If I'm not attracted to a girl who' is black am I racist?

Question

There's a lot of black girls I am attracted to, but not all of them... It depends if they have nice face proportions/ features.

Weird occurance happened.. some random black girl who I thought was a little below average asked me if I'm attracted to her... And I'm a very honest person so... Yeah... then She called me racist... Am I?
I don't think I find her unnatracrtive because of her skin colour, all skin colours are cool to me. I jus find her unnatracrtive because of her face proportions didn't look good to me.. but it's got me questioning.. maybe I am racist?

GaGirls · Accepted Answer

YES YES YES you ***** Lmao. No. You're NOT a racist but you are easily influenced. If you like some black girls but not others then that would mean you are not racist. If you dislike all, then yes you would be a racist. That girl called you a racist because she took the label of your race and judged you based off of the actions and opinions of other people of your race. I'm assuming you're white. So in theory what she said was generalizing. I'm assuming you didn't say anything else to make her think you were a racist.

exotichoney97 · Accepted Answer

No, if you find all black girls unattractive that's racist in my opinion (although some people try and say its just preference but that's bs to me. You just didn't happen to find this one particular girl attractive.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

no but the issue is one of perspective.

you have many data points that indicate you aren't baised by color.
But she has only one data point (or maybe from other non black people rejections) and must deal with rejection. The easy answer to avoid the pain is to blame you as being at fault... because it couldn't possibly be "her" that's the problem. Ego!

this is an issue of low self esteem and poor parental/cultural training, not your bias.

You may be racist at times, we don't know you.

Notfabricated11 · Accepted Answer

She was hurt and needed to express hate so that you could feel a type of. Congratulations you let her live in your head.
Lmao I've had so many women call me racist because I barely date black women and was strictlydating Puerto Ricans. Its not because they are black its just im not attracted to them. Hell Puerto Ricans have black skin as well. So do Asians.
Make that girl pay rent , don't let her live in your head for free.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Doesn't sound like you're being racist. You don't like this particular black girl because you aren't attracted to her. If you find other black girls attractive, then it's safe to say that it isn't the fact that she's black which is responsible for your non-attraction. 🙂

Andres77 · Answer

I'm not attracted to a lot of people.
That doesn't make me anything but someone with taste... mine.
Are we so far gone as a society that we can be manipulated into any behavior that we normally wouldn't JUST because someone who's intellectually lazy or manipulative or racist themselves played the "race card"?
Fuq that.
I'm not a racist and just because someone who can't think for themselves says I am doesn't change anything.
If you knew me and saw my multi-racial family you'd know I wasn't.
Dude, think for yourself.

Listen, it's just like asshole young men that hit on a girl and she turns him down... so he calls her a lesbian. Petty, manipulative, resentful...

JohnPrestwick · Answer

You do not have to be attracted to anyone.

It is good to be open-minded about whom you might be attracted to. This does not mean that you should force yourself to be attracted to anyone. It means that you should be aware that you may fall in live with someone who is very different to what you expect or to those you have previously fallen in love with.

AviatorTom · Answer

Being attracted or not to any person is not racist, no matter what their skin color.

Racist is when you intentionally discriminate against a group of people because of their skin color.

You said that some black girls are attractive... NO you are NOT RACIST!

... and she is a distressed confused black woman who thinks you are. Ignore her!

Cherry234 · Answer

No you're not racist. She probably asked that question to provoke you. I could be wrong but that's what it sounds like to me. You have a preference for certain facial features and that's okay

PrettyPriya · Answer

You are not racist just because you find some people of that race attractive and others not.  Being racist is a general hatred towards a particular race, regardless of gender, attractiveness, etc.

RichSD · Answer

It's not racist about who someone is attracted to or not, a white guy who dates only white women is not necessarily racist, they just might have a type. Some only like short women, some only girls with curly hair.
What is racist, and not in a bad way, but something to work on... The fact you thought it might be racist.

Flower7 · Answer

No, it sounds like she was judging you unfairly. She was accusing you of being someone you’re not. She essentially was doing the same thing she was accusing you of, because she was stereotyping you.

boggboss · Answer

No it dont make u racist if u make comments like all black women are ugly sure but not being attracted to somthing dont make u racist no

Anonymous · Answer

Not being attracted to someone does not make you racist, just like when someone rejects someone from the LBGT community and they get called names for rejecting them like homophobic, no this does not make you homophobic for rejecting someone and not finding someone of color attractive doesn’t make you racist either

whosnumber1 · Answer

fuck, what a dumb bitch. your not a racist. I'm attracted to blonde, petite white chick's. that's my weakness. I also like Asian women. I've never been that attracted to black ladies but every now and then I see one that really catches me eye. I also got together with a black girl years ago. it's all about your sexual preference not because you dislike a race of people simply for the colour of their skin.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I think people need to grow the fuck up, already and stop this insane racist bullshit!! You like what you like! End of story!!

Somegirl678 · Answer

maybe borderline racist, I don't know to be honest. but does it really matter? u can't help what you're attracted to at the end of the day.

Twalli · Answer

You're not a racist unless you see people of other races as somehow beneath those of your race. I probably have a slight preference for fair skinned women. That doesn't mean I find all fair skinned women attractive. It's just more likely I will.

Phoenix98 · Answer

That's not even remotely racist you just said you find black girls attractive but not all of them.

That's pretty much everyone ever your not gonna like or be attracted to every woman you meet much less ones of a certain race.

genericname85 · Answer

no. and everyone who claims otherwise is a massive douche turd that actively belittles what "actual" racism is...

Miristheiss · Answer

Dude, just date who you are attracted to. Quit worrying about dumb stuff like this and making life unnecessarily hard. Just date who you are attracted to... don't date people you are not attracted to.

boxxie2002 · Answer

Not at all. It would be the same as someone who prefers a man to be taller than them, or someone who likes red heads but not blondes.

anon1903 · Answer

No, racism is hatred — you my friend, just have specific preference. She probably wanted you to be more inclusive. Oh well.

hahahmm · Answer

No, you're not racist for thinking a woman is fugly. Just ignore.

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