He is over-controlling, way beyond what a reasonable man would do. If you can put up with that, stay with him. If not (it's your decision), there are plenty of fish in the sea.
It depends. Does your boyfriend reply within 5 minutes. Does he have social media? You already have kid with him? It complicates matters. You can leave and be a single mother. I am sure that dude will find someone else to subjugate.
That is super concerning. You know what happens to woman that are in that situation and end up following through, one wrong slip up and those men will cook you (shoot, stab or whatever) and then themselves. I see it way more often with those types of men. So yeah, I’d run as far as I can having a kid with him makes it tricky. Very tricky. But for yourself you need to get out.
I think if you’ve got a kid you need to put a little more effort into making it work. I can’t tell you what your boyfriend is like though because only you know the dynamic of your relationship.
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This is often the first signs of jealousy and abuse. This could get worse and worse as time goes on (often does). Also, really think about that, as time goes on, do you really want him to "control" your life? If you have any negative feelings about that right now, that feeling is only going to GROW and grow and grow! Love isn't always enough.
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Reading the both cheating comment and blaming you, another "flag". And these are pretty serious and HUGE red flags! These aren't little things.
Very 'Sad' situation, he will never be satisfied, there will always be something that you NEED to change.. Soon he will start hitting you... I suggest you demand that he seeks counseling, offer to go with him otherwise things will only escalate. if the Counselor says "hey, girl... relax, you are overreacting" then you know that you need to work on yourself... I doubt that is the case... it is almost NEVER the case, if he will not go... RUN
Those are his standards for taking the relationship seriously. Why would I take a woman seriously if she would rather post on social media than talk to me about it. I'd be insecure too, she's for everybody
You don't love him the sub in you does. You have to like being controlled or you wouldn't submit to it. Your just not into him as much as you use to be that's why it's becoming a problem now be honest deep down you want to move on right
I would say leave him. Because you are right, he is very insecure. Though I can understand why he would feel that way, just look at your profile pic and your username.
The first sentence was enough to tell you to leave him. The rest is even worse. Please run away while you still can. That’s not love it’s control and abuse
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He is over-controlling, way beyond what a reasonable man would do. If you can put up with that, stay with him. If not (it's your decision), there are plenty of fish in the sea.
It depends. Does your boyfriend reply within 5 minutes. Does he have social media? You already have kid with him? It complicates matters. You can leave and be a single mother. I am sure that dude will find someone else to subjugate.
That is super concerning. You know what happens to woman that are in that situation and end up following through, one wrong slip up and those men will cook you (shoot, stab or whatever) and then themselves. I see it way more often with those types of men. So yeah, I’d run as far as I can having a kid with him makes it tricky. Very tricky. But for yourself you need to get out.
I think if you’ve got a kid you need to put a little more effort into making it work. I can’t tell you what your boyfriend is like though because only you know the dynamic of your relationship.
This is often the first signs of jealousy and abuse. This could get worse and worse as time goes on (often does). Also, really think about that, as time goes on, do you really want him to "control" your life? If you have any negative feelings about that right now, that feeling is only going to GROW and grow and grow! Love isn't always enough.
Reading the both cheating comment and blaming you, another "flag". And these are pretty serious and HUGE red flags! These aren't little things.
He should respect your boundaries. That is a huge red flag and you should leave him if he doesn't change.
Very 'Sad' situation, he will never be satisfied, there will always be something that you NEED to change.. Soon he will start hitting you... I suggest you demand that he seeks counseling, offer to go with him otherwise things will only escalate. if the Counselor says "hey, girl... relax, you are overreacting" then you know that you need to work on yourself... I doubt that is the case... it is almost NEVER the case, if he will not go... RUN
That’s horrible, if you didn’t have a child, I’d tell you to throw him in the trash can. Unfortunately, the child complicates things.
Those are his standards for taking the relationship seriously. Why would I take a woman seriously if she would rather post on social media than talk to me about it. I'd be insecure too, she's for everybody
It's your life and your choice, but come on!!! You're smart enough to already know the answer to that!
Leave him. These behaviors don't get better with time only worse.
You don't love him the sub in you does. You have to like being controlled or you wouldn't submit to it. Your just not into him as much as you use to be that's why it's becoming a problem now be honest deep down you want to move on right
I would say leave him. Because you are right, he is very insecure.
Though I can understand why he would feel that way, just look at your profile pic and your username.
He is immature. do you want your kid to think it is okay to treat people like that?
That’s too controlling. I could never respond within 5 minutes.
The first sentence was enough to tell you to leave him. The rest is even worse. Please run away while you still can. That’s not love it’s control and abuse
sounds like things will only get worse for you if you dont leave
I would not be able to live with someone pressuring me and trying to control me.
Very true
U already have kid with him, u already fuked up daamm. I hope this is just a prank
Controlling get the hell out of it those red flags are waving big time