Is she rejecting me OR is this actually LEGIT?

[SamSmith]

We were going to the nightclub next week, And she said to me because of the COVID cases rising and stuff she might not go because she doesn't want to put her and her daughter at risk. I said Totally understand, whichever makes you feel more comfortable, and I said to her if you're passing by my town I want to give you that small present I got for you anyway.

Then she said: Aw, thank you. But these days i will not pass by "MY TOWN NAME". But who knows, maybe i still will meet you on next weekend😉

[LookoutBelow]

It's a little hard to tell but it doesn't sound like rejection to me. Her saying "maybe" sounds like a question (as in, "Do you want to see me on the weekend?"), but she doesn't want to assume or invite herself over- she may be hoping for you to change the plans to something less public than the club. The winky face can imply she's being flirty so you know she's still interested.

If you had plans previously and everything was going well, you're probably fine. Also, if you don't know each other well, she may not feel comfortable simply swinging by to receive something from you, as that's not her primary reason for talking to you - she presumably wants to spend time with you to get to know you better. It can be awkward if there's no set plan.

So you had a date and she suggested she's not feeling the setting, but you didn't suggest an alternate date idea.
She may expect you to make the move to invite her to do something else, and doesn't want to ask/be forward because she's unsure what you want, and some girls really do want guys to take the lead.

Try setting up something else for the weekend with her that's different from the club and see what happens. If she gives you excuses again and nothing more concrete to work from, THEN I would consider it a rejection.

[Apulu_3]

Try to understand her side also. What if she is really scared of covid situation and all. Don't always think negative. You must know her better than me so you should know the answer yourself by seeing which kind of person she is. I would suggest not to over think it because it can just make you feel bad. But if you have asked this question here then it must be that you are insecure. If that's the case I will say not to TRUST her too much also because your instincts are 80% of times correct.

[sufys12]

Probably finding excuses. COVID-19 in general doesn't scare people from going out. Also her daughter is a child so is not at risk whatsoever. She's rejecting you in all likelihood. f

[msc545]

I think it's just somebody being appropriately careful in regard to covid. Some people actually believe covid is a problem. Apparently you don't.

[SamSmith]

Apparently, Thats my choice - As it's like yours

[Account]

She is playing games. You are just one of her options when she has nothing better to do.

[SamSmith]

Are you 100% sure, Do you think im wasting my time and I should back off?

[Account]

Ι get that vibe. I am rarely wrong, but feel free to keep hope.

[SkyCastle90]

Move on. Why?

1. Maybe. That's a bad word to hear/read because it's ambiguous. In the simplest way, it means she'll see you whenever she feels like it.

2. She is dangling hope of another encounter to keep you interested. Think about it, how is she going to see you next weekend after saying she is not coming by your town anymore.

She's not serious otherwise she would have set an actual date and time with you.

[alpha_aude]

in my opinion she’s making excuses, I understand she’s worried about covid but you could still meet outside for taking a walk in a park for example, (In case it’s the first date) the chances of catching Covid outside is reduced. Don’t pressure her and let her initiate the next date, you’ll see how much she’s into your relationship.





Also you forgot to mention if your town is far away from hers?

[SamSmith]

Do you think i should back off and see if she makes any attempt to talk to me

[alpha_aude]

Don’t back off completely. It’s wiser to still talk to her but do not initiate a date, she needs to show how much she’s into this relationship. If she complains about you not proposing to go out at least you’ll have an excuse. It’s important as a couple for both to be active, you don’t have to do every thinking alone. If she’s not making an effort just end things you’ll find better.

[FreyaRed]

"you're welcome and bye" I wouldn't reply more than that to her riddle.

[SamSmith]

Do you think im wasting my time?

[FreyaRed]

No. She checks up how paranoid and insecure you're. She wants you to ask questions while you shouldn't.

[SamSmith]

Thanks for your advice, Should I back off a little, Like take longer to reply etc and all that or what advice would you give?

[FreyaRed]

No. Behave normal and optimistic but avoid the question "why?"

[tatianamay]

Its legit. Dojt overthink it. She is still on for meeting you right?

[SamSmith]

She said Maybe and a winky face

[tatianamay]

"Maybe?" Sounds like she is playing games.

[SamSmith]

She said she doesn't know yet, I haven't a clue - Like she said she will let me know, Where i live there's lots of COVID cases around... i dont know if thats a legit thing she's worried about tho

[tatianamay]

Well, yeah, probably she is worried about it. Its best if you ask her when exzctly you guys can meet

[tatianamay]

Exactly*

[aintnocandle]

Hard to tell. You’re gonna need to continue chatting to figure out in my opinion

[spartan55]

Dude, she is dusting you. Move on.

[melanieeeB]

I would say it's legit