Should I completely stop talking to him due to his disrespect or should I be understanding of his healing process?

[Anonymous]

Advice? So I've been talking to this guys for a little over a month, week are both pretty fresh out of toxic relationships, however, I feel I have recovered and he definitely has not. This guy and I were supposed to go on a date this past Friday, but his ex called and his answered his phone the night before, and canceled our date the next today bc he had to get his head straight. I know from dealing with people like his ex she's just messing with his head. I told him it was beyond messed up he ever would consider answering his ex's call in the first place considering our plans thr next day. He said sorry, and he realized that he wasn't ready to date yet. Should I maintain a friendship (i do like talking to him, but I am still upset over the disrespect, I have no intentions of considering him from a dating perspective after this unless there were some major changes on his side. I do appreciate he was honest about talking to his ex, but it still wasn't ok for him to do, or am I in the wrong for being upset?

[HollyK21]

No, you definitely had the right to be upset. Personally I wouldn’t want any sort of relationship. It’s like going from being harshly disrespected by him to becoming his shoulder to cry on and vent to about the same person who caused this in the first place. Just wish him well in his healing process or hope they work it out and move on. No one has time for that.

[Asker]

I ended up telling him what he did upset me, he didn't even realize it hurt me, or that is wasn't ok. He apologized, but still doesn't make it ok. Are men seriously that dense?

[HollyK21]

I have no reason to discredit what he said, but that just feels like bullshit. He knows what he did he just didn’t expect you to speak on it and he doesn’t want confrontation. Men can be dense but generally not oblivious.