Should I just start lying to guys to avoid being judged? (Page 2)

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I am so sick and tired of having to explain to every guy that I have not been in a relationship with anyone yet and then the follow up questions that come along with it. They are always trying to figure out if I am a virgin, if I’ve ever kissed a guy, if I’ve ever been in any type of romantic relationship and the answer is always no.  They are always very shocked and tell me that it is very hard to believe because I am way too attractive for me to be this age and have not been with anyone yet.  So should I just start lying and pretending like I’ve dated multiple guys before because it’s so annoying getting the type of responses that I get. I’m just So over it because I get judged and some guys end up blocking me because I’m a virgin and I just don’t think it’s fair to treat me any less than just because I chose not to be with anyone yet.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Don't do that. Stay true to what actually has happened in your dating life, because all you are doing here is filtering out the weird guys that are just going to make it miserable for you. Lying also becomes a slippery slope. Stay true and be patient.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Sounds like you're messing with dudes that just want to fuck TBH. And TBH further that holding out on the pussy stuff is probably really annoying to them as well. You got to learn to shop correctly for dudes that have the same moral principles as you. Otherwise, you keep running into a date with dudes that just want some fucking. Which is not that uncommon of a problem for chicks nowadays.

Anonymous · Answer

This is more common problem for men. Maybe the guys who didn't want are just wanting sleep around but no relationship or maybe they don't like how you look and use excuse. Woman is more attractive the less men she slept with and men are more attractive more women he sleeps with. A virgin woman will always have more options than sluts because virgins are wanted by men who want real life relationship marriage material but sluts are only wanted by online dating to pump and dump

I like relationships and not dirty hookups so if you were honest you would be perfect for most of us. If you said you slept around then I won't think you like relationships and only sleep around so deal breaker for me. Liars are more unattractive than virgins and sluts combined so don't be a liar unless you want them to think you are a cheater spreading aids

Phoenix98 · Answer

Put the shoe on the other foot how would you feel if guys started lying to you to avoid your judgement?

also if you lie your gonna be judged for being a liar the moment your found out.

and if you should start dating or a relationship with lies. Something started and based on lies will never succeed or go anywhere.

kitty71 · Answer

You are not alone lady Im 50 and I went through the same thing with a guy I used to like and was attracted but he was no virgin and he was in relationships before and also even some male friends that Im not in a relationship with ask me the saem question. With the guy I liked I had to lie twice so I wotn be judge or the guy wotn loose interested in me for being with a lady who had not background experinece of lets say having a boyfriend or know about relationships

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Why would you lie just to get guys you hate to like you?

Just date a guy who wants a virgin, they are 3 times as common as the commitment phobic man-whores (only they will never hit on you, because you're pretty, so you must already be taken)

You're gonna have to be the driver on this one.

Gigi2019 · Answer

If you choose not to be intimate with guys, why are you having these sexual conversations with guys? I'm confused. There is nothing wrong (and everything right) with being a virgin in 2022. Most people become STD Museums by the time they hit 30.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

yea its the same with me, only that we guys get judged on way more harsh. If a girl hasn't had a boyfriend at 25 she is just shy, more conservative, lets say its social acceptable. While if you have a guy age 25 and never had a girlfriend, its "eww red flag, maybe he is a creep or psycho lets avoid him",

Anonymous · Answer

It sounds to me like you might just need a break from dating period for now? But no don't lie. Would you want a guy lying to you about anything? Personally I'd figure out a way for it not to bother me so much if it were me. Annoying? Sure, but figure out how to let it not get to you. Or like I say, maybe you just need to be single for a while and take a break from dating?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Tell them you’re a total slut, you’re not interested unless it’s 10-12 inches and black. You have a tattoo on your has called queen of spades, and you don’t remember the last guy you fucked because you were hogtied. They’ll shut up and won’t judge you at all.

nawtee_me · Answer

Hey, I am proud of you for being who you are and not what others think you should be. It takes courage to stick to your guns with people you meet. It takes even more courage to stick to them with friends and people you have known for what seems like ever.

Flower7 · Answer

If you’re meeting these guys on dating sites, maybe you should just put that information on your profile so they can read about it ahead of time. Then you wouldn’t have to get into the back and forth conversation that you’ve had so many times.

KarinMcDonald · Answer

Just practice saying this phrase. "it's none of your business" "it's none of your business" You can divulge your personal information to whom ever you want, or not. You have freewill. Don't try to make it work with somebody that doesn't matter.

dustybiker · Answer

Then you are creating your own trap. You’ll find the perfect man, but have already started lying. Trust will be broken. What you could have had won’t happen. Never shoot yourself in the foot. Be genuine.

weysally · Answer

never lie about anything like that, it could back and bite you in the ass, if I was in your position I would at first ask why they don't believe what I tell them, and if its a kind of shrug of their shoulder type of response I would say good bye,

Platy · Answer

No don't. Just tell them none of your concern. If they are getting all frank with you than tell them that it is annoying you. That you would like some space.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Nah don't lie, that makes you something you aren't... Nope, just print out your question and make several copies of it.. Then when they ask all those tedious questions? hand them a copy to read!

Anonymous · Answer

No, women aren't judged negatively for virginity. If anything, it's a positive. Men are harshly judged for inexperience. You shouldn't make up the fact that you're not a slut. Wear it as a source of pride.

Citizenkirk · Answer

I think you are overthinking it a bit. Try talking to different guys from different walks if life and see if you can get a different response to your situation.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

Why tf is a guy asking how many guys you kissed or why are the virgin shaming you? Redflag. I can understand when a guy asks your bodycount but further is unnecassary and rude.

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