My pre-boyfriend couldnt reach me?

[Anonymous]

I called a guy i dated very briefly with help with my home. He came right away and helped me. We decided to start over and take things more seriously. Soon after. My phone was disconnected for nonpayment. I had yo wait 3 days until i was paid to pay the bill. Once i did, i reached out to let him know my phone was off and its on now incase he'd tried to reach out. He hasn't responded in 2 days. To give context he's well off and im a single mom of 2 kids. I work in finance but dont have nearly as much as he does. Am i wrong for waiting until i was paid to pay my bill or should have done everything in my power to make sure i found a way to keep in contact with him? Weve only reconnected a few weeks ago and i didn't feel like i owed that to him and it wasn't that serious. He obviously feels like it was serious. We had plans to keep fixing my house but nothing was set in stone so i didn't think the 3 days was a big deal. Who's wrong here because im ready to throw in the towel because this seems so dramatic and stupid to me.

[lightbulb27]

There's a lot of history here that may be relevant and peeling the onion of it is subject to a lot of error.

I'd simply leave it as... you were responsible in paying your bill when you were able, but he's right you should have made effort communicate with him about the issue. usually people can use phone or computer, or the kids have a computer... or something can work... borrow a friends phone.

given it was messed up before, maybe there's other influences as to why you didn't call. This is really just a matter of communicating and in our modern messed up lives with phones attached, has to be worked out to satisfy both.

sounds like a lot of extra stress and takes committed work to fix, but if do the work, who knows... maybe get through it.

[Asker]

Thank u for your response! And true, except my kids phone is on the same plan and his was off too :( also i dont have a car so no way to get to a friend or family members phone. Also we just got in contact a few weeks ago so i didn't think a few days would be such a big deal. Guess i was wrong. I never texted him again and he never reponded. Its been almost 3 days, so ill just leave it alone. Thank u again!

[lightbulb27]

communicating in advance that your phone wouldn't be working could have also helped avoid the issue. Communication takes constant effort.
had one on the hook, but it's not easy...
hope you get to a better place in life...

[SnowedIn]

What on earth is a "pre-boyfriend"? Let me guess: you use the term "sleepover" if you stay and have sex with a boyfriend and probably also "situationship"?

[Asker]

Lol as in almost entering thatbstage but nothing is validated. I thought the same thing but didn't know orncare to try to come up with the correct term. We are more than friends but not officially dating. I just contacted him again after a few years ago - a few weeks ago

[SnowedIn]

I'd give it a few more days. See if he responds.

[midnightmoon05]

What are you offering this person some other women can’t give him?

[Asker]

Value is relative. 1 mans trash is another mans treasure. I just think he's a narcissistic spoiled brat and gets upset over small things. Maybe thats why he doesn't have a family?

[midnightmoon05]

Yikes!!
So why should any man want to settle for you when they have better options? I am confused.
I was a single mom. Remarried now…but I have so much more to give than say a single woman.
Read your other responses…smh…hope you get yourself together to raise your kids properly. Hope you have some family support. I sad to read what happened to you.

[strateguy632]

not respond might be busy. try phoning to talk. if not answer in evening try after ten minutes and if not text 'when can i call' he might answer

[Asker]

Okay, thank you! I will try to phone now

[Billlewis]

I don't think he should hold it against you.

[Anonymous]

Stop wasting your time on this guy.