Ever looked back on a failed relationship and wondered what might have happened if you had tried harder? (Page 2)

[OrallyFixated]

I have only had one real relationship.
We met just before I turned 17, and we are still together today.

[OlderAndWiser]

Wow! Congratulations!

[Anonymous]

my relationships have been a joke I had good intentions which doesn't amount to much well at least I got my rocks off now I know that doesn't make me feel any better I mean it comes down to that picture 5 years Tri five months except my last relationship

[Wester1967]

I used to. Now I don't. What a waste of time.
Now I always wonder what would have happened if they had tried harder.

[OlderAndWiser]

How's that workin' out for you?

[Aerissa_Jade]

Yes I have some relationships like that, I should of tried harder. I have more though that I think I tried too hard, that much effort should not be so one sided.

[Koneko911]

I've only really been in 3... one passed away... the other was a dick who just wanted sex. And then Mitchell with whom you know about. So I've never really thought about what would have happened with the other two as I'm just happy currently

[Interstate]

In two of the three relationships I had, I was the grownup. The one cheated left and right behind my back, and the other was childish, lazy and just downright irresponsible.

[RobT312]

Yeah there are 2...
one of them we both didn’t try hard enough or make the effort, and the other one was a cheating incident.
its the past though, and have moved on...

[Blonde401]

Honestly all of my adult relationships failed because I wasn’t enough. I wasn’t the one for any of them and no amount of extra effort on my part would have saved it.

[petitedollbabee]

My only failed relationships have failed because the other person cheated on me. If they’d tried harder to keep the relationship faithful, then we would’ve had no major problems.

[JustinTheGreat]

There was a couple relationships that definitely failed because of me and I could of saved them if I really want to. I used to regret not trying but I’m married now so they’re not relationships I care about anymore

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I've always looked back to see where we failed but in a long run it was worth it when we broke up cause too much depression and I'm comfortable with things the way they are

[Phoenix98]

I try not to do because looking back most of them weren’t exactly good relationships. But I still have regrets from them.

Something I don’t plan on repeating in the future

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for me I never look back I always look forward & as for my past relationships I don’t look at them as failed relationships.

[AviatorTom]

When a relationship ends, I don't look back. It matters not why it ended, it's over, time to move on.

[FunkyMonkee]

No, only if SHE would've tried harder! In all three cases, SHE was the one that cheated and/or left for someone else!

[TacosRAwesome]

I look back and wonder what would have happened if I ghosted the shit out of them at the first sign of red flags.

[DiegoO]

It wouldn't have make any difference. When we formally ended I thought I still had more to offer. Truth is: I didn't; neither do she. For better or worst it was a dead end.

[Anonymous]

I don't see my relationships as failures because when looking back on them I realise it was never going to work out anyway (unless one or both changed a lot). So I don't wonder what could have been.
Though when I was in them I fought a lot to make it work, I also made mistakes but I truly felt like I made a much bigger effort and more compromises than my partners. I always had to give up because I did not want to live with phycological pain by losing myself in it.

[Citizenkirk]

I had a relationship that failed for a reason I understand and one I don't.

[Ninania]

No. I know exactly why they failed and wouldn't want to save any relationship where we just weren't compatible.