Should I reconnect with a guy I dated briefly? just friendly terms?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been debating this for a while. We dated briefly two months before the pandemic started and then we lost touch after I got sick with cancer 6 months after. This was September 2020 by then.

I haven’t spoken to him in over a year and I know I shouldn’t reach out because he was a bit of a bad guy, but he does come into my mind from time to time. I happened to walk past his building today (I assume he’s moved by now) and it made me think of him and wondered how he’s doing even on just friendly terms. We never officially broke up or talked about it, it simply just fizzled out because of pandemic and me getting sick and focusing on my cancer. I know there isn’t any spark left because of the time apart and he’s moved on and likely dating someone else. I’m ok health wise for now, and taking it day by day. There’s no expectations of getting back together or anything. There’s a part of me which thinks even though we haven’t been in touch for over a year now, maybe try and be friends with him instead?

Would a guy want to hear from a person you briefly dated? Or should I just sit on my hands and resist?

[OlderAndWiser]

Are you being hoonest with yourself about your intentions? "He was a bit of a bad guy" but you want to "maybe try and be friends with him." Why do you want to be friends with a bad guy? Are you sure there is no element of sexual desire involved in this contemplation?