He wants to do AS HE pleases. How should I move forward?

[LibraGal98]

So I met this guy on a dating app and we started talking and things were off to a great start. Spent time together three times (2 club, one night in) and we are both feeling each other. Well, out of the blue he starts becoming distant and when I finally confront him on this he says he hasn’t been in the talking mood and that he has become distant to all people in his life. He ended his explanation off with saying “ you can’t be upset if I choose to be distant. I don’t owe anyone time and no one owes me time either”

I told him I felt hurt because of the distance. We haven’t really talked since. I do still care for him, but my girls are saying to drop him because he’s being selfish.

Thoughts or guidance from anyone on how to move forward would be amazing.

[The1honestguy]

As a man who is very honest with myself first, with you and know what I would have said that you are know before you or I have wasted any time. I would have said that I would go out and have a great time and I don't like to be or do whatever it is. I am the only one who knows that as well you tell him exactly how you are wanting to spend your time to have the same. You are not going to waste time on that one that you can take that time and be with someone else to do as they desire. It's the only thing both have to give each other and after that moment you can decide what to do with them. If you are not going to want to just say that it was not what you are looking for and split ways. But it will be your problem if you do anything that you didn't know before you go ahead with whatever you two decide. I have to say that I am not going to have my time wasted I can do that I put towards something else. I'm will turn and walk away and would have never said another word. The way you are 💯 with yourself and others, will know exactly when someone is not giving you the same thing ( friend, partner, everyone) is not worth another sec to say anything. It's hard to know what you are hearing or seeing is the truth as someone lead you to believe. What is very clear and easy to see if they are not, then you get away from anyone toxic to be around you. You deserve it and deserve to give and I had to relocate and I walked away from a lot of things I hsd and I am sure I did. You have to realize your own worth and then add taxes to be the one that knows what makes you happy and isn't a request to be a demand to have in return. Only then you can be relieved of the bullshit you have been carrying around everywhere and never touch it again. You have no idea how much better you are going through life from that very second. Even though I don't want you to think that it's easy to start with the first one, but it's easy once you start.

[DonkeyDan]

Sounds like you'd be better off without a drama queen like that in your life, if he was interested he wouldn't be doing it. Although chances are he's acting distance to try and get you to run after him. Stop it, don't run after him, run away from him and just move on.

[SpaceWalkerJ]

I personally feel if a guy would you treat you like with no relationship ties, imagine if you guys were in a relationship; it would probably be worse Lol He could have at least communicated that with you beforehand instead of becoming distant out of nowhere and have you wondering whats going on. But he is right though , he does not owe you anything, but he can at least have common decency. Its not like you did anything wrong to him. So my advice is, you can either walk away from this guy, or be there for him because maybe he is going through something mentally. And his way of dealing with it is by pushing people out of his life. Sometimes you never know what someone is going through. Maybe you could ask him.

[LibraGal98]

So true. I tried asking him what’s up and there is something mentally going on but he should learn how to communicate better about that.

[BirdieBeep]

This could mean anything. Playing hard to get, going through hardships in life, got bored of you, found someone better. Honestly it could mean anything...

But you know what?

Run and never look back. Because people don't change. You only spent a bit of time with him. You care, but you can still get over it with minimal damage. You're lucky he showed these colors early on. Imagine if you got together, you fell in love, grown to care about him more than anything, started planning your future together, etc... And then he pulled this shit. Because that's exactly what will happen if you stick around. Run and don't even hesitate.

[LibraGal98]

Appreciate the advice thank you! I dropped him and dating for the time being. Thank you

[Siren777]

Guidance ; if a guy becomes distant. He is no longer interested in you (since it was a dating phase). Next time don't explain how hurt you are as he already doesn't care. These types of men, don't give a shit. Never give them any explanation just move on. If he starts giving you excuses then time to move on. When you move on he will come back just wait and watch. By then you could be happy with someone else.

[mikaelis]

Take a break from focusing on him and focus on yourself. If he wants to be distant when you want something warmer and deeper. Move on and find the next one and hope that they are the one

[Gwenhwyfar]

You had sex with him didn’t you? Or at least blew him.

[Wester1967]

Leave. Women are always attracted to emotionally unavailable dudes. Get over it. Find a real dude who is not a Chad or a Chad wannabe

[bowenw]

He could be a player and is working on another victim.

[MickHardin]

If this kind of thing gets you off, I mean, you picked him.

[TheFlak38]

Now you know what men go through when you women start with all your passive-aggressive bullcrap.

[SnakeBoop]

he's immature. go elsewhere

[Anonymous]

Let me guess, you had sex with him and he’s not interested anymore?

[Misfit138]

He's horny af n when men get quite and distant usually need to relax some. Js

[Agape93]

I suggest cutting him loose. Sounds toxic

[hafinjun]

I agree with the girls