Who do you think is capable of giving the best dating advice for men: a man or a woman?

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Don't get me wrong both of their perspectives offer great insight on what it takes for a man start dating the woman that he wants. But I can't help but feel that one is just slightly more insightful than the other.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

Most women's advice on how to attract women generally tends to be the total opposite of what actually works in real life. And don't get me wrong; I've listened to BOTH genders about this. But women generally"

1) have no idea what it's like to be a man,
2) have no idea what it's like to be a short and/or unattractive man,
3) generally aren't attracted to women,
4) generally have no experience in knowing what it's like to impress a single woman into giving you her phone number or contact info in 5 minutes or less,
and 5) generally don't make the first move or impress a random strangers (male or female).

At best, women will give advice about what THEY like in a man, but even that tends to be dishonest or bad advice. Generally, women don't even know what they like in a partner or how a man can impress them. And while I've never actually used a Pickup Artist or dating coach or anything, what I've learned is that women only care about three things in men (making a first impression).

1) Ego (confidence)

2) Height/being tall

3) Social skills/importance/wealth.

You need to have at least two out of three to stand a chance. Although ego ("confidence") has the most weight to it. Displaying high-self pride is about 40% importance to a woman. The other two are about 30%. Have all three and most women will be into you.

But the irony is, all THREE of these traits are rare! Only about 1 in 5 men are tall enough for women (six feet and over). Only about 1 in 10 men have high "confidence" in themselves. And only about 1 in 20 men are socially important or wealthy.

And I learned all of this from men.

So yeah, women generally have no idea what they're talking about when it comes to helping men with dating advice. Although a few women, like Marni the Wing Girl and Kezia Noble, are experts at it. The advice they give is generally masculine and what most men would tell you, though. They're no-nonsense and tell you the straight up truth. Most women give sh*t advice, though. The old saying is true.

"You don't ask a fish how to catch more fish. You ask a fisherman."

HiveBee · Accepted Answer

I think women are in the best position to give good advice. However women are brainwashed in many ways, and also women do not understand men and our perspective on life and how we feel about women.

Personally I have gotten good advice from women. But only women who other females on this site would hate.

I have gotten legitimate HONEST advice from girls. But how?

I made those girls feel comfortable with me. The girls knew that for example, I would not slut shame them. Rather the opposite, that I encourage their sexuality.

Now being anti slut shaming for me is not a liberal progressive stance. They do not realy believe what they say. So when I say I convinced my female. friends that I would not slut shame them, it's not because I acted like a progressive liberal, encouraging feminism and such.

Rather the opposite. I let my female friends know, that I understand them and their sexuality. That at their root, they are dogs and animals like men.

That women are wild sexual beasts. And many men fear this fact. Because it means you are not a man if women are not letting you engage in their wild sexual behavior.

And so I got legitimate advice about women, from women.

It's easy. Be bold as fuck. Go up to a girl you want, and tell her you want her. Tell her she's sexy and you want to fuck, if that's what you want.

Chase every girl you want. Have sex with as many girls as you can. Be bold and super confident and act as if you are superman or some shit.

Sorry. I know it works. I know girls will get mad and reply how horrible and awful my female friends are.

Hey, they gave me the same bulletin advice women always give, before I convinced them I was accepting of female nature 100%

After that, everything changed and they told me the truth about everything I ever asked them.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I want to say the same sex gives the best advice HOWEVER, the best advice comes from the gender you intend to date. I intend to date a dude, so a dude can tell me about another dude better than a woman can. A woman can only tell me about that dude if she also dated that same exact dude im trying to date

MzAsh · Accepted Answer

A man can better guide based on the male experience, and a woman can do the same with women. Of course, there are exceptions.

ManOnFire · Answer

I personally have found throughout the years that the best people who've given me dating advice, or any kind of advice about women, have been older men, usually in their 50s and 60s. Guys around my age also tend to give very excellent, critical advice as well. I notice that the guys around my age and older on GaG tend to have a very interesting perspective even if I don't follow or agree with all of it, there's still a lot to gain from it.

Women are fine, some of them give good advice, but I notice they tend to give it based on who or what they don't like/want as a message more about their feelings, than really trying to educate you on everything, the good, the bad, the beautiful, the crazy, etc. If that makes any sense.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

A woman. For sure. But that's because guys are trying to date... women. Knowing what THEY want or how THEY see something is important. How some other dude has had success with women FROM HIS PERSPECTIVE is not at all as helpful.

But I think the same holds true the other way around as well. Women will get the best dating advice from guys (not any guy, non-asshats)

coachTanthony · Answer

Nobody can give dating advice to a man who doesn't want it. Period. And most are too egocentric to get help in the first place.

TruthBringer · Answer

This analogy is all you need to know.  Generally speaking, a man should ask advise from another man who knows how to attract and keep a woman. It is not that women are bad at giving advice, it is that they often give the politically correct advice. This is funny enough often advice that contradicting to what actually works. For example, they tell a guy being sweet and nice will get a girl, but in reality what works if the guy is stoic and knows how to put them in their place (aka bad boy attitude). And any guy who has been in the dating scene long enough knows this. Women are unconciously more concerned with how they will look/be perceived when they giving advice rather than giving some cold harsh facts. Men on the other hand tell each other the reality of the matter, no matter how harsh it may be.  My dating success is not thanks to asking women (which I did in the past), it is thanks to men giving solid advice.

ZackBan · Answer

Funny you bring up the pick up artist because just today I was curious about all that and went through their history, ever since this guy in the hat made the discovery that men and women can have sex and started a revolution that changed the dating market for good.

See the problem with your question is, traditional pickup is something very bad and toxic, it relies on making a woman feel inferior in order to bring down her social status.
But that over the years has lead to the birth of a new philosophy which is for a guy to boost his own social status to match the girl he's trying to date. And while healthier it's still straining on men.

Today we enter an age where we no longer consider status a factor as opposed to communication skills. This is why we have female coaches.
Teaching pickup is now simply teaching the lesson they never teach you in school. How to talk to people, how to read the room and when to say what in order for the other person to feel good and chose to spend more time with you.

I voted for men because I still think women don't really say what they truly desire yet.
The same woman saying she wants a caring guy will find herself drawn to the emotionally unavailable bad boy. So any advice from her don't even apply to her, how is that credible?

Heartache0405 · Answer

I believe Men are more capable of giving the best advice to other men and to women. I think this because men are the ones who chase after the women in order to find a relationship.

Women do this too but that’s not the majority in society. Women tend to make themselves look pretty or sexualized in a vague attempt to attract a specific guy when it’s attracting more than just one guy. (If that one guy is even interested in the first place.) By exposing cleavage, caking themselves in make-up, dressing for the most part scantily-clad. Or they try to get that guy to hang out with them alone and outside of a group. Which is just setting up the girl for many bad things to occur. Yet they are always blaming the men when this happens. Even if they’re the one who initiated.

If women were the primary chaser, than I’d say that the women would be the ones giving the advice capable of being the best for dating. But they’re not. They should be in my opinion, because then they’d know how shitty it can be.

Floppy2112 · Answer

For men? Definitely not women, for the most part. I will not make that mistake again. The reason being is that I do not believe most women are able to articulate this advice to a man in an objective way.
What I have tended to see happen is women advise men on how men ought to behave and be, based on a 'man of her dreams' narrative and not the unknown quantity he tends to be. And the way women want to be approached by the men they know they desire vs. the unknown quantity are two different things entirely.

So say the woman who gave you the advice, were to meet her favorite actor, I don't know who's hot right now... Isn't Chris Hemsworth an actor a lot of chicks dig? For the sake of argument say she's likes him and she were to meet him how would she prefer he behave? Of course, she wants him to be welcoming, open and nice, polite, open about his feelings, assuring her that she could get close to him, all the typical stuff women say they want in a man...
Now enter, Mr. Unknown quantity. Does she want Mr. Unknown to approach her and be open and welcoming? I have a feeling 'open and 'welcoming' would be interpreted as weird and creepy. She'd likely just prefer he go fuck-off and leave her alone.
My hypothesis, women tend to give advice based on what they fantasize about regarding the men they truly value, not the reality on the cold, cold ground most men find themselves on. And that's why I think women giving men advice on dating typically does not work.

TheorionMage · Answer

Its a matter of the negotiation of resources...
the PROBLEM lies with Society's reticence
to acknowledge that the FEMALE controls eventual access to her EGGS.

The 'root' cause underlying the cultural 'audition' of 'dating'.

Our culture irresponsibly short-sightedly tries to de-couple the immediate physical pleasure
of competent copulation from its 'default' natural purpose of 'conception'.
(You CAN do the FIRST, PROVIDING you're long-term mindful to circumvent the second.)

Hypocritically, moralistic Prudes espouse this is AGAINST their Creator's intent
and therefore 'sinful', yet have NO ethical problem with encouraging...
and harvesting the lactations of
herd animals and the ovulation of many fowl.
Is the relationship 'symbiotic'? Does EACH obtain 'advantage'?
Be they resources, shelter, protection from predation?

SELECTIVE 'conscience' perhaps?

Wester1967 · Answer

Women give dating advice to how they wish their hottest dream lovers Chad and Tyrone should be. The ones who treat them like second class citizens "Oh, he should be more kind, and caring, and emotional, and open, and share his feelings." Blah Blah Blah. All that info is for the top 5% of dudes exclusively. If you are not in that group, as soon as you start acting like that, your woman will dump you on your ass. I don't even think women are conscious of what they are saying half the time regarding this. Guys should only take dating advice from other guys. And not from those creepy desperate so called "friends" that would sell you out in a blue second to get a shot at your girlfriend. It's a war zone. Be careful out there.

InferiorElegy · Answer

In my experience both give shit advice.
Guys hype you up, give false hope and fucking tell you to just go do it, which is not how you go about it because there are clear indications wether you should approach a female or not.

Girls advice is for guys who are a 4 or better. Females say dumb shit like "looks don't matter you just need confidence" or "I've dated ugly guys" bullshit, an ugly guy to a female is a 4 any less is not dateable no matter the confidence but money will help for a while. I used to be confident but it never worked for me in fact I've been told plenty of times I was rejected because I was too ugly. When females tell me they've dated ugly guys I've asked plenty of them to show me a picture of the ugliest guy they've dated and the guy is always a 4 or better.

If you're truly an ugly guy just stay single.

LogicBomber · Answer

A fisherman should never take the advice on how to fish from the fish.

Women have zero idea how to give men advice.
They tell men what they think they (women) want and what sounds good, but not what they actually want.

For example: Women will say they want a nice guy, but will lose interest in a guy who is nice.

Women say “just be yourself” but will think a guys weird or creepy if he is awkward.

Women say looks don’t matter but openly shut down and shame men who are under 6’, are not fit, etc.

Women say “no means no” but then also claim they say no to see if we will try harder.

NEVER EVER TAKE Advice from women about women.

syskerully · Answer

Women give better advice for finding someone to date, men give better advice for getting laid quick. Women will help a man or woman establish a connection with someone based on things that will matter in a relationship: clarity, confidence, empathy, adaptability, solid value system, responsibility, etc; but men will help you make a good first impression, even if it's something you can't sustain, just to have sex with someone. You need both, sometimes you want a relationship, sometimes you want to fuck someone's brains out at an afterparty.

Luopio27 · Answer

This is like asking who are better colored parents.

My answer is equally neither or both. All depends on the indevidual.

As far as dating tips go, the ones that have rejected me are the worse, not because they are pretty white women but because the truthful answer to the advice would be like selling a product they wouldn't buy or want to own just to fix. Same thing applyes if the genders were reversed.

If by some miracle the advisor would be the one who has turned down a date request from a friend, ends up falling in love, that change of heart story belongs to Hollywood fiction.

JCrockett · Answer

Guys give plenty of both good and bad dating advice, but women never give good male dating advice, ever. That's just my experience. Every once in a while, a post-menopausal woman who has already raised a family will speak honestly about what women feel. But in all other cases, women will only say what they think they want to be true, not what is true.

As Patrice O'Neal said, "If you want to know how to catch fish, ask a fisherman, not a fish."

lightbulb27 · Answer

Guys can give advice on understanding women from a man's perspective which helps in various aspects of life with women.

Women give better advice in terms of dating because they understand their needs and that's what matters.

But men are helpful because they understand their viewpoint and can provide support to one another.

AviatorTom · Answer

Excellent question. As a guy, I guess it depends on what I'm trying to get out of dating.

If I'm looking for a relationship, a woman can probably give better advice.

If I'm looking for sex, maybe a one night stand or friends with benefits, a guy can probably give me better pointers.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I would say men should listen to men who have had successful relationships when dating and for long term.

While women can give good suggestions and advice, I feel a lot of it stems more from personal feelings and the men they desire as individuals deep down because of how the behavior the man they like makes them feel, not from the perspective of a generalized approach.

molonski2 · Answer

None of examples shown , they are just out to make money , and trying to be super cool , and man who can explain to the individual involved , what to do , how to create opportunities , and just as its important to know Why you fail? Its also as Important to know why you succeed?
The vast majority of the stuff that ( most ) of those presenters say is BS -- not all however , some give some very good functional advice.

Kaneki05 · Answer

None really. You could talk to a woman about advice on it, she may give you her bias answer of what she specifically wants. Then a guy could say specifically what women want in his opinion.
Then who's to judge there opinion is bias or not. Seem like a daft thing.

The way to actually get proper advice is experience it yourself.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Neither.

I think that's more down to individuals rather then men or women. Some people are more willing to listen then others or they may like this guys advice better then that gals and so on and so on.

And they have to be willing to listen in the first place.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

Guy with sisters here.  Never in my life did I got a better response from girls than when my sister's told me how to conduct the conversation.  Girls hands down!

Juan_Curious · Answer

Only an experienced guy can give you great advice on how to bring a woman to bed. On the contrary, every woman, no matter her experience, can give you great advice on how you can make another woman crazy about you

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

I think nobody but themselves , you know yourself your strong points your weak points if you act on others advice and do things which you never did or don't feel like yourself then it's just faking it.

You are showing something that you aren't and then becomes an expectation and in future it will come and bite your ass nothing else

NetSapien · Answer

A guy

Only a guy 'knows' the struggles and many obstacles facing 'guys' in the dating arena.

A woman making suggestions should also be listened to as they mean well, but their struggles are inherently different.

ODC2112 · Answer

The only one who has given me correct advice thinks that the American pua are idiots. If you notice 90% of the world of pua it can be summarized in a marketing manual that you find in a gas station.
However, from my point of view, women rarely give the right advice to men. This happens because they cannot identify with men. Therefore they advise those who wish they had had them. The only good advice women get are related to what not to say to a woman.

ohshee · Answer

Line up 20 men. line up 20 women they will all have a different take on it.. they only know what they've have experienced. Even though I would a curious of the other answers the final outcome would be whatever it is I believe in

PAcc92 · Answer

Women are incapable of being honest about how they are, Men who have success with Women are the best advice givers in that regard. Women for example, on average, have never felt the fear of rejection.

NewtoTheSouth · Answer

I ask different individuals for dating advice, some are men, some are women. Since you use the word slightly, I'll say men are slightly better at giving dating to women. And women are slightly better at giving advice to men. That is all generally though.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Not to say many men aren't freaking clueless but there are essentially no women offering women good dating advice. Maybe like 1%. They mostly offer each other shittier and shittier advice around in a circle.

Rangers · Answer

Definitely not women because a fish won't tell you how to catch them, but men isn't good either because your competitors probably won't give you good advice on how to beat them. So you're all on your own

JayParris · Answer

Most people would benefit a lot more (in dating and in general) from personal development advice than dating advice. Dating advice tends to lean more toward faking your personality, where personal development will actually improve it.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Neither. You wanna fuck pay. Women ain’t with sex anymore. You want a family their the only choice so a necessary evil. So what you want and see who responds.

YesICan · Answer

Men with a lot of experience give the best advice possible. Any guy that listens to the advice of a woman about how to attract/turn on other women will get u friend-zoned.

CasaNorba · Answer

when you want to know how to fish you ask real fishermen for advice. you never jump into the water and asked the fishes themselves cause you're obviously never gonna get a good answer this way

MJtheCoach · Answer

Every guy in the world who has ever been friends zoned has a listen to some woman’s horseshit advice.

PenkWing · Answer

Oh god. Guys, don't ask for dating advice to other guys. They tend to be so fucking clueless.

dwiller943 · Answer

Women, because; generally, men are chasing US. So if they wanna impress us, they need to LISTEN TO US.

backdoorman · Answer

In general the best dating advice I have gotten was from men. Women tend to give advice that is more idealistic than realistic.

BrosephBrostar · Answer

The pictures you chose for this poll are the most amateur attempt at social engineering I have ever seen.

JLA557 · Answer

I accidentally voted but I think listening to both is probably better than just one

Wowboi · Answer

Women know women - women feel they know men - men think they know women

Shy_Steve · Answer

I use to think it would be a Girl, But over the years they have made me more confused and a lot of Girls don't seem to know what they want in a Guy so I'm still not sure.

G5TWA1 · Answer

I don't think it's a matter of gender, I give great dating advises for both men and women but I don't think my perspective is the same as most male perspectives

Better_off_here · Answer

ladies do and i say that since a woman knows a woman better than a man does, she knows what a lady wants and what she looks for and they can give you ideas and insight more into them than men can.

BoobMan · Answer

Without question a guy who's successful with women.

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

A woman can other women advice and a guy can give other guys advice.

MountAverage · Answer

I think it's good to get insight from both perspectives, but most importantly from people who are experienced and not bitter misgogynists/misandrists.

msc545 · Answer

Men. Women will give you advice on how to please them. Men will give you advice on how to not get killed or bankrupted or ruined by women.

NawfZumbi · Answer

Men, unless you find that one stable. minded women who has tooken time to understand how the dating scene is currently and how to fix our silly dating concerns

Jamie05rhs · Answer

A woman, I think. As long as she's honest. That's the key. Because most aren't.

ChiPaPa · Answer

Men. Women often tell you something completely different than what a woman wants.

anylolone · Answer

Guys are better at giving advise to guys, as least professionally. Sensible dating advises aren't usually heard by women, so neither matter.

Guardian45 · Answer

I would say a girl, but really it's the person who can be logical, dispassionate, clearheaded and non-judgmental.

whosnumber1 · Answer

I would say a woman and probably an older man. a guy who has dated a bit and had a few relationships.

bgreek · Answer

No one is capable of giving advice But, i trust the Bible it has some good advice

Piper2033 · Answer

I would say the person who is honest bout themself look in mirror never lie to your self women for sure

Robh55 · Answer

A woman of course who better to learn about women, than from a woman!

Lushly · Answer

They been on many an know the right places to take girl on a date

Joshua0213 · Answer

Neither tbh, experience are a better way of learning to date

EaterPeter · Answer

Women can do very many things better than men. Including spreading their legs.

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