Why don’t any girls seem to want to date me? I’m a good looking, kind hearted guy and I’m going for similarly good looking women?

[Intothevoid666]

I couldn’t tell you how many women I’ve asked out in the past 6 months and I’ve hardly gotten a single date. What am I doing wrong? Why is this so hard. It feels like most women just want my attention. It’s like girls are only interested when I’m not interested? How can I keep girls interested without pretending to not be interested?

[Anonymous]

That's because most women do just want your attention. Women treat guys like a free appetizer bar. They just want to sample till they find what they really like. And most the time when they find it it's just something they created in their heads. Why do you think so many women are unhappy. They think they know what they want. But in reality they have no clue lol.
Just go out have fun and be fun. Trust me she'll find you. I'm one ugly motorcycle. But I get approached by a woman at least every other time I go out. I still don't know what attracts them specifically. And I'm quite sure they don't either. But I used to be like you till one day I decided f*** it! I don't care anymore! I'm just going to go out and enjoy myself. Then they started coming to me.

[Intothevoid666]

Am I supposed to be expected to date women tho knowing that almost all of them do this? How can I date someone who only gives me attention when I ignore them?

[Opinion Owner]

That's the 64k dollar question my man. Most women are going to toy with your emotions some do it unintentionally some do it deliberately. The most successful guys are going to be the guys that are unaffected by it. This is why the sleepy guys are also some of the most successful guys. The have no skin in the game. They're just trying to get laid.
You're supposed to be able to discern which woman is playing with you and which one is showing genuine interest. There it is. That's the whole game man. It's something most guys learn through trial and error. Some guys become distrusting along the way though. This is why I say you need to learn to just have fun. Don't take women serious until there is a reason to. And even then it's best remain emotionally detached. Because a woman that knows she has you emotionally knows she can manipulate you.

[Opinion Owner]

Sleezy* lol not sleepy.

[Hellraiser1984]

Humor. Work on humor. I'm 6'0 350 good looking never think girls would ever like me. My dry sense of humor has attracted quite a few attractive women. Hell my first semester in college my mythology professor a good 20 years older than me liked my humor and we went out and banged like crazy. She was cute. I was 22 she was 52. I lost it to her. All of it. She wanted to go all out. Another classmate the next semester same thing she was very hot. Find your humor. When you do they will come and so will you.

[awkward_author]

Maybe they don't like the way you present yourself?

[Intothevoid666]

What do u mean exactly? How I look? I’m not sure how I’m presenting myself in a negative way?

[awkward_author]

If you're, relatively, attractive it's probably your energy and/or personality.

[Intothevoid666]

Ya think maybe it’s that I give off a fuck boy vibe? Cuz like this girl I asked out today. Like I saw her 2 weeks ago with some guy who is dramatically less attractive than both of us, but she won’t even hang out with me? Cuz the first time I messaged her she responded the next second but its like she lost all interest after seeing my Snapchat story that day of me going to a club. Ya think is that maybe? How do I not come off as a fuck boy? Cuz ngl I am trying to fuck a lot of these women lol.

[awkward_author]

If all you want is sex, you're going to come off that way whether you intend to or not. Just look for a woman who only wants sex.

[Intothevoid666]

But I can’t seem to find women who only want sex either, they all only want a relationship it seems like with very few exceptions. Unless I dramatically lower my standards on looks I can’t seem to find women who just want to fuck and like even when I go for super slutty women they still only want a relationship.

[awkward_author]

That sucks. Try hookup apps maybe?

[Intothevoid666]

Also what guy doesn’t want to fuck am I just out of touch or don’t like all guys kinda just wanna smash?

[awkward_author]

I'm taking a break because I'm super busy with school. I have a tendency to hook up quite frequently, though, but I don't have this kind of problem.

[Intothevoid666]

Like u go to a bar or club and find a girl who wants to fuck u that night on the regular and u don’t have to compromise dramatically on looks? If I tried really hard that wouldn’t happen more than once every couple weeks and you have to have really good social skills it seems like. Maybe I’m just bad at it I don't know. I tend to think I’m at least ok with people but I don't know.

[awkward_author]

I use hook up apps.

[Intothevoid666]

I’ve been on tinder for like 4 years and never gotten a single date or hookup from it. And I def have to be one of the better looking guys on the app. How do u do that idgi? Every girl I ever match with the conversation just fades and never goes anywhere

[awkward_author]

I don’t know. I’m just lucky, I guess.

[Intothevoid666]

Do you live in a really big city or something?

[awkward_author]

I do not.

[Intothevoid666]

What openers do u usually use on there?

[awkward_author]

I either ask how they’re doing or something involving their profile.

[MountAverage]

Well, what exactly do you expect us to tell you now?

[Heartache0405]

Why are you worried about it?

[Intothevoid666]

Because I want a relationship?

[Heartache0405]

Why?