I hatttttteeeee dating apps. That being said they do offer something very valuable. Thats meeting girls outside of your social circle. I am 35 and work sometimes at home and sometimes with business owners which are predominantly men aged 50 and up in my industry. Sometimes i meet girls who are secretaries and stuff like that but they are like 30 and work a professional job. Exactly the kind of woman i do not want to date. I also dont like to date girls who go to bars. So meeting women im interested in IRL is very limited.
I've met girls through church but these days young people ie 30 and under attendance is quite low so thats not really a way to meet very many dates. So whats left? Online dating. I can specifically meet younger women who are looking to be homemakers. At the end of the day the women are far more in the ballpark of what i want than other things I've tried and so thats why i always liked online dating.
I live in South Asia. If I was in the states or Europe or Latin America I would’ve approach girls! I have no choice here.
I hate dating apps with all my gut!! Girls fat / disgusting / overweight / anorexic do nothing lazy chicks all are wishing for a 25 year old brad pitt and give men a hard time for conversations.
In South Asia they care about not losing face. So when I go to a girl and I tell her in her their locks language if they speak English. They stare at me and blink!
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One reason above all others. Women can't lie about why they're on a dating app. Sure some will try by putting on their bio something like "just seeing what's out there". Because women never want to admit that they're actively looking for a date ( not even to themselves). They think it makes them look desperate. I won't even respond to women that say this on their profile if they message me because that is red flag number 1 that they're a game player. I won't respond that speak negatively of the online dating experience either. I don't care what you went through that doesn't give you the right paint all men with the same brush.
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First thing to note is that apps suck for guy, they're at even more of a disadvantage than in person.
After considering that, apps still often take preference, because the way to deal with the bullshit online is to not try and not get invested. That's easier to do online. Overall online is just easier and you don't have to deal with a lot of the in-person bullshit. Women's experience of in-person is doing nothing and receiving attention without effort. It's easy and fun for them. When you're expected to do all the work and take all the risks, it's not fun. I'd rather go online with low expectations or do neither.
Probably because lots of women play too many games in person. Online would be relatively simple by comparison. What's an example of playing games? Pretending to be into a guy but at some point claiming that he's harassing you (even if not using those exact words) even tho all he did was politely converse with you and ask you out.
I'm not a fan of online dating but apparently it works for a lot of people... to the degree they want it to.
I would ask the same thing about girls. Because to be honest I see girls be on dating apps more than men and freely talk about it and mention it as well. I don’t really hear that a man would or should have dating apps, it must be something pathetic to them
Well let’s put it this way. When I was dating I used apps because I worked a lot. When I wasn’t working I was spending time on myself and with my family. Compared to that… who are you? Your just a random woman. I don’t chase things that don’t interest me and most women these days are flat, boring, dumb…
I’ve been insulted, threatened, and harassed on dating apps. By numerous of guys, some which surprised me. Like fathers and military guys. The worst ones were the party/college guys. I didn’t even do anything to instigate a to be treated like this.
That I became more guarded and set boundaries on my dating profile. Then guys would become annoyed and see me as a bad person. So I give up 🤷🏻♀️
Because meeting a girl in person, is confrontational, and if unused to confrontation, a guy would rather take a safer route, like a dating app. I can't say as to the motivations of women, but I recognize that women are usually, very good shoppers, and seeing what you get and assessing it's worth are high shopper tendencies.
Because if a guy is handsome and good looking, he absolutely does get tons of numbers in real life. But, for an average type of guy or below, that is not a safe option, since he might be called a creep, loser or a freak or worse. Girl might get a wrong idea or get scared of a not so good looking guy and she would think or believe he wants to hurt her, happens WAAAAAY to many times. So app is the safest option for them.
Honestly I feel for guys. I have seen girls be outright mean to guys when they approach them in person. Esp this one girl I knew in college…. Ooof it was painful to watch.
Because it's a safer and easier approach? Less intimidating? (Or they can lie on apps about themselves?) Maybe they've had some not so great experiences in the past with girls? Some girls can be quite rude if a guy approaches them in public or if they're in a larger group of girls.
WHERE would I meet women in person? I've gotten a bit long in the tooth to be hanging around college campuses for that purpose, besides which most are still online only anyway. Bars and clubs tend to be sausage fests. I used to do things like camping trips and ski trips with groups, but Covid has put a damper on that. Other than harassing strangers in grocery stores, that pretty much leaves online.
These days most guys are worried about being accused of harassment just for showing interest. Cause those accusations are getting handed out like candy.
Or, most likely, they work so much that they simply don't have time to go out and meet people.
Thats my issue at the moment but I gave up on dating apps cause they're all filled with catfishes and fake/scam accounts. Every single one of them.
Meeting in live doesn't give time to think vs messaging gives time to think. Less pressure, why people prefer buying things online instead travel 10km to shop? Why u ask this question online vs in real life on street?
Because phones exist and anyone can be who they want to be behind a screen. If they are shy then through a screen u can't see him/her and flirt as much as they want with confidence. I believe. But there's nothing better than going out and getting to knw people meeting new faces in person.
I have an off topic question. Is there porn on dating sites? This guy I was in a relationship with was hooked up on several dating sites. But he told me it was to look at the porn on them. I'd like to know if that could be true.
@Pohjolan thank you for answering my question. He made it sound like almost all dating sites had porn. I kei wondering why he just didn't go on porn sites? I think dating sites are where you are looking for a relationship and to meet women. I think that is what he was doing behind my back. Although I just read that dating sites are the new porn. 🤷🏼♀️
It could be seen as porn though because at least some younger women load up bikinis pics or pics that show rather more skin. That way one could argue it's porn because a bikini shows off more than it covers. The other issue is that online the obstacles for guys to talk about sex is way smaller than offline. Therefore online dating is way more focused on sex than in some points comparable to porn.
Dating apps are a scam. I have never met anyone from one. I have spoken with many. A lot claim to be a cam girl and claim they will meet you "IF" YOU BUY THEIR PREMIUM PACKAGE. Others have tole me they will come to me, but I have to send them gas money over the internet----another scam. It is always about sending them money before ever meeting them. Never do that as it is just a scam.
Girls are complicated, that's why they use apps to have several girls available simultaneously, so if one rejects the guy, they can always have other available to rest in. For guys getting girl is challenging nowadays because you simps. SIMPS have made all the girls delusional about their attractiveness.
Because most guys are lazy and can't think beyond pussy or boobs. Like what? Women are human beings with feelings, goals, and aspirations? Nah, thats too difficult to consider if you have a one track mind focused on sex...
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I hatttttteeeee dating apps. That being said they do offer something very valuable. Thats meeting girls outside of your social circle. I am 35 and work sometimes at home and sometimes with business owners which are predominantly men aged 50 and up in my industry. Sometimes i meet girls who are secretaries and stuff like that but they are like 30 and work a professional job. Exactly the kind of woman i do not want to date. I also dont like to date girls who go to bars. So meeting women im interested in IRL is very limited.
I've met girls through church but these days young people ie 30 and under attendance is quite low so thats not really a way to meet very many dates. So whats left? Online dating. I can specifically meet younger women who are looking to be homemakers. At the end of the day the women are far more in the ballpark of what i want than other things I've tried and so thats why i always liked online dating.
I live in South Asia. If I was in the states or Europe or Latin America I would’ve approach girls!
I have no choice here.
I hate dating apps with all my gut!!
Girls fat / disgusting / overweight / anorexic do nothing lazy chicks all are wishing for a 25 year old brad pitt and give men a hard time for conversations.
In South Asia they care about not losing face. So when I go to a girl and I tell her in her their locks language if they speak English. They stare at me and blink!
One reason above all others. Women can't lie about why they're on a dating app. Sure some will try by putting on their bio something like "just seeing what's out there". Because women never want to admit that they're actively looking for a date ( not even to themselves). They think it makes them look desperate.
I won't even respond to women that say this on their profile if they message me because that is red flag number 1 that they're a game player. I won't respond that speak negatively of the online dating experience either. I don't care what you went through that doesn't give you the right paint all men with the same brush.
First thing to note is that apps suck for guy, they're at even more of a disadvantage than in person.
After considering that, apps still often take preference, because the way to deal with the bullshit online is to not try and not get invested. That's easier to do online. Overall online is just easier and you don't have to deal with a lot of the in-person bullshit. Women's experience of in-person is doing nothing and receiving attention without effort. It's easy and fun for them. When you're expected to do all the work and take all the risks, it's not fun. I'd rather go online with low expectations or do neither.
Probably because lots of women play too many games in person. Online would be relatively simple by comparison. What's an example of playing games? Pretending to be into a guy but at some point claiming that he's harassing you (even if not using those exact words) even tho all he did was politely converse with you and ask you out.
I'm not a fan of online dating but apparently it works for a lot of people... to the degree they want it to.
I would ask the same thing about girls. Because to be honest I see girls be on dating apps more than men and freely talk about it and mention it as well.
I don’t really hear that a man would or should have dating apps, it must be something pathetic to them
It's probably different for your culture.
Well let’s put it this way. When I was dating I used apps because I worked a lot. When I wasn’t working I was spending time on myself and with my family. Compared to that… who are you? Your just a random woman. I don’t chase things that don’t interest me and most women these days are flat, boring, dumb…
I’ve been insulted, threatened, and harassed on dating apps. By numerous of guys, some which surprised me. Like fathers and military guys. The worst ones were the party/college guys. I didn’t even do anything to instigate a to be treated like this.
That I became more guarded and set boundaries on my dating profile. Then guys would become annoyed and see me as a bad person. So I give up 🤷🏻♀️
Because meeting a girl in person, is confrontational, and if unused to confrontation, a guy would rather take a safer route, like a dating app.
I can't say as to the motivations of women, but I recognize that women are usually, very good shoppers, and seeing what you get and assessing it's worth are high shopper tendencies.
Because if a guy is handsome and good looking, he absolutely does get tons of numbers in real life. But, for an average type of guy or below, that is not a safe option, since he might be called a creep, loser or a freak or worse. Girl might get a wrong idea or get scared of a not so good looking guy and she would think or believe he wants to hurt her, happens WAAAAAY to many times. So app is the safest option for them.
Honestly I feel for guys. I have seen girls be outright mean to guys when they approach them in person. Esp this one girl I knew in college…. Ooof it was painful to watch.
you get it
Because it's a safer and easier approach? Less intimidating? (Or they can lie on apps about themselves?) Maybe they've had some not so great experiences in the past with girls? Some girls can be quite rude if a guy approaches them in public or if they're in a larger group of girls.
WHERE would I meet women in person? I've gotten a bit long in the tooth to be hanging around college campuses for that purpose, besides which most are still online only anyway. Bars and clubs tend to be sausage fests. I used to do things like camping trips and ski trips with groups, but Covid has put a damper on that. Other than harassing strangers in grocery stores, that pretty much leaves online.
These days most guys are worried about being accused of harassment just for showing interest. Cause those accusations are getting handed out like candy.
Or, most likely, they work so much that they simply don't have time to go out and meet people.
Thats my issue at the moment but I gave up on dating apps cause they're all filled with catfishes and fake/scam accounts. Every single one of them.
Meeting in live doesn't give time to think vs messaging gives time to think. Less pressure, why people prefer buying things online instead travel 10km to shop?
Why u ask this question online vs in real life on street?
Because phones exist and anyone can be who they want to be behind a screen. If they are shy then through a screen u can't see him/her and flirt as much as they want with confidence. I believe. But there's nothing better than going out and getting to knw people meeting new faces in person.
You mean there's nothing worse. Lol
I have an off topic question. Is there porn on dating sites? This guy I was in a relationship with was hooked up on several dating sites. But he told me it was to look at the porn on them. I'd like to know if that could be true.
There is on some like fetlife.
@Pohjolan thank you for answering my question. He made it sound like almost all dating sites had porn. I kei wondering why he just didn't go on porn sites? I think dating sites are where you are looking for a relationship and to meet women. I think that is what he was doing behind my back. Although I just read that dating sites are the new porn. 🤷🏼♀️
It could be seen as porn though because at least some younger women load up bikinis pics or pics that show rather more skin.
That way one could argue it's porn because a bikini shows off more than it covers.
The other issue is that online the obstacles for guys to talk about sex is way smaller than offline. Therefore online dating is way more focused on sex than in some points comparable to porn.
@Pohjolan
Fetlife is not a dating site.
@MysteriousDarkness
Its as much a dating site as Tinder is.
@Pohjolan Tinder was a dating app that turned into mostly for hookups where as fetlife never was meant to be a dating site/app.
Dating apps are a scam. I have never met anyone from one. I have spoken with many. A lot claim to be a cam girl and claim they will meet you "IF" YOU BUY THEIR PREMIUM PACKAGE. Others have tole me they will come to me, but I have to send them gas money over the internet----another scam. It is always about sending them money before ever meeting them. Never do that as it is just a scam.
Girls are complicated, that's why they use apps to have several girls available simultaneously, so if one rejects the guy, they can always have other available to rest in. For guys getting girl is challenging nowadays because you simps. SIMPS have made all the girls delusional about their attractiveness.
Because most guys are lazy and can't think beyond pussy or boobs. Like what? Women are human beings with feelings, goals, and aspirations? Nah, thats too difficult to consider if you have a one track mind focused on sex...