great detail demonstrating mis communication between knucklehead male and highly emotional female. She is testing you and you are failing, but she doesn't want to give up. You are logical in responses and she is very emotional. Some Girls get upset like that... and that is her personality... strong emotional swings in an instant. You don't understand her, are extremes emotionally and appear different in values. Let me simplify her... she wants to make babies and above all is trying to feel secure = loved... meaning, she has control of you! You will have to learn about "emotional security"... if you don't understand it yet... and learn about how she communicates to respond better.
You, should you choose, will have to breakup as I doubt she breaks up with you. If you stay with her, you have some work to do on yourself and will require learning and evolving emotionally... because she isn't going to change. You are dealing with a hormonally variable highly emotional being that is fully developed whose quest is to produce offspring..2-4 of them. You so far are not providing her emotional security so you are getting crap from her. Girls are amplifiers for what they get. She expects you to support her through it all... emotionally, physically, financially. You know how tough it's gonna get when the first baby shows up, right? You are at stage 1 and it's baffling you. Fella, you are out of your league, but if you recognize you are in the big league now... maybe you got a chance. Else hit the eject button and learn from this.
She is right when she said you are "stupid"... you didn't understand what she is trying to get from you. You don't understand what she is trying to get... answer is "security" so she can make babies. She's testing you... coming up with tests to see if you love her and will do whatever it takes to care for her. But, she was mean in how she said it! She's very emotional and I have to question how long you could handle that emotion or if she could learn to respect you. I can't read how you feel when she rips into you... you hide that. I suspect you'll be slowly ground to sawdust overtime by her unless you can evolve to a new level and there is actually some foundation to build upon.
There's ways to make anything work, all a question of what you want, but it is on you to evolve and change.
Every relationship is a learning experience about yourself and others, across the board. You either learn or repeat. Thus, no matter what, you need to learn. You were attracted to her... not others. If you bail from her, figure out why you were attracted, evolve that, so you can be attracted or value someone less extremely different than you.
I wish you well...
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Seems she’s been taken over by whatever it is that’s turning women into leftists. She doesn’t respect parents/family. She’s being controlling and demanding. She seems to care not at all for you or your opinions. It’s only about what she wants or else “no marriage, no kids unless your family pays for everything.” I say don’t give her anymore chances. Unless you are dumbly lovestruck like I was before moving into a college dorm 3 hours away for my at the time girlfriend who just cheated on me a week or so after my classes started... my parents kept telling me it was a bad idea but I was able to convince my dad to let me go and I went against my parents wishes and applied to that college anyway because I was lovestruck. Never again will I do anything for a woman like that
Don't ask the same shit. You also moved on quick to get a fiance when 4 months ago you were crushing on some random lass.
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"She promised me she will change. I thought she truly changed and we had a peaceful 4 months"
It's a trap! My man, you gotta get the fuck out of this nightmare scenario before she eeks a kid out of you to trap you in a life of indentured servitude. This woman is a toxic narcissistic manipulative sociopath who will drain your lifeblood like a fucking parasitic leech, of you give her even a sliver of a chance. GET. THE. FUCK. OUT. NOW. Consider this your first and last warning, she WILL destroy your life in ways you can't imagine of you go down this road.To be perfectly honest I have already given you my opinion.
Leave. She’s fucked up and you aren’t equipped to set her straight.
I think that you should not rush into anything.
Damn stop being a simp and move on
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