I am a 16 year old girl wanting to date, but guys my age are dumb. Is it wrong that I like older guys?

[curiosi_tea]

For context (if that matters) I've always been told that I'm mature for my age, and I think I can be pretty attractive when I put effort into it. I appreciate people who can have comprehensive and in-depth conversations with me. Obviously an age gap, escpecially one crossing the age of consent, looks a little sketch. Do guys like me my age exhist? I know there's some out there but they're too shy around me. Do 18-19 year olds think it's stupid to date a girl who's still a sophomore?

[TheorionMage]

The unvarnished 'truth' of your situation IS... few 'prestige' males in YOUR age range have ANY long-term 'honorable' intentions.

Everyone is leveraging their physical short-term desirability to amass life experiences and then moving on, leaving emotional wreckage... that's 'why' girls who seek more, will offer their SAME sexual potential to OLDER males. In your age range, the don't date to discuss Chaucer or abstract political philosophy... they're there to experience how getting YOU physically-aroused, gets THEM physically aroused. Familiar with the term: 'Blue Balls'?

Guys in a social dating situation seek personal 'immortality' ... believing their marginal skills will make them YOUR personal 'best ever' (in reality, 'best SO FAR!)

They seek to overload your morals and common sense with physical stimuli and watch your hormonal 'animal self' over-power you. YOUR building visible arousal is irresistible. The goal is your reproductive system's overload in spasming convulsions and involuntary squirting leaving you mewing, gasping and emotional 'spent'.

Understand, that YOU are biologically entitled to experience and ENJOY whatever you may elect to allow BUT... do so WISELY. Nature (ergo 'GOD') has you swimming in hormones at THIS age to promote PREGNANCY! YOU, are in your body's 'best if used by' date...

The MORE control you can exert over YOUR fertility, the MORE you get to leverage the terms of the pleasure of that physical act, for EACH of you. Men of greater life experience typically can offer both intellectual stimulation and (hopefully better and considerate physical stimulation) seeking a return invitation rather than a mere 'opportune' experience.

[Jamie05rhs]

I agree with most of this except I don't think the guy's age is the determining factor. Men of all ages are looking to get laid.

[TheorionMage]

@Jamie05rhs And women who aren't, join cloistered convents to side-step the endless heterosexual pursuits or elect to 'scissor' and cunnilingus with like-minded women.

'Diet' foreplay. ALL the same frenzied 'panting' but with NO chance of unintended conception. Just cramping tongues and fingers~ ;)

[DaveToo]

16 is the age of consent in most states in the U. S. "Men" near your age or a little older, 5+ years, will want sex first, then conversation. Men and women between the ages of 17 and 37 are looking to hook up, mostly for sex, but also for permanent situations, i. e. marriage or similar circumstances. Be careful and be safe. My girls, before either turned 13, were given birth control pills and supported sex education in school, but I gave them the same speech I just gave you. Girls/women are biological creatures. Sexual things are simply part of learning.

[DaveToo]

Thanks for the MHO!

[FlutteringFeelings]

16 ? At 16 I played with Barbies and computer games. I started speaking to guys at 17 turning 18 and I learned a lot about what I want and didn’t want in the process. I reevaluated my game plan and had an idea what it means to date with intention at the age of 23; so you have a long way to go. As you get older you’ll realize that some guys lacking common sense isn’t an age situation. Enjoy your life and don’t be in a rush to date.


I can’t tell you that “you’re too young” as if you don’t have common sense. Women older than you are making silly decisions with men and you would think it would be obvious to walk away? Not. When the time comes for you to date it will certainly
arrive and there’s no need to rush into it. Find new hobbies and don’t focus too much on the boys because as you mentioned they’re immature.


Boys will always be here and as you get older you’ll be introduced into a new batch day by day. The guys I was attracted to at 17 and 18 aren’t the kind of guys I’m attracted to today. Give yourself a chance to see more and you’ll be thankful that
you didn’t waste your youth on those boys.

[Seinna]

Guys aged 18-19 are also stupid and mostly unreliable, they just seem smart to YOU because of those few years of advantage. And because that difference is so big from their side, if they would chose to date you then it's a major red flag. Take my word on it.

I'll tell you what I'm going to tell my daughter in the future - hold off dating until you're 18-20. Then date men above the age of 23. Before that tread very carefully. In most cases they will just waste your time, use you and break your heart. Not necessarily out of malice but just because they're 1) emotionally underdeveloped compared to girls and will be oblivious to your emotions and 2) want to have fun at that age and will be with you for the wrong reasons.

I didn't date as a teenager and felt bad about it... but my friends did. And in hindsight - thank God for that. Of course there are exceptions... but those are rare and in between. Forget all the romance book crap and teen tv shows, real life doesn't look like that.

[AmandaYVR]

Yep you can date older in your case. I'd advise against getting with a guy who has long graduated high school though. That's an important marker in development and life experience changes quite a bit after that.
But you can either abstain from dating all together and wait a bit, or only entertain the idea of dating older. Boys mature slower so you will align better.
They say by the age of 25 brain development is about done; and personality development at about 30, fyi. (But a 25 yr old is too old for you right now.)

[jennifer_bloom]

It’s two years before you can legally date an adult so spend this time preparing for your future and in a few years, you will be able to date any age you want.

[bean2k21]

16 is the age of sexual consent in many states. I don't know why you would want to spread lies like this.

[FlutteringFeelings]

In what state? @bean2k21 not Florida and many others. 16 year old is still a teen and needs a signature by a parent or guardian wherever they go. Some doesn’t abide by the rules but 16 is far from sexual consent.

[PapiiMijo]

@FlutteringFeelings Some states are 16 some states are 17 some states are 18 some countries are 16 some countries are a way younger age that probably should not even be legal. My point is what is a number when it is considered right or wrong depending on where you live?

[laurieluvsit]

No, it is not wrong but the problem is that the minute he touches you in any kind of sexual manner he has then become jail bait and you would be putting him at great risk.

If convicted he could actually become a Registered Sex Offender pedophile and it could ruin his life forever.

Although you would probably not get into any trouble yourself, other than with your parents, it would be very selfish of you to put a boy at risk that way. Find someone your age or wait until you are also 18 to find a boy that won't be put in great danger please.

Boyfriend of curiosi_tea

[bean2k21]

Lies. Lies. Lies. 16 is the age of consent in many states. Check your state laws

[laurieluvsit]

@bean2k21 I am in California and it is 18 here but you are correct, I should have qualified it.

Thank you for the correction Mr Bean.

[curiosi_tea]

Omg I live this. I ran out of MHOs tho :(

[laurieluvsit]

No problem, you are very sweet, thank you :)

[Levin]

Most people are immature at such a young age. Hell, even most adults are really immature in many respects. Most 18 or 19 year olds are probably quite immature too. Try and find someone at least somewhat emotionally mature, and someone kind. If someone has those things, then you can't go far wrong.

As a thoughtful person, you will probably find it hard to find someone on your level. But don't give up.

And don't get so much caught up on age. Obviously, we have to respect (to some extent) the legal boundaries and the social taboos we find ourselves beholden to in society at least to some degree.

[IAmMichael]

18-19 can get in trouble for it, but ultimately that will come down to if your parents find it acceptable "Romeo and Juliette" laws are weird--they require the parents' permission). If you really want older men, give it two years. It'll feel like a longer wait than it is.

As to your original question: no. It's not weird or wrong, many people are attracted to those outside their immediate age group. After all, how many teens have crushes on movie stars in their 20s-40s? I definitely had a crush on Megan Fox, Natalie Portman, Scarlett Johansson, etc. when I was your age.

[Birdlegs]

First don’t say you’re mature for your age that’s something pedophiles say to justify you know pedophilia also everyone thinks they are until they do something stupid (trust me I know that from experience). Second you should probably stick with guys your age , the 18-20 range is legal adult age and they can get in trouble messing with you.

[curiosi_tea]

I get what you mean by the pedophilia stuff bc I also know from experience, but I am fairly mature for my age and I feel like it was something worth mentioning for context. If I didn't know how to protect myself from shit guys, I probably wouldn't mention it because I understand how childish it sounds. The more I think about it the more pedophilic an age gap sounds like rn. The reason why I am so conflicted is because I know older guys that are very sweet and not f boys but they're 18/19. Like you said, I wouldn't want to get anyone in trouble though.

[Avicenna]

People go through huge life changes at ages 16-19 and there is a huge difference between someone who's still in high school and someone who's graduated. Now, when I was your age, I had classmates who had boyfriends who were older (occasionally even much older), but I definitely would advise you against doing that, even if it does happen to be legal where you live, not just because of the life changes but because you're likely to be worried they're cheating on you. There should also be a number of 18 year old guys in your school anyway.

Target the smarter guys your age or a little older but who are still in high school, that's my advice. I sometimes had a girlfriend who went to a different school.

[Heartache0405]

Focus on being a teen first. Have fun because relationships suck. Too much emotional pain comes with it. And if you haven’t had your first relationship yet, it never lasts. The first one hurts the most and it just goes down hill from there. You’ll cry a lot. Your heart will ache and it’ll turn you into someone you currently aren’t. For better or worse. You may even end up pregnant and that is a whole other can of worms you don’t want to deal with. So be glad that you’re single. Be single for as long as you can! Trust me. You’ll regret it if you don’t need my advice

[Jouth]

I felt that way in high school. Mature guys like you do exist. I've been a fully grown man since I was 16. You just have to keep looking.

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[spuitkaas]

Haven news for you. Guys in their 20s are also stupid. If you like in-depth conversations I think there are 16 year olds who like that, however many are so insecure that they wouldn't easily admit that out of fear of not looking cool with their peers. Find a guy who doesn't mind going out of pace. Maybe the outcasts or even more popular guys.
I wouldn't go past 18 because it's just a little weird (I don't know where you're from though).

[Vikkrram]

See i have seen some people who have like 8, 10, 15 years age gap diffrence they are married... It's all about understanding each other... and then makin a moove... Take things slowly, first find a man you really attracted to... i think you have found one that's why you are sayin that u like a guy of older age. Then i would say... look at his behaviour if he likes you of course you can get a idea.

Then take a moove... and see how things happen.

[Lucki7626]

A lot of guys will say and see nothing wrong with it but I personally disagree. When I was younger I thought the same I was often told I was mature of my age and similar things of the sort. When I was of “legal” (19-20) age I had a 32 year old guy attempting to court me.

At first I thought it was because of my mature nature. I began to realize that in reality he was the one that was immature. After a while my sisters talked to me and got me to understand how weird it was for a guy that much older than me to pursue me. Sure it is legal but there were girls that had more than me that were just a few years older than me but he specifically and intentionally dated girls much younger than him. It was a pattern.

Not every older guy that intentionally pursues younger girls is a loser, but oftentimes they just are girl.

[Manny4444]

May i ask how people thought you were matures for your age and how was he immature?

[ChrisMaster69]

It happens, especially at things like youth clubs, sports clubs etc.

you end up with girls n guys doing something non school orientated and they mix, people then get to know the other person and attraction occurs.

it’s important that they are attracted to you not age, also ideally you do the asking etc.

here in the UK we have under 18 clubs (as in dancing, night club type) and you end up with a fair mix of ages.

[TechniCarl]

Practically everyone is told they are mature for their age it means nothing as I can guarantee you are not prepared for the mature world

You are best dating people your age as otherwise it's illegal for the other person or you will regret it at some point

[chriscdi]

It's possible, when I was 16 I almost had a 18 year old girlfriend, I never asked her out and it all kinda went south, we liked each other but she turned out to be a best friends ex and I don't do that shit, even tho it's an ex, It's still rub off on me wrong so I broke it off either ways tho it's possible, I was also always into older girls too since I was around your age cause girls my age were just not mature enough for me back then and I knew I was mature for my age when older girls actually started liking me, it just seems better for me, now it might be completely different for you, I'm just saying

[Aerissa_Jade]

This is exactly why it seems like almost all women are with older guys, usually 4 to 5 years older. Sure there are exceptions for someone at or near the same age but that seems like the minority, at least in my area.

[jessicake]

Not so much that there’s something wrong with you for finding mature men attractive, but that there’s something wrong with the men who return that love. Someone who finds a 16 year old attractive at those ages cannot be mature nor healthy. If the there are mature kind boys around you but they’re shy, I’d say you probably gotta be the brave one and make the first move. I did and I’m the happiest I’ve been

[lucas262]

I think most guys think it's weird dating anyone under 18.

The older guys will probably be more open after that, but my advise is to wait guys at 16 have no idea what their doing I sure didn't. It's a bunch of b. s petty drama and high-school esq nonsense. Trust me you won't miss these petty boys in like 4 years.

[Jamie05rhs]

It's totally okay for you to date a senior. It happens all the time. But you just have to understand that they are older and more experienced than you are, so they can easily take advantage of you. You have to be strong willed and intentional in what you want and don't want out of that relationship.

Also, be aware of the fact that you will be going into a long-distance relationship very soon when he goes off to college. Which can be difficult. Either that or you might break up.

[Daniela1982]

Older guys are going to think you are immature and dumb, just as you think of 16 year old boys. The only thing an older guy would want a 16 year old girl for is to get in her pants.

[jshm2]

You do you, kiddo. But take it from a seasoned guy, and invest in your life and skills first. Dating can always come after. But if you don't get your career on track; adding an SO makes it more difficult - especially if you get knocked up.

Obviously if you're looking to be a devoted wifey, then it's a different thing. But still I would implore you to at least get your grades first.

[slatyb]

No, it's not wrong. It's quite common.

Do you mean older like 18, still in school? That's fine, but don't let them persuade you into doing something you are reluctant to do (like sex).

Older like 26? No, don't date anyone out of high school. The adult men who want to date high-school girls are bad news.

[Kaneki05]

Of course they exist, just there all the outcasts that no one to little amount bother's to talk too.

[curiosi_tea]

How do I initiate something without scaring them then lol. I'm afraid they think I'm insane.

[Kaneki05]

They probably think you think that of them. I don't know cause while there more mature but like you said more shy or just awkward to that social interaction they don't really get. Just something you have to initiate really and hope it goes well.

[MelonSoda]

Not wrong, just be careful about what kind of older guys you're dealing with. And please for the love of God, do not be 16 hanging around guys old enough to be your grandpa. Maybe just a couple years older, that's it.

[InYourHead]

Nothing wrong with older guys. Vet them good though most are gross but some are great

[PapiiMijo]

What a nice thing to say lol.

[DiegoO]

Oh, hun; you don't wanna date older guys, yet. Better stick to your age range; no older guy who is healthy up there ↪️🧠, is gonna want date underage teens. If one appear to wanna date you, and if you like him, bring up your senses, because he's surely likeky a sexual predator. Unless if we are talking about a 2y age difference 16-18. In that case I don't think is trouble.

[AllieAnswersThings]

It is NOT wrong that you like older guys. It IS wrong if you date them outside of your legal range. I've always liked older girls/guys but I never considered dating one that wasn't within a few years of my age until I was over 18.

[linka_pat307]

Even I like a guy who is older than and have age gap
I think love has no age gap as long as its true
Besides it's just dating, u aren't going to be with them all your life
God had someone special for you

[nawtee_me]

@PrettyPriya sorry lol but I am 16 and profile says 21

[PrettyPriya]

@nawtee_me

Good catch. @curiosi_tea would you like me to have @GirlsAskGuys correct your age?

[dustybiker]

@PrettyPriya Maybe gender too?

[PrettyPriya]

@dustybiker

After observation, I would have to side with you on this.

However, it is entirely possible the user logged into the wrong color account. It has been known to happen.

[dustybiker]

@PrettyPriya lol oops.

[curiosi_tea]

@PrettyPriya @dustybiker

I made this account at like 2 am and I have no idea what I did when i set it up. When I logged in today it was already fixed. Thanks!

[PrettyPriya]

@curiosi_tea

No worries. It was likely my tag to admin that got it fixed. They likely saw the issue and took action.

That sorted, have a great day!

[Agape93]

Don't go for older guys yet, as you can easily land them in prison for it.

[Blackcupcake]

relatable... that’s exactly how I felt when I was around your age, but I honestly wouldn’t recommend dating a guy that’s 18+ until you reach 18... it just makes things safer for you

[badboy-hey]

I don't think if there's anything wrong with it. I personally like older girls and could connect with them really well. I know someone special who is older and really close to me.

She'd probably reading this.

[Bdsmaster]

I don't think it wrong what you are thinking at your age kiddo a lot of girls and boys like older people at that age.
There is nothing wrong in it, it's just that at this age you would a lot of guys who might want to take advantage of you so be careful with that.
Ok kiddo

[djmzes]

Simple

[RebeccaBI2000]

Liking older for maturity is very common. Just don’t date older then legally allowed in your area. Not until you are of legal age. I still prefer to date older myself

[IronLady6354]

No. That's pretty common at your age. Most girls mature faster than boys. Consequently most girls your age look for older boyfriends who have a more similar compatible level of maturity than guys their own age

[trulyanattentionhog]

I’d say do 17 or 18.. 19 is a bit of a stretch tbh but you do you

[loveslongnails]

You're not going to find most 18-19 yr old boys to be "that much less dumb". LOL But they will be more interested in sex and less in talking.

[Anno2]

This is the most basic shit of any known society, slightly older guy with slitghtly more life experince takes care of slightly younger woman with slightly less life experience.

You're fine unless you're ugly.

[Massageman]

Females begin to mature at an earlier age than do males.

Some will wait it out until about 26-27 y. o. when the brain cortexes even out a bit and fully mature. Some will just start looking into relationships with the older guys.

[weysally]

I found out years ago that most not all boys my age couldn't hold a conversation, older men seem to listen more

[Jamie05rhs]

That's because men don't converse the same way women do. You have to teach them to open up more. They will become more talkative with the more practice you give them.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I see nothing wrong with an age gap, there once was a girl with a guy who was age 19 and she was age 17 so it happens.,... My last girlfriend was age 18 and I was age 35

[Wise4myage]

Girls do mature faster than boys, just don't date anyone 18 or older.

[DiegoO]

16-18, is not a hell of an age difference

[Wise4myage]

@DiegoO It is legally.

[DiegoO]

Depends where you live. In certain countries it's alouded. I personally think been 18 doesn't make you an adult.

[jahaims]

99% of older guys in your age range use younger girls for sex. Why do you want to date so badly? The odds of you finding someone you want to marry at your age are very slim and that is the whole point of dating.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

There’s nothing wrong with disliking Dasuhateterus. I fucking live with one. We share the same last name. It’s fucking disgusting

[Anonymous]

I really relate to you, my boyfriend is over 10 years older

[Gwenhwyfar]

Not wrong but you gotta be careful. I’ve dated a few years older before. PM me if you wanna talk about this.

[Dchrls78104]

Wait for at least two more years before you start to date, and it won't matter.

[Londi73]

No. But it is best to find guys your age. I was also too "smart" for my age

[bamesjond0069]

Its fine to date older. Also dating doesn't necessarily mean sex. So if you're under the age of consent where you live maybe just wait for sex. Tbh it will work out better and be more fulfilling anyways.

[Fireguy17]

no, it isn't.
I is a proven fact that females mature faster than males.
That is why most younger guys that age look and act like idiots.

[FunkyMonkee]

No, but if they're older than 18, you'll have to wait `til YOU are, too! Unless 16 is legal where you are, in that case, GO GET `EM, TIGER!!

[silvermoon84]

Not wrong but it’s illegal in some states (not all but it depends where you live)

[noohair]

i guess you have to be patient. You will find what you want. All the best young lady.

[Northernlights25]

As long as the guys in question aren't too much older it's alright. And nothing wrong with desiring maturity which generally doesn't come as often with younger people.

[JohnK123]

OMG sameee lol finally someone my age
i am the same I’m too mature for my age and most of the girls Ik my age r immature haha pm if u want not like for whatever but just to talk

[JohnK123]

It’s fine if not haha

[dustybiker]

Something tells me you’re legit and the asker is a troll. Don’t take it personally.

[JohnK123]

@dustybiker something tells me u r right lmaooooo and I wrote that as a joke haha they are probably most definitely trolling

[PapiiMijo]

Go with your heart and how you feel. Don't worry about what anybody else thinks. Before you know it you will be of legal age and what is legal age? Just a number some guy made up sometime who thought he had the right to tell others what to do.

[HighValue]

In that case just wait until you are 18. Don't try going with them before that.

[ctgent]

At your age, the young men tend to be immature and the young women are definitely much more mature. I don't think it is wrong, but natural to want a more mature guy.

[Shy_Steve]

You aren't the first 16yo or the last to like an older Guy so it's not wrong it's just one of those unfortunate that we have to cope with like me being Shy and wanting a Girlfriend.