They say we should not date because of looks because beauty fades. Really?

[chulo1992]

So what I wanna know is WHY do we ALWAYS see movie stars and sports stars with the most gorgeous women? I want someone to tell them to date women that are unattractive because beauty fades. So why do those stars only be with gorgeous women and not unattractive women?

[RationalMale]

Dating only based on physical attraction is moronic.

Dating someone you're not physically attracted to is a recipe for the hotter partner falling in love and getting their coworker pregnant/getting pregnant by their coworker.

Loyalty and kindred spirit and such is definitely important. But dating and marriage is romantic, and sexual attraction is needed for that to last. So yes, you need personalities that get along good, and trust and honesty and loyalty for the platonic side of a relationship to last. And if you want loyalty and attraction, you need sexual attraction going both ways or a few years down the road one partner is going to be smitten for someone at the gym while the other partner is frustrated that they want sex a lot and their partner never does.

[chulo1992]

YES INDEED!!! You speak the solid truth 💯%

[crimsonandclover2]

I feel that celebrities aren't good examples, since they have higher divorce rates than regular people because they tend to get married for all the wrong reasons: money, publicity, looks. Also, lots of them have mental health, alcohol and drug addiction issues.

I think the question's title, should be rephrased into "you should not date someone just/only because of their looks." No one says you should date someone you aren't attracted to, but if you don't have anything in common or no emotional connection at all, that relationship is doomed to fail. A horrible personality can make a good-looking person seem less attractive. Similarly, someone slightly attractive with a great personality becomes more attractive than they are.
In my opinion, it is equal, both looks and personality are somewhat important

Attraction without personality is hook up/ friend with benefits. Personality without attraction is friendship

[crimsonandclover2]

Typo
Both looks and personality are equally important

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

You can be with someone with whatever reason that makes you happy. Everyone love different lives and have different view of happiness. Love is different to everybody but what stands the same is that everyone loves someone for a reason. Just because it doesn't work for them doesn't mean it will not work for you.

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

Live different lives***

[chulo1992]

GREAT ANSWER!!! I agree with you 💯 %

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

Thank you!

[DaveJord]

Well I guess if beauty fades for attractive people, the beauty fades for unattractive people evenly on average if not more so. So unattractive now even more so later, attractive now and more likely to be even more attractive later. But rich guys can always find a younger piece of arm candy if they that is what they want.

[chulo1992]

And that's why most people are saying it's about "the money". Just don't ask those women, they will swear that it has nothing to do with it.

[DaveJord]

I agree but the that why they say looks are more important to men, where as women looks do not matter as much. I mean traditionally women always put more consideration in man with less in looks if he was a better provider. And ugly guys, usually are suckers for attractive women, especially one that they other wise would have no chance with. So the whole personality thing matters most when are talking about equally attractive people... but also serves to make ugly people feel better about themselves and for gold diggers to feel better morally about their choices.

[Anonymous]

I fall for a girls personality too not just looks

she could be drop dead gorgeous phiscaly
but if she's a shitty person. As a human being.
I won't be attracted to her

id take a 6 i get along with and like

over a 10 thats gunna be nothing but problems

[chulo1992]

I agree!!! I don't mind a 6 either but she has to be just teeny bit sexy in some way. And YES I personally know some really gorgeous women with, as you said, shitty personalities

[sheikalana]

I believe we should not take that statement that deep. I personally could never date someone I'm not attracted to. First impressions matter and if he has a great personality than that's a bonus.

[Vegasrunner]

Perhaps the fact that these people are rich and famous adds to your view of their "personality"?

[sheikalana]

@Vegasrunner my husband is not rich nor famous LOL.

[chulo1992]

Perfectly said!!! I agree 💯%

[Vegasrunner]

That's probably why he's stuck w/ only one chick.

[PrettyPriya]

Sometimes it is because they are attractive themselves and attract good looking women. Sometimes it is about the money.

[chulo1992]

YES INDEED!!! And it's funny because if you ask those same women what's more important money or love... they all will say LOVE.

[PrettyPriya]

They likely are fooling themselves or don't want to look like they are grubbing for money. Eh, I would never date a celebrity. Give me a good old fashioned gentleman that treats me well.

[chulo1992]

I feel you on that. No gold digging coming from you. That's awesome!!! 👍

[hahahmm]

Only fugly women say that. Smart men say we should pick a woman based on her character & if she's too lazy to stay fit that's a character issue.

[chulo1992]

I agree. But in retrospect, there have been many couples that wouldn't get along too much and fight all the time. And I would wonder why. But I could see that the woman would be drop dead gorgeous and the guy sticks around and deals with the drama and stress because of that.

[hahahmm]

Well some guys are simps so they will take any level of abuse. A non simp will dump a woman if she goes over a certain level of drama & trouble. Look at Johnny Depp: simp who let a woman beat on him for years. I like the guy... just saying. He messed up big time & should have dumped her on day 1 of her bs. There's a lot of simps in the world. The problem for the hot women is that the number of simps who actually have what she wants is limited. And the richer the guy, the harder it would be to find one who doesn't already have a beautiful but problematic woman. Now there are also lots of "drop dead gorgeous" women who can never keep a man. They won't settle for a simp and all the other guys know not to take her seriously.

[chulo1992]

Yes sir. I will drop a woman like a hot pan out the oven with no mitts. She disrespect ME... I'M GONE!!!

[IMuser]

Beauty sells (even flowers are made attractive so that honey bees are attracted to them) and so that's why, you see beautiful women and handsome men in movies

However, what looks good isn't necessarily good. That's why, for relationships, looks are one of the many factors

Makes sense?

[bamesjond0069]

Beauty doesn't really fade. Not all older people are ugly. Christy brinkley ain't bad for an old lady. I've seen some real trolls who are even younger than her. Just saying.

[chulo1992]

I'm glad someone thinks the same way I do!!! 👍

[Hangry06]

No one listens to that BS. Looks and sex are a vital part of relationships

[chulo1992]

THANK YOU!!! I guess those people are trying to fool themselves because they're not fooling US 🤣

[Shy_Steve]

The problem is feelings can fade aswell so that statement is irrelevant.
We are all going to start dating someone who we find attractive at that time.

[chulo1992]

I was just going by what some people were saying we should do, I had to add what I see in the media. They say we shouldn't date for looks but the majority of them have trophy girlfriends and wives. I never found myself saying OMG she's hideous about their women. I'm just observing the facts.

[Dinklex3]

I think they're saying to not ONLY be with someone based on their looks since they fade.
People's personality can warp and change over time as well.

[Vegasrunner]

Time to grow up. Movie stars and sports stars are rich and famous men, meaning they can just keep replacing women as they age out. All you need to do is become relatively successful and you can do the same things.

[coconut94]

What a shallow life…

[HighValue]

If men didn't consider looks when choosing a woman, then women would lose about a third to half of their appeal. Women bring MUCH les to a relationship than men do, and looks is one of the few things they do bring.

[Phoenix98]

yes looks do matter you have to be physically attracted to someone.

but with that being said the way i see it is looks get their foot in the door but a good personality keeps em in the room. If you get what I mean.

[andreasderjuengere]

Meat counter: there's nice meat, and there's not so nice meat. Which do you choose?

If you start with 150%, then you are left with 100% after wear-and-tear :D
Begin at 90% - and only 40% are the end result.

[slatyb]

Beauty doesn’t always fade. There are many attractive people on their 50’s and 60’s.

[TheBigGuy9]

I would not use these people as comparisons for anything. Most are sluts. The divorce rate is 70%. You’re talking about a very very small percentage of the population.

[anylolone]

Hollywood actors and actresses aren't exactly of the stable kind.

[Citizenkirk]

Because of a professional makeup department on set.

[dustybiker]

Money can buy almost anything.

[chulo1992]

YEP that is what I have always said. But then my women friends say NO IT DOESN'T!! But we know better.

[fireforeffect]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and Beauty never fades in those love filled eyes.

[GioviMB_91]

100% true. Always fall in love with somebody's mind.

[coconut94]

Keanu reeves is with an older woman

[Anonymous]

One word... MONEY!

[chulo1992]

EXACTLY!!! But MANY women don't wanna hear that. Wait a minute... don't they say that the TRUTH hurts? Hmmm

[ShatteringRedGalore]

Date for what interests you!

[In_Trance]

you lied about your age

[Anonymous]

You can always get a newer model with less miles.