Is it very important for guys to prove themselves?

[Anonymous]

Especially to someone they like.
They want to be smart, rich, capable.
Is it really that important?
It feels as though my love for who he is isn’t enough. It’s sad because there is an income gap between us and I think it will bother him. Is there no future?

[BarryLiverstone]

Let me give you a small example. When dating my first girlfriend she said one day that all the ‘men’ she had known drink lots of milk. Think for the next two weeks at most meals I downed a half gallon of milk every time! That’s because I wanted to prove to her i was a ‘man’ so she would desire me.


If you have an income gap the challenge will be him wanting to be a man and provide for you. Clearly if you make more than him he’s not able to provide for you financially. So talk to him and share your needs so he can provide for you and keep you safe in other ways.


Does this make sense?

[Dchrls78104]

If you're a guy and you feel you have to prove yourself as capable (by putting yourself through more than you should), just to impress some girl, you obviously need to interest yourself in another girl; in the end, it isn't worth it. If she wasn't interested in you in the first place your trying to impress her won't change her mind, and even if it does make her interested in you you don't really want that because you're not even sure it's real or it's going to last. Either way, it's a dead loss.

[genericname85]

i don't think that is a particularly "male" thing. i think that's a human thing. everyone likes approval, validation and positive feedback and everyone strives to an extend to get that from other people.

[MrHopper]

Not all men, everyone is different, if my partner earned more than me then i could retire! ;D

[TheFlak38]

men want to prove themselves because otherwise society doesn't give a single fuck about them. Women show their cute face on social media and society treats them like queens by default.

[Wise4myage]

Yes it is important because it makes us feel good and it boosts our self confidence.

[Danny_dan92]

In what circumstance?

[Danny_dan92]

Oh wait I read your bio.

No tbh. If a woman likes a guy she likes him. I don’t think a man should go out of his way to make his presence known to a woman.

And the same applies to women. Attraction should come naturally, aka be you. And let the pieces fall where they land