Why are prettier females almost always single?

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CrazyGirl2 · Accepted Answer

I think it’s a combination of a couple of things; First, many men assume that the prettier the girl, the more likely she’s already taken, another issue is that many guy’s are simply lacking the self confidence to walk up to a beautiful woman and ask her out! At the end of high school getting signatures and quotes for our yearbook, I just got so many guys who would tell me that they had a huge crush on me all through high school. When I asked them why they never asked me out, most guys told me that they thought I had a boyfriend, and were genuinely surprised to discover that although I was dating Mike for one year before we had sex, (and I broke-up w/ him b/c he cheated on me), for the first 6mos of that we were both free to date other’s if we wanted. Another big one I got, was that they were just afraid of the risk of rejection! They just didn’t want to risk feeling “humiliated” if I happened to say NO! So they never even got the chance to date me, when I absolutely would have said yes to all but two of the guys who said that! One recurring theme I see here, is guys saying that if a beautiful woman is “still single”… there is definitely something wrong with her? I think that is horribly offensive! What if she only just broke-up with her ex less than a month ago? Are we now expected to be in a relationship break up, begin dating, find “the guy” and be in a wonderful successful relationship, all within 4 weeks? But in fairness, the two reasons I stated, seem to be the most common with the new friends I have here… either they assumed that you are already in a relationship, or they were just afraid of the possibility of the girl saying “no”, that they were willing to give up on the very real possibility that he could the one in a relationship with her. Sad, really!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I’m a model, I’ve been single for quite a while now. Some of the men in these comments need to put their egos aside. It’s true, most women remain single due to a mans intimidation or assumptions about us. They believe just because we’re “pretty” we already have a boyfriend or we’re automatically a b**ch and “cocky”, when we’re not. Don’t feel bad girls :) it doesn’t mean you’re unattractive if you don’t have men at your feet and it’s true we do have high standards for a reason and the proof is in this site, some of the men that present themselves in these comments or on this site, they’re total 🗑. So don’t believe them. Remain happy & collected. continue on with your life and having high standards because when you have low standards that’s when you begin to just let any guy into your life and end up getting hurt like most of our sisters do. They themselves tell you to keep the high standards because it’s not worth settling with just ANY guy. He’ll come around some day, the guy who’s man enough will💖.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

I have some a theories here... just theories. I mostly online date... but more attractive women get a disportionate amount of attention from very undesirable men.

So this causes them;

1) To feel more overwhelmed by the experience, and mistrusting of men in general.

2) Just because we or you think they are pretty doesn't mean they see themselves as attractive. So they are hesitant to get involved with a guy they perceive as just seeing them as pretty. Yes attractive people have insecurities, don't fool yourself into believing they have it easier then most of us.

3) They get so much attention from men, they become unrealistic about their expectations of what a real man can offer. They become over selective believing that the perfect man is out there. Maybe they do eventually find the perfect man, or maybe at some piont they realized that they passed on a lot of really good men and come to their senses.

4) Finally you have the good looking women who really knows it. Which mens she sets herself standards so high with her own inflated sense of self worth, that none can compare to her glory.

Luopio27 · Accepted Answer

Out of all the girls I ever liked, were most of the time in a relationship. It was usually the avarage looking girls that got harder time finding a guy.

In your experiance it seems to be vice versa. For guys who fancy the hottest girls, if he ain't the top shot, it won't make a difference if the top girls are single with top standards.

The dating world is more cruel than it is kind to anyone below avarage. Both girls and guys dream of what they can't have and take the best they can get.

ManOnFire · Answer

I've heard this said but don't really think it's true. Some will say it's because these women have "high standards," but if it really is true it probably has very little to do with their so-called standards and more to do with the fact that men don't want women who "know they're pretty" and act like they're God's gift.

melanieeeB · Answer

Cause most guys assume:

A. we are already taken, cause why would a pretty girl be single

B. And if she is single, she must be crazy, cause why does she not have a boyfriend

Or like

C. Guys are too shy and therefore there are more confident guys approaching us and there is a bigger possibility that this guy is a douchbag

D. Guys will assume that we are out of their league and don't even try to approach us

And yeah I said us and included myself in this category lol peace out ✌🏼

ZackBan · Answer

For the same reason a candy store owner eventually stops eating candy.

Pretty girls have so much options and abundance that they struggle with selection.
Whoever they date they will wonder if they could do better and even wonder that before they date.

Any pretty single woman will often be overlooking that right in front of her is at least one guy she's friendzoning who would move heaven and earth for a chance to be with her.

And this realization only comes later in life for so many unfortunately especially once their options begin to fade

Anonymous · Answer

Perhaps one or more of these reasons:

- people don’t approach them as much or ask them out / are sometimes afraid to talk to them out of intimidation or nerves or could think they’re out of their league

- people assume they’re taken or spoken for already

- pretty girls are usually much pickier because they can be. Especially when they know exactly what they want. They’ll only settle when it’s someone they really value or want

- they have so much choice and so many options they’d rather not be with just one person and would rather be single and sleep around, or they can’t decide who they want to be with

-trust issues, a lot of attractive girls have been used by men for sex or arm candy

- they often get approached by shallow men who are only into their looks or status that comes with it

Apulu_3 · Answer

Being pretty or rich can be toxic as people would love you for your looks or money not the personality. Pretty girls are either judgmental cuz they think that no one could match their standards and have bad personality but not all pretty girls are like that. There are some who are with good and kind personality and with good looks but they are liked for their looks which won't stay forever not their personality. Same goes with rich people. There are rich people who are spoilt but most choose to remain alone because they don't want gold diggers even though they have great personality. I hope you are getting what I mean.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I will offer my perspective on this.

There are a few things that can support that, but I believe that most beautiful women are dating.

Now the reasons to support your question here.

1.) Many men don't feel confident or the need to talk to them because they will more than like assume either they are taken and have a boyfriend or she would not give him a chance if he did ask her out.

2.) Another factor that plays into this belief is that they can come off as materialistic or possibly high maintenance.

3.) Beautiful people tend to want to date people of equal attractiveness or more.

4.) Dating standards and gender roles have made both genders very toxic and judgmental towards each other on who should do what and what relationships should encompass.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

No? Not in my experience but they are the target of toxic bad boys since these toxic guys are very confident and extrovert while the good guys/ average guys dont approach beautiful girls since they think that these pretty girls are out of their league. So this is why think being being beautiful is a curse sometimes. When you are beautiful and young aka naive, you are literally the target of bad people. This is why parents should be more protective of their beautiful kids till they are mature enough to avoid/reject bad people aka till they can't be easily manipulated by bad people.

Moose304 · Answer

I'm not smart enough to answer this question. All I can do is relate things I hear men say in bars etc. They will see a "hottie" sitting beside herself but figure she is far too high maintenance for them. They had rather hang out with their buds, rack some pool, or shoot some darts. I have had bartenders actually tell me some of these women ask them is this a gay bar? I generally leave them alone. If they sit close to me I will engage in a conversation, but that is all. I know of 3 guys that are now banned because women made complaints. It sucks, but men are learning to keep their distance. As far as dating goes a lot of women don't go out because they keep waiting for chad to call them and let Tom Dick and Harry go on! Chad is not going to call most times.

JSmuve · Answer

Do you have any evidence that the most attractive girls are *always* single? Or is this just anecdotal based on one or two girls you know who can't seem to keep a guy?

Basically it comes down to three things: effort, desire, and personality

If an attractive girl can't get a guy to approach her, then it's because she's
- not putting herself in positions to be approached
- she's giving off closed-off body language

If she can't get a guy to ask her out then she isn't communicating interest well enough or her personality is off-putting.

If she can't get a guy to commit to her, then it's definitely a personality issue on her part.

If she has no desire to be in a relationship and just move from guy to guy, then that's pretty self-explanatory.

SaraSmithishere · Answer

(1) No one shares her interest or lifestyle. I have gone to school with some very attractive women who had very niche interests. One’s a lawyer who’s all about “progressive food justice”
and making sure that kids in lower-income areas are able to eat nutritionally-dense food, and one is a computer wonk who has her own line of computers. I don’t know if the average guy will get along with them.

(2) She wants a physically attractive man or woman.

(3) She is working hard at her career and wants her alone time.

(4) They don’t get approached.

(5) Similar to the first one, but they can’t find a man who is their “type”. If you’re a introverted lawyer who likes fine dining and volunteering at a soup kitchen, how many men are you going to find who vibe with you?

Diodoro · Answer

Source?

Jk lol

A lot of hot girls who are single aren't actually single in the same way that you're thinking. They have multiple guys but they go to for a variety of things.

They just don't have one monogamous boyfriend. They have a different guy for most things they want.

When I meet a new girl I just automatically assume she's actively talking to at least five guys and fucking at least two of them if not more

Is it true in all cases? No, but it happens often enough that you should keep it in mind as a guy. Most girls at a minimum "talkin to" a guy already

mobiusforniner · Answer

Not my wife. Nabbed her when I got the chance.

But to answer your question, beauty is not only physical and most guys can sense this. I know pretty girls who are single. They have a personality or social disorder which far overshadows their physical beauty. It's sad because it's likely unconscious and probably stems from some messed up trauma earlier in their life. But most guys are not patient or loving enough to invest the requisite time and energy in resolving that trauma; or finding ways to bring out the beauty deep within her. So they remain perpetually single, bitter and angry at the world.

exitseven · Answer

the urban legend goes that the really hot girls don't really date because most guys won't ask them out because they figure they will get turned down,
There waas a girl in my homeroom thatI liked. I thought she was the hottest looking girl in the school. She was not a cheerleader or in any of the other groups. I tried to talk to her a couple of times but it never went anywhere. I assumed that she was dating older guys. I knew a guy that lived next door to her and he told me that she usually just stayed home on the weekends and did not have a boyfriend.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Men fear them, think they are out of their league and won't have a chance so they don't even try.

They could also have had bad experiences with someone else in the past, where they approached and got rejected in a very mean way so now they don't want to.

Massageman · Answer

Guys are trying to preserve their "machoness". They don't want to ask them out because they are afraid they will be rejected, ( thinking that she already has her pick of ANY guy). If most every guy thinks like this, then she will be dateless, hence, single.
Today's lessons: 1. nothing ventured, nothing gained. 2. never assume

shorty_samy · Answer

Take it from their perspective, they're waiting for the perfect guy to come along. Like a celebrity or something, since these females may be picky. They may want to find a complex male/female/person to share a connection with, rather than just anyone. My experience with pretty females is that they want to date the best-looking male/female, since they're almost all about looks, like for selfies on social media. But some females are just naturally pretty, and maybe want to stay single. Who knows!

jshm2 · Answer

Because they may be pretty, but they are probably shitty personalities, or have social and physical issues.

A lot of people out there are just not relationship material and looks is not their main problem.

Many of the meanest and craziest bitches I knew from my younger days were pretty good looking. It's one reason I came up with the wise quote of "never date crazy".

Beautyforeverybody · Answer

Because most men nowadays want to have sex then leave without any commitment. Pretty people, specially women can have sex whenever they want with almost whomever they want. So it just does not interest them if a guy only has sex to put on the table.

Neilbud · Answer

1. Girls can be evil too.
2. Guys can be intimidated by an overly attractive girl. The rejection hurts more.
3. A true connection is rare. You won't work through the b. s. if you don't truly like the person. Which takes time to create sometimes.
3. Some girls have overly high standards.
4. Growing up sucks. You make all kinds of mistakes, expecially around a pretty girl.
And a few others that have already been mentioned.

Anonymous · Answer

2 reasons

1) guys are too shy or scared to talk to her

2) she prefers flirting and fooling around with tons of dudes and finds single life more fulfilling that way. Which to me is no different then a guy who’s a player doing that to women.

darkcloud1945 · Answer

Just my own observation that men are frightened to try to talk to avery pretty girl. They think she could not be unattached. Her boy friend is 6ft 10 350 lbs.. They are afraid of being shot down. they are not good enough for them. Me they would most probably kill me in bed. LOL

shades777 · Answer

i assume they are taken, and usually pretty girls know they are pretty so they act difficult and nobody wants difficult. Also I assume they want the best man on earth lots of money, tall, buff, and handsome, and tons of women after him. I figure thats what they all want so what the point of a regular trying its just a waste of time

MrHopper · Answer

Sometimes choice, they know they can have a relationship if they need one.. also it can be that they are waiting for some one to ask them out, but as they so pretty most guys/girls assume they taken or wouldn't be interested

all_hayl · Answer

Maybe because 1/2 the time it’s fake?
(yes, cover girl etc - aka cosmetics - are fake). If I see a gal covered in cosmetics she looks fake and like she’s trying too hard.
Plus, things get complicated when there’s comparison involved. Yes, “prettier” is, by definition, a comparison. Yes, we all do it (whether we mean to or not). No, it doesn’t help anything.

Bobsyoruncle · Answer

I’ve heard that old saw all my life, but I haven’t found it to be true. (for me, at least)

But that *might* be because my taste in physical beauty (both face & body) in women is (apparently) a bit ‘off-spec’.

If I took the hour or so that would be needed to paint a word picture of a woman who takes my breath away I’m sure many of you would sneer and say that I’ve described a ‘plain, thick bodied’ housewife.

And THEY are all married, or otherwise ‘taken’.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Possibly high maintenance, high standards, childhood trauma, others assuming they’ve had one of the above or is out of their league

ItsMeElliana · Answer

probably because they got a bad personality, or they just wanna be single. or are waiting for the right guy

Fireguy17 · Answer

window dressing.
To attract the right partner, they have to look good.
Once they have one then they tend to let things slide again, and once kids come into play it is so long nice clothes, hello sweat pants and an old sweatshirt.
No time to take care of yourself like you used to because of the kids, then you are just too tired to care how you look.

kyleelyn199723 · Answer

Because prettier people have options and have a harder time committing /pick apart basic flaws. I don’t envy people that have too many options lol

Billyscotter · Answer

Really pretty women often intimidate guys, who think she's out of his league and he doesn't have much going to excite her, and think only a hotter, richer guy could get her.

Beautiful women usually worry that there are prettier women, and worry her looks will fade.

It's relatively easy to draw in beautiful women by showing her one is excited by more than just her looks. But her insecurities are a hurdle the guy must overcome.

7Roses · Answer

I don’t think this is true but my theory is that because most 9/10+ guys have trash personalities and those pretty girls want guys with that level of looks but they don’t really want to be in a relationship with a shitty guy.

I’m probably wrong though

doopayo · Answer

People are too afraid to approach them since they always just assume they’re single

InferiorElegy · Answer

I don't think I agree with this, an even if it is true then it's all because of the females themselves because females have the choice to choose between an ocean of potential partners whereas guys have to be peacocks just to get looked at and potentially chosen.

Cherry234 · Answer

Maybe cause they're pickier. Or men only like them for their looks.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

I don't see it a lot in my country but where this is true, it's probably because what is prettiest often costs the most (in terms of time, resources, and effort) to get and to maintain, comes with the greatest number of complications and complexities, and depreciates the fastest.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

My Mormon friend in HS had this theory, that guys don't ask them out, because they all assume she has a boyfriend because she's hot.

red324 · Answer

They're either taken or damaged. That's my opinion. The single ones are damaged and undatable. Those are the ones that will talk to you as long as you'll give them attention, but have no intention of going out.

Better_off_here · Answer

Men are afraid to approach women who look very attractive. so you will find many women who are single do have that beautiful look. it is harder sometimes for attractive women to date when men are scared off by looks.

Jasmine2121 · Answer

Because once we do give a guy a chance he fucks it up tryna be “that nigga”

FilmGuy93 · Answer

A lot of it is because of trust issues. Attractive women tend to have a lot of life experience with people trying to use them.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't have to prove something to others. Really, I like men but at the moment I don't have time and motivation for a serious relationship.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Because they either overvalue themselves or undervalue themselves. Or both.

jasco · Answer

Because a lot of them ( not all ) can be a asshole. Of course they could also just have good/high standards. Than their are guys who just don't want to date. Many reasons

super_shy · Answer

If this is true and I am not sure it is. It is likely because they have access to so many sexual partners that there is no advantage to being in a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they really aren't interested an any guy. They just want to destroy as many of them as possible. It's kind of like in nature how the most beautiful things are typically the most toxic.

Nazgol · Answer

Guys think they can't meet her standards or they have a lineup of other guys interested in her too

Daniela1982 · Answer

I have to disagree, it is still homely looking girls like me that remain single. Pretty girls always have guys chasing them and dating them.

Twalli · Answer

People assume they aren't, so they don't ask them out.

9inchesBIG · Answer

They aren't prettier, or they string guys along, or they are narcissists

marish01 · Answer

I don't know. I am unattractive and single like I've always been.

Anonymous · Answer

They're not. Where did you get that idea. Almost every decent woman is taken. It's the guys that are lonely and single. Look around here on this site. Almost all the guys are single, almost all the ladies are with boyfriend.

Vegasrunner · Answer

It's because humble bragging is now a thing. It's a way to deflect that someone is single by claiming that they are only single because of their beauty rather than take responsibility for their own shortcommings.

SmilesAintAgirl14 · Answer

they are intimidating. everyone is afraid of rejection. they never get asked out.

Cowboy6666 · Answer

I don't see any pretty single girls around, lemme know if you know any and I will try my luck with them :P

chickenqueenl · Answer

That's not necessarily true. What you find to be prettier others may not. It's about willingness to date, standards, and how much they actually reach out.

Soleil7001 · Answer

Where?

In Belgium, Dutch/Flemish speaking part, most local girls date their brotgers and are thus too frightened to speak intimate matters to anyone 'foreign' (not incest supporting or not having s sister they have sex with)

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

In this case, they represent ShivFPS. All of the assholes (understatement by the way) represent Tufi constantly banning him. I don’t know if he still has that happen to him but it still does for what they represent

Anonymous · Answer

They think since they're pretty so they deserve the best men out there, i. e good looking, earns well, at least 6 ft. But such men are only 1% of the total population, so they wait for such men, and soon they crosses their mid 30s where most good quality men are not interested in them.

They only attract F-Boys.

HOAAH · Answer

Most of the really pretty girls i knew were taken and always had back up guys.

MJtheCoach · Answer

Because we live in a world of Pussifed men.  Attractive girls are tired of weak ass men  Who are constantly kissing your ass and hoping they’ll get laid!

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