If you are suspicious a girl might be a transexual what is the nicest way to ask?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been chatting up an attractive 30 year old woman on bumble. Her body looks feminine and she’s 5’5’’. But her facial features just look off. Not unattractive but just very different. She’s also real quick to respond and very direct which is unusual for most attractive women on dating apps.

I've suspicious she might be a tranny. If she isn’t one than I would meet up. But how do I ask without insulting a real woman who just happens to have masculine facial features.

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When it comes to the trans movement I don’t give a shit what people do in their lives. But when it comes to dating I have a right to know of someone was born with ovaries or not. Some trannys try to hide that to fool guys and use wokeness as a disgusting bs excuse to deceive.

Dating preference is NOT prejudice. If anybody tries to argue otherwise I am going to tear you a new one.

However if this woman really is legitimate I imagine it would be really insulting to ask that.

[Loveleigh]

Ask in a very organic way to the conversation for baby pictures. That's literally the only way I could think about it without being direct. I feel like if someone asked me if I was cis, I'd be offended and i am a straight woman. Also, do her feet look large in photos?

[Asker]

It’s hard to tell. But yeah I could ask if she could send an earlier photo of herself or something.

[Loveleigh]

Whatever you do, make sure it flows with the conversation. Maybe a "you're not gonna believe this baby picture of me I found. Wait, what about you? I bet you were adorable!"

It definitely is a delicate topic but its fair that you'd want to know and you deserve honesty.

[Loveleigh]

Also, another conversation that may flow is if you have the whole "what's the most awkward thing that has happened to you while dating?" and maybe you can talk about your past experience with a trans so that you set the expectation that you're looking to date a born-woman individual whether it's to conceive or whatever.

[Asker]

Honestly at this point I am about 90% sure she’s trans. Not just how she looks but how she communicates. Men and women not only act different in person but message and text different. She’s too direct and responsive. Also the angles in her photos seem to be very strategically taken.

Anyway I had a very bad experience with this years ago. I don’t care for another. Either way I wish these people would just cut out the bs and come clean about being trans. The fact that lots of them try to catfish by doing mental gymnastics that they were “always female” is woke mental gymnastic bs. It’s actually making “transphobia” worse.

Anyway I am sure their is a specialty market out there when it comes to dating. I don’t care and the more power to them. But unfortunately for trans women the vast majority of guys want nothing to do with that. I have no sympathy for them either because that is just a result of a problem THEY created for themselves.

[Razp_Sorbet]

"sorry if you find this rude but I was wondering if you're cis?"

[Asker]

Yeah. If I met with her I would probably know in 30 seconds. I can tell by mannerisms, hand size, shoulder size and just vibes if the person was born with ovaries vs. a D. But I don’t want to go through an awkward experience. I actually had it happen once years ago. Not fun.

[Chumisfum]

I can usually tell from smell try sniffing her and then another girl women have a natural specific feminine scent i can’t describe it but I know it when I smell it it’s a pleasant odor smelling men makes me angry and irritated

[Asker]

Well I am not going to risk it. I already had one bad experience with this years ago. Not gung ho about going through that bs again.

Why don’t we make it easy and make it mandatory for these people to just have TRANS tattooed on their foreheads to prevent confusion?

[Chumisfum]

Well just don’t take the risk if you think its a guy it probably a guy height and bone structure is another dead giveaway trust your instincts

[Asker]

Yep. She wanted to meet up last evening and that was a dead giveaway somethings not right. Most women especially attractive women are not that forward.

The old saying is “fool me once shame on on you. Fool me twice shame on me.”

[MandyandScott]

I’m so sorry but I’m gonna say do as crocodile Dundee did give whoever it is a crotch shot
May be before your time if you’re hugging ask if she has a package and you will no by her reaction. Good luck

[Anonymous]

“what’s your gender identity” I guess 😬🤷‍♀️