Have you ever scared away a potential partner by acting too "interested" too soon?

[OlderAndWiser]

Him: "I want to marry you!" Her: "But it's only our first date!"

I am guessing that if you have dated very much, either you have done this to someone or you have had it done to you. And if you were on the receiving end, it probably felt like you were being suffocated.

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Have you ever pushed away a prospective partner by being clingy, too demanding, too possessive. . . too soon?

I've never dated

I have dated but I don't think I have ever scared some away by being too clingy or too desperate too soon

I scared someone away by being too clingy or too desperate too soon. I learned a lesson and didn't repeat that mistake.

I scared someone away by being too clingy or too desperate too soon and ruined more than one relationship that way.

I have scared away everyone I ever dated by being too clingy or too desperate too soon

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I haven’t yet lol. I’m friendly when we start talking, but I’m not clingy or desperate enough to scare them off because I obviously haven’t gotten to know them as much. But when things go well after the first few dates, I get super excited and want to make things exclusive. I hate causal dating and the whole hookup deal so I might seem desperate to many, but I always find the guys with similar goals for relationships.
I did have a couple guys I dated instantly talk about marriage and kids with me, “our kids, our wedding” type of deal… It was just a little too weird for me, they only knew me for less than a month and a few dates.

[lilyanony1]

I think so.
I don't date with the intention to just see how things go.
I'm easy to get along with I think.
And have been told so.
But I'm also honest, of you ask what I'm looking for ill be straight up honest.
I'm currently looking for my husband.
In the past I said I wanted a boyfriend.
I have had those and they didn't work out.

If a guy runs off, I assume it's because he can't see a future for he and I.
That's not a problem for me, it's less stressful than dragging it out.

[Fayeleo]

I did. Not scaring him away so to say but he kinda felt I was ok and happy with his level of giving so he stopped chasing. But what he did not know is that I am just a passionate person with fun attitude but I am no idiot, so down the road I dumped him eventually because of his lack of effort.

[exitseven]

I dated somebody for a few months. I fell really hard for her and I think I scared her away because I told her I loved her after 3 or 4 weeks.

[OlderAndWiser]

Yeah, that would have done it with a lot of girls.

[exitseven]

one night I got caught up in the moment and it just slipped out. She said I was crazy.

[OlderAndWiser]

In my experiences, when things like that happen, inevitably you would not have been right for each other if you had managed to stay together longer.

[exitseven]

You are probably right but it was a long time before I ever said it again.

[Jamie05rhs]

Option E, unfortunately. Which is why I don't even talk to women anymore. If you suck at the game, you have to know when to bench yourself and hang up the cleats.

[OlderAndWiser]

Or take lessons from someone who has more proficiency at the game.

[Jamie05rhs]

@OlderAndWiser Possibly. :). As long as they are ethical. I haven't really found any good examples of anyone I want to follow. All of the men I've ever known that were successful at dating have not been men of God.

[Anonymous]

Yes I have once I think. I asked the guy what his long term goals were and we barely started talking. He completely ghosted me after that.

[OlderAndWiser]

I think that is a reasonable question for a first or second date and does not indicate a girl is clingy or desperate.

[Jamie05rhs]

I think it's reasonable as well.

[Massageman]

I scared away a nice gal by being a bit too demanding in having my own way.

[OlderAndWiser]

Life is a cruel but efficient teacher!

[Massageman]

efficient, just not fast ;- )

[moonpie89]

I've become disinterested from guys in this situation. I don't think it's happened to me because I generally don't show that I'm interested right away but who knows maybe I have and didn't know it.

[Anonymous]

I was getting to know a girl online but we weren't dating. I was asking her to wait till we can meet in real life. We have known each other for 1 year already.
I have sent her buds as a birthday gift. And now she expects me to marry her and to buy her Apple Watches (though we have never met each other in real life) 😂 I like her as a person and as my friend but now I doubt that I will go further

[ReallyYouAgain]

I have never dated but yeah i had a crush on a guy who was interested and shy around me but i scared him off due to being clingy... i am not anymore 😂😂

[Dragonpurple]

Probably but since she never told me, I have no clue if that is why.

[CallmeTheKnight]

It's nice to know that someone is interested in me, but I'm normally turned off by someone trying to move quick or they keep blowing my phone up

[Alyssa_11]

No but I have been scared myself because guys have done this to me.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Never scared any girl away but we had mutual issues

[Anonymous]

Never dated, but I'm guessing if this happens it's because the other person has serious issues with commitment.

[KrisRez]

Not that I can think of. But it's happened to me once or twice.

[Twalli]

Considering I am still with my first girlfriend, I don't think either of us has scared the other away.

[Anonymous]

Maybe 1 but I was young and stupid lol. But I’d run for the hills if someone acted that way towards me o no 🗿

[zagor]

No, I'm slow to warm up to people. Which can make it hard to get a second date.

[boobliker]

I scared them away by being me and asking them what they wanted of me at that point in time

[Anonymous]

Yep and you’ll get pissed if she’s high quality woman. Her job isn’t works as a waitress but damn

[WowwGirl]

No probably the opposite if anything.

[Anonymous]

Doubtful. I move at a glacial pace with women lol

[OlderAndWiser]

Exact opposite problem! Get friend zoned often?

[faye_girl]

Oh I've done this more than a few times LOL oops

[Phoenix98]

Nope can't say I have.

[DevinAM]

Possibly, they tend to unmatch on dating sites when I want to meet in person.

[OlderAndWiser]

Meeting in person should be the goal for anyone on a dating site.

[DevinAM]

I think so and I even suggest a public location for the first time meeting.

[OlderAndWiser]

Then they weren't serious from the beginning and were just wasting your time

[Anonymous]

Nawl it was always the other way around for me lol

[Luopio27]

Your pictures speak a thousand words.

[msc545]

I might have done that once.

[msc545]

I've had women do it to me as well.

[JesseJayNeak]

No, they rejected me as I tried to ask them out

[Lovesims3plumbob]

I don't think so.

[jahaims]

Nope.

[007kingifrit]

maybe. im not sure

[Slim57]

Probably

[Anonymous]

I've never dated