How do I ask this guy I want his baby?

[Anonymous]

I want a plantonic co parent relationship with this guy , I want to pass on his family genes. I know this may sound crazy but that’s what I want and I don’t know how to approach him with this without creeping him out or make him feel some type of way. I think it’s an honor to have his off springs lol

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I want his sperm

[JasM0]

Why specifically this man and not someone from a donor center? If it requires sex and the commitment of financial support, I think that any man would be suspicious. What you communicated is a very evolutionary statement and responsible guys understand the implications of this offer. I will likely be viewed as she wants the commitment of a child, benefits and security of coparenting without the tethers of an actual relationship.

Bottom line, what’s the value proposition to a life-long coparenting situation?

[Anonymous]

It's one of those things that just is going to be what it is. Like there's no specific way to make it go any way, it depends on what he thinks of it in general, and of you. If it's creepy to him, it's going to be creepy no matter what. And if he's willing to even consider such a situation, then it won't be creepy. So you just have to directly tell him what you'd like and let the chips fall where they may. I don't know if any guy would agree to that situation though (although some married couples are basically this lol).

What makes you want this? Like what about him makes him "special"? It's not feelings otherwise you'd want a relationship also, but you want it platonic, so what about him makes you want him to be the father?

[dustybiker]

Unless you have some form of deep history and respectful and trusted relationship where he understnds your standing.. I really don’t see how you could ask this and have it go the way you want it to.

[laurieluvsit]

Get into a committed relationship with him and then he will want the same thing you do.

[Berethor]

So you want his baby but you don't want a relationship with him?

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ChosenConceptionPartner

[abc3643]

Don't be an idiot.
No good will come from this.

Besides, he will pass on his genes with whoever his wife is or will be. He doesn't need you for that.

[abc3643]

1. It will creep him out. I know. My exGF solicited me for that same reason. I said "No".
2. If you just want his sperm, then have sex or, better, give him a handjob or blowjob.

[Slartybartfast]

My best friends a lesbian , she asked me to "donate" so her wife could conceive. I was quite flattered. It's a big compliment even if he says no he will be ok with you asking IMHO.

[AncientWisdom]

Yeah this is strange. That’s why they have Soren banks. It’s not cool I wouldn’t give a woman a child I am not raising.

[exitseven]

this is a bad idea. Who will raise the kid? Kids are not property.

[awkward_author]

Are you friends with him?

[more_than_a_guy]

How close are you and how do you know him?

[fireforeffect]

Sounds good to me. Tell him the truth.

[devoygf]

tell the truth, she sounds creepy

[fireforeffect]

@devoygf no, not at all.

[devoygf]

yes she is

[Jmmmfi4]

Offer to suck it out of him

[Anonymous]

Offer him a lot of money for his sperm.

[Wise4myage]

You don't.

[devoygf]

your a creeeep