Ladies, would you be curious or shy away from a guy who says they have systems in place to create a long lasting relationship?

[Tdieseler]

So, its not news to some people that I created a different dating system, the Diesel Dating System (DDS). Fun fact, its NO DIFFERENT from the "regular" dating system but It basically prevents or solves when conflicts (which will happen) arise. That's something the "regular" system doesn't have... conflict prevention or resolution.
But why is it that when I tell a female about it, most (MOST!) shrink back? I have a few theories, but I'd like to hear more.
The DDS ain't perfect, I never said it was. But its pretty much the best I've seen to put some kind of order to the chaos that dating is today (single people know what I'm talking about). I've been told its a way for ME to "control" the relationship, smh... wow.

Umm... that's like me waving my fist at the government for putting lines, traffic lights and left turn lanes on our roads and telling them its a way for them to control my driving... i mean, can i break the rules of the road or go off it completely? YES!!! will it be good/safe for me... lol... no.

So then it makes me ask the question, you have tried it the "regular" way, and you end up heartbroken or single, and someone comes up with a different way... but its a bad thing... can i get theories why?
I say its insanity... they are too used to the regular system because its unfair and females basically run it.. my system enforces 50-50 and they don't like that... that's my theory. Responses?

Was going to lock this for ladies only answers... but guys are welcome to put in perspectives. by the way... creating a way to solve relationship conflicts... took a little trial and error. sifting through the gender war and crap.

[MrOracle]

Most people - men and women alike - don't date with intention today. They meet someone, feel attracted to them, and if they get attraction in return, then they become a couple. Rarely do they discuss long-term plans or goals, morals & values, or anything of substance before committing to the relationship - they assume that mutual attraction is all that's needed, and that any problems that come along can be "worked out." Not a surprise that most people's relationships are mostly chaos.

I know nothing about your "system", but it sounds like you're simply putting in some structure and setting boundaries and expectations and going the kind of work that's necessary to ensure a relationship will work. That only makes sense, and it's what I've done for a long time.

[Tdieseler]

and that is kind of what it is. I focused more on something people dont seem to gear up for. When there is a disagreement/conflict. All the other stuff happens, boundaries and expectations etc. but what do people do when they dont agree on the same stuff? they butt heads and say "it wasn't meant to be" or some other dumb phrase and split.
my system either stops or solves that.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. I'd like to hear more abut your method for resolving the inevitable conflicts in relationships. Sounds like a good topic for a MyTake.

2. Most younger people - I think - date to find a partner for a long term relationship but many of them are unwilling to be honest with themselves about their intentions. Your announcement forces them to accept, from the beginning, that their encounter with you is designed to lead to a permanent relationship if you establish compatibility. To some others, it may seem cold and calculating (I think it is calculated, which is not a bad thing, but certainly not cold.)

[Tdieseler]

its calculated alright and im upfront about it that it ain't perfect. i haven't thought of everything. but i have thought about most.

[Melb2003]

You sound like a twat. A relationship isn't a business transaction. No wonder you're still single. Freaking clown.

[Tdieseler]

and ur an idiot... go get divorced and cheated on.

[WowwGirl]

It's a great system

[Tdieseler]

hush, thats because you were there during the creation... lol

[WowwGirl]

Made sense to me

[WowwGirl]

DDS 😂

[Tdieseler]

doesn't look like i will be getting much answers from here... i should make it Featured