already a man or at least a young man. If she was 25 and you were 32 most people wouldn't bat an eye because you both pretty much know what you want, at 18, she's still learning.

[hahahmm]

You have not learned how to have a healthy relationship and you want to experiment on this young lady. I vote, 'no'. UNLESS she has already dated guys like yourself and is fully informed about the risks. Otherwise... it's like you're drowning in the water & don't know how to swim and you want somebody to throw another clueless person to you.

When two people are closer in age or both are older this isn't an issue.

[Visionary7]

Exactly

[Asker]

I don’t know about her past boyfriends. I know it won’t matter as time goes on, but I really don’t know what to think?

[hahahmm]

You said you hate that you like her. That's a hint that this isn't the right one for you. Keep it moving. Your gut is smarter than your penis.

[Asker]

No, that’s the thing. I don’t think about sleeping with her. Like it’s actually more than that.

[Visionary7]

It's just weird. You're 25, she's practically still a teen...

[Asker]

@Visionary7 you’re right, but she doesn’t look like it, or even acts like a 23 year old.

[Asker]

@Visionary7 like you would think that we’re the same age if you saw us together in the streets.

[Visionary7]

Yeah most teens look mature nowadays.

[Asker]

@Visionary7 I think we’ll just lie about our ages until she’s 20. I really haven’t met someone like her in my whole life.

[hahahmm]

@asker "I don’t think about sleeping with her" - then your gut is smarter than your penis & your brain.

[Spookydood]

Ok lets say the two of you work out really well. The age difference is going to matter less as you get older. The age difference as of now seems a bit much, but she's an adult, she can make her own decisions. If you're taking it into serious consideration, i don't see a problem here.

[Asker]

I really think I can live a happy life with her. I just wish she was older. I know it won’t matter in 2 years, but I really hate myself for this….

[Spookydood]

Lmao. You haven't made it past your mid 20s, bud. Don't tie yourself in knots.

[Asker]

You’re right. We’ll just lie about our ages until she’s 20. She’s going to the military soon anyways. So time will fly and she’ll be 20 before I know it.

[Spookydood]

Well.. Good luck with that.

[AviatorTom]

Seven years is not too much of an age difference. If you feel like you're robbing the cradle, wait a few years until she's a bit older.

Look at it this way. If this turned into a long-term relationship, when you're 60, she would be 53. I know many couples with larger age gaps.

[DaveJord]

I say do whatever if she is 18 and legal. Its a little creepy... I mean its a 7 year difference so not like you're robbing the cradle. Just kinda easy for a 25 year old, to take advantage of an 18 year old. So if you're doing it for the right reasons and it felt right... then you would not need to ask.

You sound like you have some guilt and reservations... so do what you think is right.

At least say she's out of highschool.

[lisa-elly]

It's borderline and obviously no one rule can fit everyone in all situations. But I would say that at 25, you're still young but have a lot more life experience behind you (and with it, maturity), whereas at 18yo most people are essentially excitable kids/teenagers in an adults body.

Worth thinking about whether the 18yo should get some more life experience first before committing to a 25yo. After age 21/22 then I'd say everyone's fair game though. Hope this helps!

[DaveJord]

The more I think about it, its a like more than borderline.

[Anonymous]

She is still technically a kid and your a grown ass adult how can you possibly even be attracted to her or even be with her that’s just so wrong and kind of creepy to see a grown ass man attracted to a child
I would say the same if it was a woman interested in an 18 year old most of the advice here is telling you to not ask her out but you are completely ignore those opinions

[Asker]

I’m not attracted to them, why do you think I made this question in the first place? Plus, she literally looks 26. You wouldn’t even tell if you saw us together that she was actually younger. I like her because of her personality. Plus, like I said I only dated older women in the past. So it’s not like I was interested in that age in the first place.

[DaveJord]

Dude, saying she looks 26 when know she's not is weak... and why would it matter if people could tell if the say you together.

At end of the day, when I was 25 I thought 18 year olds were kids. Dating one would be like the college sophomore showing up at a high school party.

If she just graduated highschool and went to college, she'd be a freshmen and you should graduated and gone.

If she's still in highschool you're just a loser dude.

[Asker]

@DaveJord you don’t even know me. I work three jobs. She’s in the one I make the less in. I make $40 an hour in one and decent in my other. And she’s been in college for over a year. Don’t assume anything. If anything, you’re a loser because you think you know everything.

[DaveJord]

You come on here and ask a question, and get upset when you don't here what you want. Your 25 working three jobs, do you have have a degree? This 18 year old KID is in college don't mess it up for her.

You asked and I gave tge answer, sorry if it hurts.

[Cherry234]

An 18 year old is a legal adult in the US

[DaveJord]

@Cherry234 that's not issue here.

[HiphopAddict]

Says the person who thinks an 18 yr old is a child

Look in the dictionary the word adult... It says anyone who's 18 and above

[DaveJord]

@HiphopAddict wow

[HiphopAddict]

@DaveJord Im genius

[Walamagicc]

It’s barely okay. She’s legally an adult but she isn’t old enough to get into any clubs or bars with you and she doesn’t know anything about life because she’s a baby. A 25 year old has probably already been to college and have their own apartment, possibly even a career set up. An 18 year old and 25 year old are at two completely different stages in life.

[msc545]

Barely okay is still okay. I really resent it when people are being judgmental about the age at which somebody can have sex as long as the person they're talking about is already an adult legally

[Walamagicc]

I did not say anything in my answer about the 2 individuals having sex but since you seem to even be thinking of that, yes it’s totally appropriate for an 18 and 25 year old to have sex bc both are legal adults,

[John987654321]

It's a big age gap in that age bracket, but it's not necessarily undoable, either. If you two really like each other, and the two of you mutually want to date each other, I'd say that's fine.

[okeydoke]

You can date her, but you will start to notice significant lifestyle differences and maturity differences completely based on having less independent life experience. As a general rule I’m not interested in seriously dating someone under 22.

[Asker]

I already seen how she is. She is mature as some woman who works with me that’s 35 years old. That’s why I was so surprised to learn she was 18. She doesn’t even look 18. I always had a age limit of at least 20, but she made me question everything.

[okeydoke]

Then, godspeed! I certainly don’t think there is anything ethically wrong with it. my first girlfriend in college was 23 when I was 18 and my longest relationship was with someone 7 years older than myself.
If you’re both really into each other, I hope it goes well!

[Anonymous]

For some reason it's okay for a guy to be older... not the other way around? Is she 25? Or 18? If you like her go for it. My parents are 15 years apart lol

[Asker]

She’s 18, and I’m 25. I like her, but what will her parents think? Like I even judged guys like in my situation before. Was surprised to learn she was 18. Like I said, I hate the age difference.

[Opinion Owner]

Get to know her more. Meet her parents maybe ask the girl you like to ask her parents what they think if you guys date.. then you'll know

[Opinion Owner]

They may frown upon it. Because you are way older.

[tatianamay]

Dont worry, man. Its gonna matter a lot less when you're okder. Dont sweat it. she's an adult

[SEL195]

No she is not too young. She just has less life experience than you.

[pink_and_inlove]

I don't know I’d be careful because some girls leave younger guys for older guys it happend to my boyfriend when he dated older girls

[Visionary7]

My niece is 18 and I wouldn't want her dating a 25 year old for some reason 🥴

[Asker]

I’m with you. That’s why I can’t get over it.

[Visionary7]

What do you like about her...

[Asker]

Honestly, everything. Like I could spend the rest of my life with her, but F. I can’t that I thought she was older.

[Visionary7]

Where did u meet her?

[Asker]

Work. I really wish I never worked there because I met her. Now I’m just in a bad situation.

[msc545]

I don't think your personal preference for your niece means much here.

[Visionary7]

@msc545 it does cos he's clearly worried what others think.

[msc545]

That is his problem

[bamesjond0069]

18 and 25 is fine. I was 34 and my girlfriend was 18 she's since turned 19.

[OddBeMe]

Eh, borderline, but she’s 18. If she were 17, I’d say slow your roll. So nothing to worry about.

[bpking]

At 18 a person doesn’t know what they want or even who they are yet. They’re not emotionally mature yet.

[Anonymous]

Na when I was 27 I slept with two 18 year olds. Ebony and Latin. It’s okay as long as you don’t get her pregnant

[FunkyMonkee]

It's only 7 years! She's legal, go for it!

[ChiPaPa]

No. They're both adults. It's only seven years.