Why are prettier females almost always single?

[SGFB9]

[CrazyGirl2]

I think it’s a combination of a couple of things; First, many men assume that the prettier the girl, the more likely she’s already taken, another issue is that many guy’s are simply lacking the self confidence to walk up to a beautiful woman and ask her out! At the end of high school getting signatures and quotes for our yearbook, I just got so many guys who would tell me that they had a huge crush on me all through high school. When I asked them why they never asked me out, most guys told me that they thought I had a boyfriend, and were genuinely surprised to discover that although I was dating Mike for one year before we had sex, (and I broke-up w/ him b/c he cheated on me), for the first 6mos of that we were both free to date other’s if we wanted. Another big one I got, was that they were just afraid of the risk of rejection! They just didn’t want to risk feeling “humiliated” if I happened to say NO! So they never even got the chance to date me, when I absolutely would have said yes to all but two of the guys who said that! One recurring theme I see here, is guys saying that if a beautiful woman is “still single”… there is definitely something wrong with her? I think that is horribly offensive! What if she only just broke-up with her ex less than a month ago? Are we now expected to be in a relationship break up, begin dating, find “the guy” and be in a wonderful successful relationship, all within 4 weeks? But in fairness, the two reasons I stated, seem to be the most common with the new friends I have here… either they assumed that you are already in a relationship, or they were just afraid of the possibility of the girl saying “no”, that they were willing to give up on the very real possibility that he could the one in a relationship with her. Sad, really!

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I don't get it when people say there must be something wrong with someone who is both attractive and single, either. There are so many very valid reasons someone could be single, including by choice.

I agree with the rest of your opinion as well! I do find that it's common for people to be afraid to shoot their shot, and to be especially intimidated if the person they are interested in is conventionally attractive in an above average way.

[CrazyGirl2]

@aWes0MeNeSs Thanks for the reply. Like I said, I don’t understand why guys assume anything… what does it cost just to be polite to someone else who is attractive to you. Who knows, maybe that one act of just being polite to someone might give you a hint (maybe some body language) to let you know “I think you are cute too, and you seem really nice, would you maybe like to get some coffee sometime?” But it’s guy’s we’re talking about here… since when has anything most guys do, ever made sense to us?

[aWes0MeNeSs]

No problem, and agreed!

[Anonymous]

I’m a model, I’ve been single for quite a while now. Some of the men in these comments need to put their egos aside. It’s true, most women remain single due to a mans intimidation or assumptions about us. They believe just because we’re “pretty” we already have a boyfriend or we’re automatically a b**ch and “cocky”, when we’re not. Don’t feel bad girls :) it doesn’t mean you’re unattractive if you don’t have men at your feet and it’s true we do have high standards for a reason and the proof is in this site, some of the men that present themselves in these comments or on this site, they’re total 🗑. So don’t believe them. Remain happy & collected. continue on with your life and having high standards because when you have low standards that’s when you begin to just let any guy into your life and end up getting hurt like most of our sisters do. They themselves tell you to keep the high standards because it’s not worth settling with just ANY guy. He’ll come around some day, the guy who’s man enough will💖.

[Sparks32]

I don't date anymore so I don't have any invested interest in deceiving women or what ever else you seem to be implying. Some guys might be intimidated by pretty girls but not all ways in my experience. I dated a really hot girl and a lot of time we went out and I came back from the bathroom to see a group of guys are flirting with her which met I was always angry which is a major down side. when your in your 40's and not with a man you will more often then not find a man looking for anything more then something casual. Women do seem to be infatuated with men sleep with 3 or more women a week so perhaps if he is too good to be true he very well could be. My female friends approaching 50 are lonely in want someone in their lives but I don't think many of them will find anyone now. Don't settle for a bad choice but if you keep looking to trade up i think you might end up alone.

[Opinion Owner]

So what you’re saying is you were so insecure that you decided to date someone who isn’t your type? That’s pretty shallow 🗿. The purpose of my comment doesn’t mean “looks” women like myself don’t look for “looks” we look for guys who will genuinely treat us better than the one before. I was gaslit a couple of times by both attractive and unattractive men. It’s mainly the ingenuity you gender has towards “pretty” women. It sucks because we’re the target for manipulative/ extroverted men. We want a good character. So unless there isn’t genuine guy out there who has the qualities I look for in his persona, then yea I’m going to stay single I admit. But to be quite frank we’re always going to be targeted by the men that think like you and are insecure about an empowered women like you are. It’s sad.

[Sparks32]

Have you always attacked people that are trying to help you princess? I wasn't angry at her. I was saving up for a engagement ring when She met up with a old school friend while going to see family who convinced her that I was only using her for sex. she avoided my calls for a month before telling me she was engage to the guy who ended up wanting to kill me in her honor. He was an heroin dealer that got junkies to steal stuff for gear so he could sell it on the black market. She had higher moral standard i thought and she hated drugs so I don't understand. that was 20 years ago and I have never loved another women since, So I didn't think in was fair on any woman if I dated them after that so i didn't. I think your suspicious of men because you they have deceived you before and even perhaps her aswell. I believe you when you say that you have been manipulated by men, Do you think you would be able to tell the difference between a genuine guy and a manipulative piece of shit? It sounds like the answer is no and you might end not being able to love anyone like I have or worse.

[DaveJord]

I have some a theories here... just theories. I mostly online date... but more attractive women get a disportionate amount of attention from very undesirable men.

So this causes them;

1) To feel more overwhelmed by the experience, and mistrusting of men in general.

2) Just because we or you think they are pretty doesn't mean they see themselves as attractive. So they are hesitant to get involved with a guy they perceive as just seeing them as pretty. Yes attractive people have insecurities, don't fool yourself into believing they have it easier then most of us.

3) They get so much attention from men, they become unrealistic about their expectations of what a real man can offer. They become over selective believing that the perfect man is out there. Maybe they do eventually find the perfect man, or maybe at some piont they realized that they passed on a lot of really good men and come to their senses.

4) Finally you have the good looking women who really knows it. Which mens she sets herself standards so high with her own inflated sense of self worth, that none can compare to her glory.

[user1516]

I really think 1 and 2 designated for me. I’ve had really bad experiences with men and some were really not my type but I still gave them a chance cause I liked their personality. They all tried gaslighting me multiple times and treated me terribly. We want men who don’t see us as just a pretty face whenever someone asks them what they like about us we’d expect meaningful words about who we are as a person and if they actually paid attention to us enough to say beautiful things about us rather than “because she’s pretty 🤪” . No. This is why some of us choose to be single and are main goal oriented. It sucks to attract the worst kind of people with wrong intentions. Whichever gender.

[user1516]

Resonated*

[DaveJord]

@user1516 I've heard this before and commiserate with you.. I am a better than average looking person, not super sexy or but not ugly.

But I have been out with a lot of ladies that encountered these types you talk about. Then meet someone who seemingly is a reasonably handsome guy who acts like a gentleman... their insecurities spike and they freak out. Because they just can't trust a descent guy not only exists but would be interested in them. All because of all the losers who in the past just saw a pretty face and didn't know how to treat a lady.

So don't dispare, only way to get better at dating is to be out there dating... every chance you get is an opponent to learn from the experience and eventually you start finding the right types.

[user1516]

@DaveJord whether he’s attractive or unattractive I hope you’re right :/

[Luopio27]

Out of all the girls I ever liked, were most of the time in a relationship. It was usually the avarage looking girls that got harder time finding a guy.


In your experiance it seems to be vice versa. For guys who fancy the hottest girls, if he ain't the top shot, it won't make a difference if the top girls are single with top standards.


The dating world is more cruel than it is kind to anyone below avarage. Both girls and guys dream of what they can't have and take the best they can get.

[ManOnFire]

I've heard this said but don't really think it's true. Some will say it's because these women have "high standards," but if it really is true it probably has very little to do with their so-called standards and more to do with the fact that men don't want women who "know they're pretty" and act like they're God's gift.

[MJtheCoach]

Woman only have high standards based on the weak men. Absence of masculinity makes women feel like they can always upgrade even if they land superman they think he’s not good enough no guys have a good enough no guys have a good looking enough this is exactly against our nature in biology if girls are chasing the top 2% hottest guys there will always be depressed as what the social media standard is now getting ridiculous.

[ManOnFire]

@MJtheCoach True, but most women are ADHD about attraction and relationships period. They lose interest regardless of who or what you are once the thrill for them is met. And this is because women in general are emptier than men. Emptiness is what fuels the constant, never-ending need to move on to the next and have something else, something else, and something else forever because they can't fill their inner void.

[MJtheCoach]

It’s because woman by nature follow men and social construct and we men set of those social aspects. If you look at countries with high masculinity girls don’t give a crap what the guy looks like as long as he’s fit if you look at feminine countries like Canada Australia Germany France most part of Asia girls are chasing the top 2% hottest guys. Even if the girls ugly or has nothing to offer she always think she deserves a hot guy of course she’s delusional because men I don’t want to set up those social aspects!

[ManOnFire]

@MJtheCoach "If you look at countries with high masculinity girls don’t give a crap what the guy looks like as long as he’s fit"
- Kinda true, yeah.

[melanieeeB]

Cause most guys assume:

A. we are already taken, cause why would a pretty girl be single

B. And if she is single, she must be crazy, cause why does she not have a boyfriend

Or like

C. Guys are too shy and therefore there are more confident guys approaching us and there is a bigger possibility that this guy is a douchbag

D. Guys will assume that we are out of their league and don't even try to approach us

And yeah I said us and included myself in this category lol peace out ✌🏼

[ZackBan]

For the same reason a candy store owner eventually stops eating candy.

Pretty girls have so much options and abundance that they struggle with selection.
Whoever they date they will wonder if they could do better and even wonder that before they date.

Any pretty single woman will often be overlooking that right in front of her is at least one guy she's friendzoning who would move heaven and earth for a chance to be with her.

And this realization only comes later in life for so many unfortunately especially once their options begin to fade

[Anonymous]

Perhaps one or more of these reasons:

- people don’t approach them as much or ask them out / are sometimes afraid to talk to them out of intimidation or nerves or could think they’re out of their league

- people assume they’re taken or spoken for already

- pretty girls are usually much pickier because they can be. Especially when they know exactly what they want. They’ll only settle when it’s someone they really value or want

- they have so much choice and so many options they’d rather not be with just one person and would rather be single and sleep around, or they can’t decide who they want to be with

-trust issues, a lot of attractive girls have been used by men for sex or arm candy

- they often get approached by shallow men who are only into their looks or status that comes with it

[Opinion Owner]

One of my friends is the most beautiful (physically) person I know in real life, and she’s perpetually single and everyone is always surprised

[Apulu_3]

Being pretty or rich can be toxic as people would love you for your looks or money not the personality. Pretty girls are either judgmental cuz they think that no one could match their standards and have bad personality but not all pretty girls are like that. There are some who are with good and kind personality and with good looks but they are liked for their looks which won't stay forever not their personality. Same goes with rich people. There are rich people who are spoilt but most choose to remain alone because they don't want gold diggers even though they have great personality. I hope you are getting what I mean.

[ShadezMcgee]

I will offer my perspective on this.

There are a few things that can support that, but I believe that most beautiful women are dating.

Now the reasons to support your question here.

1.) Many men don't feel confident or the need to talk to them because they will more than like assume either they are taken and have a boyfriend or she would not give him a chance if he did ask her out.

2.) Another factor that plays into this belief is that they can come off as materialistic or possibly high maintenance.

3.) Beautiful people tend to want to date people of equal attractiveness or more.

4.) Dating standards and gender roles have made both genders very toxic and judgmental towards each other on who should do what and what relationships should encompass.

[hi_it_is_me123]

No? Not in my experience but they are the target of toxic bad boys since these toxic guys are very confident and extrovert while the good guys/ average guys dont approach beautiful girls since they think that these pretty girls are out of their league. So this is why think being being beautiful is a curse sometimes. When you are beautiful and young aka naive, you are literally the target of bad people. This is why parents should be more protective of their beautiful kids till they are mature enough to avoid/reject bad people aka till they can't be easily manipulated by bad people.

[user1516]

This! I replied to a comment on this post before and I said I’ve had bad experience with all kinds of men whether they were attractive or not. They were definitely more extroverted and tried gaslighting me multiple times it was horrifying.

[user1516]

The men I’ve had experiences with I mean.

[Moose304]

I'm not smart enough to answer this question. All I can do is relate things I hear men say in bars etc. They will see a "hottie" sitting beside herself but figure she is far too high maintenance for them. They had rather hang out with their buds, rack some pool, or shoot some darts. I have had bartenders actually tell me some of these women ask them is this a gay bar? I generally leave them alone. If they sit close to me I will engage in a conversation, but that is all. I know of 3 guys that are now banned because women made complaints. It sucks, but men are learning to keep their distance. As far as dating goes a lot of women don't go out because they keep waiting for chad to call them and let Tom Dick and Harry go on! Chad is not going to call most times.

[JSmuve]

Do you have any evidence that the most attractive girls are *always* single? Or is this just anecdotal based on one or two girls you know who can't seem to keep a guy?

Basically it comes down to three things: effort, desire, and personality

If an attractive girl can't get a guy to approach her, then it's because she's
- not putting herself in positions to be approached
- she's giving off closed-off body language

If she can't get a guy to ask her out then she isn't communicating interest well enough or her personality is off-putting.

If she can't get a guy to commit to her, then it's definitely a personality issue on her part.

If she has no desire to be in a relationship and just move from guy to guy, then that's pretty self-explanatory.

[SaraSmithishere]

(1) No one shares her interest or lifestyle. I have gone to school with some very attractive women who had very niche interests. One’s a lawyer who’s all about “progressive food justice”
and making sure that kids in lower-income areas are able to eat nutritionally-dense food, and one is a computer wonk who has her own line of computers. I don’t know if the average guy will get along with them.

(2) She wants a physically attractive man or woman.

(3) She is working hard at her career and wants her alone time.

(4) They don’t get approached.

(5) Similar to the first one, but they can’t find a man who is their “type”. If you’re a introverted lawyer who likes fine dining and volunteering at a soup kitchen, how many men are you going to find who vibe with you?

[Diodoro]

Source?

Jk lol

A lot of hot girls who are single aren't actually single in the same way that you're thinking. They have multiple guys but they go to for a variety of things.

They just don't have one monogamous boyfriend. They have a different guy for most things they want.

When I meet a new girl I just automatically assume she's actively talking to at least five guys and fucking at least two of them if not more

Is it true in all cases? No, but it happens often enough that you should keep it in mind as a guy. Most girls at a minimum "talkin to" a guy already

[mobiusforniner]

Not my wife. Nabbed her when I got the chance.

But to answer your question, beauty is not only physical and most guys can sense this. I know pretty girls who are single. They have a personality or social disorder which far overshadows their physical beauty. It's sad because it's likely unconscious and probably stems from some messed up trauma earlier in their life. But most guys are not patient or loving enough to invest the requisite time and energy in resolving that trauma; or finding ways to bring out the beauty deep within her. So they remain perpetually single, bitter and angry at the world.

[bobalife]

you speak truth.

[exitseven]

the urban legend goes that the really hot girls don't really date because most guys won't ask them out because they figure they will get turned down,
There waas a girl in my homeroom thatI liked. I thought she was the hottest looking girl in the school. She was not a cheerleader or in any of the other groups. I tried to talk to her a couple of times but it never went anywhere. I assumed that she was dating older guys. I knew a guy that lived next door to her and he told me that she usually just stayed home on the weekends and did not have a boyfriend.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Men fear them, think they are out of their league and won't have a chance so they don't even try.

They could also have had bad experiences with someone else in the past, where they approached and got rejected in a very mean way so now they don't want to.

[t-8900]

That's been true for me. That one rejection was l... traumatizing. Hundreds of faces starring and she made a huge scene. Heh, never again. Not in person. Through text sure but not in person. And not someone who blabs on social media about everything

[Massageman]

Guys are trying to preserve their "machoness". They don't want to ask them out because they are afraid they will be rejected, ( thinking that she already has her pick of ANY guy). If most every guy thinks like this, then she will be dateless, hence, single.
Today's lessons: 1. nothing ventured, nothing gained. 2. never assume

[shorty_samy]

Take it from their perspective, they're waiting for the perfect guy to come along. Like a celebrity or something, since these females may be picky. They may want to find a complex male/female/person to share a connection with, rather than just anyone. My experience with pretty females is that they want to date the best-looking male/female, since they're almost all about looks, like for selfies on social media. But some females are just naturally pretty, and maybe want to stay single. Who knows!

[jshm2]

Because they may be pretty, but they are probably shitty personalities, or have social and physical issues.

A lot of people out there are just not relationship material and looks is not their main problem.

Many of the meanest and craziest bitches I knew from my younger days were pretty good looking. It's one reason I came up with the wise quote of "never date crazy".

[Beautyforeverybody]

Because most men nowadays want to have sex then leave without any commitment. Pretty people, specially women can have sex whenever they want with almost whomever they want. So it just does not interest them if a guy only has sex to put on the table.

[Neilbud]

1. Girls can be evil too.
2. Guys can be intimidated by an overly attractive girl. The rejection hurts more.
3. A true connection is rare. You won't work through the b. s. if you don't truly like the person. Which takes time to create sometimes.
3. Some girls have overly high standards.
4. Growing up sucks. You make all kinds of mistakes, expecially around a pretty girl.
And a few others that have already been mentioned.

[darkcloud1945]

Just my own observation that men are frightened to try to talk to avery pretty girl. They think she could not be unattached. Her boy friend is 6ft 10 350 lbs.. They are afraid of being shot down. they are not good enough for them. Me they would most probably kill me in bed. LOL

[DaveJord]

I don't think men or all men are afraid... but yes most maybe. But most women are not so pretty either... so we are talking about a small population of people her.