My date got emotional on the 2nd date, but he told me he doesn't want a relationship, red flag?

[Anonymous]

I meet him online, knew him for 4 days. 1st date was super fun. 2nd date he was really angry at me because he had personal shit happening on the day. Told me he didn't want a serious relationship but then was crying the whole time...

I'm so confused. Is it OK for me to be angry...

[Anonymous]

Red flag for me. If you don't want a relationship then what are you dating for? Seems like he wants all the benefits of being with someone but doesn't want to really be with them. Are you dating for a relationship or just for fun?

[Asker]

Because was early days, we went casual. We spoke about it before. But the whole time on the 2nd date, everything was about him. I wanted to go out to eat he didn't. He wanted to just go back to his place, then the sex was terrible, he couldn't even put his dock in me my muscles were so tense because I just felt so upset. It was terrible. I get he was having a bad day but he should have told me and I wouldn't have gone...

Then after I just unleashed at him on text because I was so emotional mess. It was just a mess

[Asker]

I just wanted to have fun and get to know someone new and thats the side he showed me, on the 2nd date. Even if casual showing that side is just strange in my opinion... it's early days

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah it is strange. I can relate to this. I had a guy ask me out and yet he made everything about him. I'm glad I saw that side of him before we went out on dates. Things ended there for me. Are you going to continue to see him?

[TheBootyChest]

Yes its okay to be mad. It's not fair for him to be mad at you because of his own shit that day.

[Asker]

He was just really aggressive towards me, then when we were hooking up he was just laying there, not interested. I felt worthless. Like my time was wasted. I feel terrible because I told him I just wanted to have fun and it all felt like a serious relationship and that's not what I want right now I just wanted to have fun with someone, is that rude of me to tell him that?

[TheBootyChest]

To be fair, I can say that it's not rude from your side of things. But also that the guy would think it's rude of you, because he doesn't want a girl to say something like that to him.

I can't imagine what it's like for a woman to be with a man who doesn't really do anything during sex. I know men feel that way a lot but this is different.

It's nice to know that you are "active" during sex. I haven't really been with a woman like that.

[Asker]

To be fair, I didn't tell him the sex was terrible. I told him that I could tell he was holding back and that's ok I get it. I just thought the day would have been more fun than feeling like we were in a serious relationship and him treating me like a punching bag.

He was telling me things like, what are you wearing? And I could have sucked my own dick even though he cum in 2 mins when I did it. Ugh. I'm so angry haha

[Asker]

He also told me he wasn't looking for a serious relationship either, again, early days...

[TheBootyChest]

You should be angry. Don't hold that back because you are talking to me. Let it out.

And it's not your fault that he was ruining the chance at a fun day.

[Desconhecida]

RUN!!!

[Asker]

Haha so it is weird right? Where I'm upset is I really like the guy. It was fun until this shit show happened.

Then when I was going at him over text he could have give me a proper reply. All I got was 'I don't know know what to say to this' and then I asked him if we should call it quits and he said 'it's completely up to you'. Like why would I want to go back to that?

[Desconhecida]

He practically told you he's not interested or invested in your relationship anymore. He is just a coward.

[Asker]

Yeah, by telling me he didn't want a serious relationship, then treating me like a punching bag all day, then him crying on his bed and I had to hug him to make him feel better. Then he continued being rude ro me as I was leaving making fun of my bag. I felt like shit... you think he doesn't date a lot?

[Desconhecida]

I think he is a mess. Seriously. He might look like Brad fuckin Pitt but if he uses you, have meltdowns, and make you feel like shit after only 2 dates, don't stay to find out what he could do after 4 dates.

[noohair]

So you seem to have no empathy for his pain?