Is meeting the right girl possible if I dont have any public online presence or don't want to date a girl who uses social media?

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I have never put out a post with my face or name behind it besides linked in. Pretty simple question but i don't get society anymore for the most part. People approaching 30 like myself seem to have embraced putting themselves out there on social media and I can't do it. At times I Feel like I was born 30 years later then my ideal mindset.

Siren777 · Accepted Answer

First of all it's okay to like what you like. Whether it is social media or not. I usually mind my own business and am not too worried with people's opinions. So you have a preference that's fine too. It's allowed. You don't need validation from others to like what you do. People don't necessarily care about others or their preferences unless they want to date. Yes there are women who don't really use social media or that often or men. Personally I use social media due to work, business & being in the public eye due to business. It's so much easier to go anonymous here and not having people knowing too much about you. I have social media for other reasons too like hiring people and looking if they're a good fit for the business I do. Not all women want attention and I don't find it wrong like I said they like what they like and they're allowed to have preference and enjoy their lives.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It’s not impossible, just a bit hard. I could see the girl not minding your aversion to social media, but you may have to consider compromising if she does end up being the type to keep hers. Some people just prefer being connected with family and friends, keeping up with the times in real time, etc. If that’s a complete dealbreaker for you, then I think you just need to accept and coexist with that fact.

chulo1992 · Accepted Answer

I'm also wondering if finding the right girl is possible as I have been single for ten long years.. Also I understand about the not wanting a girl that does not use social media. I would LOVE to date a woman that does not use SM, because you never know who she's talking to and it can be right under your nose and you will never know.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I am not suggesting that you should have a settled purpose to make yourself be like everyone else in some mindless fashion, but if you are going to eschew all social conventions, then you must accept that you are dooming yourself to a lonely existence.

CarolineW · Answer

Yes, of course. I don't blame you for avoiding social media or dating sites. I know a few guys who have met some real bunny boilers and psychos going down that route, not to mention the 40 year old shop assistants who claim they're 28 year old lawyers (nothing wrong with being a shop assistant, but you know what I mean). You have to be yourself, and be patient. If you hang out with a group of male and female friends, or work in a mixed environment, someone usually turns up. Don't panic, my friend.

Anonymous · Answer

There's no such thing called THE RIGHT GIRL. 99% of the females are the same as you know they get to be stupid. But if you're a masculine guy and control the relationship she'll be subconsciously trained to be like you want. And that happens with your behavior. For example girls argue a lot and all are pointless argument. You ignore her she learns when i talk good I get attention, and i talk stupid i don't get attention. That's how she learns the hard way.
Now let's talk about the online presence. I've been in a far Village where you'd rarely get to see modernized stuffs. Met a girl, at night when she texted on Instagram i was shocked. Cüz she had 6k plus followers. So you can't really expect a girl in these days without social media presence. And to be noted not all girl with social media are negative. You just gotta keep looking for your type

Medicalbug · Answer

I dated a guy who doesn’t use social media and I never mentioned him or posted photos of him online. I’m not the type to share much aside from travel photos anyway, so if I’m in the picture it usually has a nice backdrop. I don’t mind keeping personal shit private, if that’s what someone wants.

sage2021 · Answer

Gee, I wonder how people met each other before social media came along? I mean since the beginning of time people found love and got married and had children.
I think there is not a real "She's the one girl!" Could be an old wives tale.
I like meeting people the natural way, not from a machine.

stark04 · Answer

Why do you think having online presence help you find the right girl? It's been 4-5 years since I've stopped using social media and life's been better. 😀
Go out and meet someone awesome.

I heard somewhere, "Twitter is stupid and Instagram is Twitter for people who can't read".

Alyssa_11 · Answer

I think social media increases the chances of that happening but having said that it’s a terrible place to look for a partner. People on social media are likely to use more superficial factors when dating, and have access to a lot of potential partners at the same time. This is just my experience. It’s never worked in my favour. The only time it has is when I met the person in real life.

jshm2 · Answer

What the hell you expecting then? A girl to fall from the sky, into your arms?  Get your shit together, kid. More people are online, than offline. Hence the dating "game" is more online than offline.

spartan55 · Answer

There is nothing with your approach to social media. Unfortunately it is status quo for younger people to use social media extensively, and they rarely consider the negative/dangerous side.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yes it's possible but you need to be socially active as much as possible. By that I mean, attend any activity where you can meet women who have similar interests to you.

zagor · Answer

First question, absolutely. As long as you put yourself out there and are meeting people.

Second question, that will limit your options a lot, as a lot of girls use social media. You may just want to settle for someone who doesn't overdo it.

exitseven · Answer

You won't be wasting your time sifting through the hundreds of phony profiles that are on social media and you will meet other people that can also tell the difference.

saturnianqueen · Answer

Of course. I don’t like social media that much either. I’m serious, I barely have anything. I prefer face to face and maybe some texting here and there. that’s it!

coconut94 · Answer

I don’t mind dating a guy who doesn’t use it but why would it matter to you if she does? (As long as it doesn’t interfere with your personal life together)

designer1 · Answer

It’s possible but getting increasingly less likely. We live in a world where like 90% of people use social media. Good luck tho!

slatyb · Answer

Very unlikely, as almost everyone is on social media. The people that aren’t are hard to meet. Where do you imagine meeting such a woman?

rabbitzzz · Answer

Yes, but limited. A semi famous friend of mine showed me his inbox filled with 500+ girls. He doesn't reply or do anything though. He has a beautiful wife and kid.

ItsMeElliana · Answer

Yes of course lmao. just go out. be yourself. workout etc. focus on yourself

DizzyDesii · Answer

Absolutely. I dont use it and have come across great guys

Andres77 · Answer

How did humanity survive for millennia without the internet?  It's a miracle!

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Dude it's 2022. Nearly every person uses social media unless they are very old. Get real.

msc545 · Answer

Anything is possible. Try going to the supermarket a lot and see if that helps.

888theGreat · Answer

depends on what computer says , or fortune tellers, or Vogue Magazine.

Anonymous · Answer

There is no “right” girl and certainly not on social media.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yup, But it will take longer.

sheikalana · Answer

That's very possible.

Aphrodite801 · Answer

You sound like a bitter lame.

Waldoe · Answer

ask someone that isn't online...

Hangry06 · Answer

Not possible

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